Coming to terms with being gay..?

[alex4nder]

What'd be the best way to achieve that?

It's a recent realisation.. or well, not that recent, just long buried.

I find guys attractive.. as in if i see a good looking boy my around my age somewhere, i then turn to look at him/start to wonder what he's like.

I've never considered having sex with a girl.. the mere idea just seems so out of place and off-putting that it'd be foolish to even try as i doubt i could even get a hard on.

Part of me wonders what it would be like, having sex with another guy (yeah, still a virgin.. lolzy i know. :yawn:) but another part finds that idea, like the one having sex with some girl, abhorrent.

Mind you, when i masturbate, i do think about guys.. even fantasize having sex with them, especially when i'm horny.. after i come however, all that goes away and i'm kinda left with the abhorrent feeling again, which is extremely confusing to me.

So in an effort to sort out some of my issues, help me out here folks.. am i gay, wish i was gay or something entirely else? :what:

[spfreak]

Well if you are only turned on by guys and you jerk off to guys, then you're probably gay. But there is nothing wrong with being gay. It took me years to accept, but I'm happy I did because my life is awesome now! I have a great boyfriend and I've never been happier.

You might feel it to be abhorrent because society tells you that being gay is not ok and it can shove it down your throat. But there is nothing wrong with bbeing gay. Being gay is awesome, seriously! :)

Ihope you can figure everything out, best of luck!

[Stronger]

You should check this out: http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=125182, that should help you explain somethings, but IMO you don't seem gay, maybe bi, but how do you feel Emotionally & Phsyically towards boy/girls?

[alex4nder]

I know there's nothing wrong with being gay, hell.. i think my brother might actually be one.

And i'm probably conflicted cos i've been bottling stuff up for so long, i don't know.. which is why i'm seeking clarity here, so i wouldn't feel some damned confused about things and could finally move forward and not second guess myself and my feelings all the time.

You should check this out: http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=125182, that should help you explain somethings, but IMO you don't seem gay, maybe bi, but how do you feel Emotionally & Phsyically towards boy/girls?

Thanks, i'll check it out.

I have.. well, had female friend or two and never been attracted to a girl... had a heavy crush on my best friend, once upon a time as i posted elsewhere.

If i had to choose a gender to be with, i would always choose a boy over a girl since they do nothing for me (with the rare exception of an older celebrity woman :whoops:) but in the aftermath of.. winding down after doing stuff if you will, the idea of doing things with a guy.. :eek:

[Stronger]

I know there's nothing wrong with being gay, hell.. i think my brother might actually be one.

And i'm probably conflicted cos i've been bottling stuff up for so long, i don't know.. which is why i'm seeking clarity here, so i wouldn't feel some damned confused about things and could finally move forward and not second guess myself and my feelings all the time.



Thanks, i'll check it out.

I have.. well, had female friend or two and never been attracted to a girl... had a heavy crush on my best friend, once upon a time as i posted elsewhere.

If i had to choose a gender to be with, i would always choose a boy over a girl since they do nothing for me (with the rare exception of an older celebrity woman :whoops:) but in the aftermath of.. winding down after doing stuff if you will, the idea of doing things with a guy.. :eek:

Nothing wrong with being Gay/Bi :), funny how you said that, because I held my feelings in for so long, it was killing me, till I posted here, I still don't know what I am, but I know I do like guys. Seems like you are bi, if anything. Not fully gay.

[alex4nder]

Nothing wrong with being Gay/Bi :), funny how you said that, because I held my feelings in for so long, it was killing me, till I posted here, I still don't know what I am, but I know I do like guys. Seems like you are bi, if anything. Not fully gay.

Indeed, nothing wrong with it.. i just wish i could say for certain which way i was leaning, so to speak.

As same as you, i like guys.. or i think i do anyways, to the point i'd be willing to do anything with them pretty much.

Until the point when i came, at which point, without a fail, i'd completely and totally lose interest.. which confuses the crap out of me. :what:

[Sterling26]

Indeed, nothing wrong with it.. i just wish i could say for certain which way i was leaning, so to speak.

As same as you, i like guys.. or i think i do anyways, to the point i'd be willing to do anything with them pretty much.

Until the point when i came, at which point, without a fail, i'd completely and totally lose interest.. which confuses the crap out of me. :what:

Almost everyone loses a lot of interest after they come, it's pretty normal, some of the thought I have while I'm horny seem insane afterwards, but they're still your thoughts. Whenever you accept it is totally fine, but I for one believe without any doubt that you are gay. Which is totally awesome btw, guys are hotter anyway.

[Tyryham]

I think ur bi its ok I'm @l$0

[Abyssal Echo]

even after I was out I had some innerconflict about my self and sexuality till I talked to a guy on here. now I feel alot better about myself :)

[Mirage]

Ahem.
CONGRATULATIONS TO ME! W00T 250 POSTS FTW!!!!
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What is happening is that you don't agree with yourself. You have been taught for most of your life that being gay is socially unacceptable however now you are, so you simply feel out of place. Being gay is a completely okay decision, even if someone says otherwise.

[SilverFox]

I might not be of much help, but your thread really helped me. I am in the exact same situation, and can only relate to how you feel. For me personally, I am beginning to accept the fact that I might be gay, slowly. And as it happens, I see nothing wrong with, it actually only makes sense for me. Most likely as you say, girls do nothing for you. Same situation. So, I think I will follow your thread for a while here:) Best of luck!