Dont know what to do anymore

[Ravenous1]

I dont know what to do anymore, my best friend bree is falling apart im trying my best to help her but im not sure how because she lives in nortth carolina and i live in nevada im afraid that she would try to kill herself and i cant stop her. Im also fallling apart. Im getting close to having a mental break and flipping out soon, im stressed from trying to help bree. My friend karla is still mad at me after i told her everything, i recently found out karla schizophrenic like me, i just feel so lost and stressed. If i do flip out id probablely destroy my room or something which wont be good. I just need help on what to do about everything.

[Ravenous1]

I'm not sure why no ones answered, is it what I'm asking or just no one knows how to help me or what? Cuz I could really use some advice.

[RCT109]

well sorry for it being late but here is one thing you can do

get a few of her friends to keep an eye on her so that you can relieve the stress

also if there is like a teacher who you really trust, like i have my japanese teacher, go talk to them durring your lunch just so you have someone to confide things in

hope it helped

[StoppingTime]

I dont know what to do anymore, my best friend bree is falling apart im trying my best to help her but im not sure how because she lives in nortth carolina and i live in nevada im afraid that she would try to kill herself and i cant stop her. Im also fallling apart. Im getting close to having a mental break and flipping out soon, im stressed from trying to help bree. My friend karla is still mad at me after i told her everything, i recently found out karla schizophrenic like me, i just feel so lost and stressed. If i do flip out id probablely destroy my room or something which wont be good. I just need help on what to do about everything.

Thanks to Z (Amaryllis) for originally bringing up the following point.

When you go on a plane, and they go through the safety instructions, they tell you what to do in case of oxygen loss.
"Strap the breathing device around your head and secure it tightly. Always remember to secure yours before helping others".

That last part is what's going on here.
You shouldn't stress yourself out so much by helping someone else, and in doing so, putting your own life in danger. I don't want to say to never speak with her again, because that would just be selfish.

Just take everything in small steps. Try helping yourself for a little while first, and then moving on to your friends.
Of course, still talk to her when you feel necessary, but if you are feeling overly-stressed, then just take a break for a little while.
It would make her feel terribly guilty if she knew this, so I wouldn't advise telling her.

You can do it, and you'll get through this. Just don't rush things, and if the pain is too much, focus on yourself first.

Hope this helps you. :)


Steven/StoppingTime

[Ravenous1]

I can't talk to Bree cuz she just got her phone taken away so we won't be talking for 3 months and I get worried very easily. My worrying doesn't help my condition it can make it worse which doesn't help me at all. I will take a break and focus on myself for awhile. Thanks even tho the replys are late I don't mind I'm just happy someone replied.

[RCT109]

im sorry Im rarely in this part of the forums

[StoppingTime]

I can't talk to Bree cuz she just got her phone taken away so we won't be talking for 3 months and I get worried very easily. My worrying doesn't help my condition it can make it worse which doesn't help me at all. I will take a break and focus on myself for awhile. Thanks even tho the replys are late I don't mind I'm just happy someone replied.

Just talk to them when you feel you're up to it. They know what you're going through as well, and are probably just as worried.

[Ravenous1]

I talked to Karla and we are not friends anymore idky she just up and said we're not friends anymore so atm I have no one to talk to and I have no reason to live and no reason to keep fighting to stay in reality I might as well just slip into my own horrid world to stay for awhile...

[StoppingTime]

I talked to Karla and we are not friends anymore idky she just up and said we're not friends anymore so atm I have no one to talk to and I have no reason to live and no reason to keep fighting to stay in reality I might as well just slip into my own horrid world to stay for awhile...

It's not that you did anything wrong. Considering her condition, she must be pretty upset about everything as well. She isn't necessarily mad at you; she just needs to find a way to take the pain off herself. By making you feel bad, she then can feel a little better about herself. It's not a good way to cope, but it can help her. Eventually, I think she'll realize what happened.
Is there a way you could talk to a counselor at school or similar?

[Ravenous1]

No I don't trust anyone at school

And I just found out that I'm the reason Karla tried to kill herself last night and I want to cry but my messed mind won't let me I'm too messed up to do anything

[Desuetude]

No I don't trust anyone at school

And I just found out that I'm the reason Karla tried to kill herself last night and I want to cry but my messed mind won't let me I'm too messed up to do anything

You need to talk to her. Let her know how much you need her and that you are there to support her as much as she should be there to support you. It sounds as if she needs someone as do you so don't let her slip through your fingers.

[Ravenous1]

That's hard to do if she's in the hospital cuz of me, she won't answer her phone

[StoppingTime]

It isn't your fault. You didn't "make" her do anything, and blaming yourself for someone else's mistakes will only hurt you more.

[Ravenous1]

I don't know what to do, I just feel lost