Am I overreacting?

[sunchameleon]

Okay, so I've been talking to this guy online...and I don't know if it sounds dumb or anything but I really care about him and I sort of have feelings for him. [don't hate on me :c ]
Anyways, my point is that he recently told me that he smokes but he's trying to quit. I think it's great that he's trying to quit but I'm just really worried that he'll get cancer or something bad. I mean it just bothers me a lot.
But am I just overreacting? Like, is my fear really valid? Or am I just being dumb? ladskjflkj;

[Sordid Saint]

If he's a teenager, you probably have nothing to worry about. Cancer usually takes a very long time to noticeably form and it usually takes a lot of cigarettes to cause cancer, like multiple years worth.

[Skeptical Bear]

You're not overreacting. It gets me mad when people I know in real life don't believe in forming friendships over the internet. We're all human. I think it's a good thing you care about him and your fear is valid. No matter what age, smoking still harms but at different levels depending on the person and age.

[Wooba]

I agree with the above. i don't think you should worry about him getting cancer / anything else caused by smoking, especially if he's a teenager.
Everyone always says they're going to stop, few people actually mean it. If it's a big deal for you, just make sure he's serious. :)

[Stronger]

Your not overreacting, i think its nice that you care alot about him. As for cancer, I dout he would get it, but I don't know how much he smokes but is harming himself as all smoking is bad. If he's that much set on quitting, then give him some motivation to help him quit.

[sunchameleon]

You're not overreacting. It gets me mad when people I know in real life don't believe in forming friendships over the internet. We're all human. I think it's a good thing you care about him and your fear is valid. No matter what age, smoking still harms but at different levels depending on the person and age.

I know, but ladj I like him more than a friend, to be honest.
He's 15.. but he said he's trying to quit. He really doesn't want to do it anymore and he knows it really bothers me.

He said he used to smoke almost a pack and a half a day, but now he's down to a half. I think it's definitely a good improvement.

[Nellerin]

Smoking will cause him to get cancer if your talking about cigs. If he smokes weed its nothing to worry about.

[plebble]

Okay, so I've been talking to this guy online...and I don't know if it sounds dumb or anything but I really care about him and I sort of have feelings for him. [don't hate on me :c ]
Anyways, my point is that he recently told me that he smokes but he's trying to quit. I think it's great that he's trying to quit but I'm just really worried that he'll get cancer or something bad. I mean it just bothers me a lot.
But am I just overreacting? Like, is my fear really valid? Or am I just being dumb? ladskjflkj;

I met my first girlfriend online, before we actually got together she had a cigarette, it was a one off and she didn't tell me until about 4 months later and I still went ballistic, she dumped me last week but I still worry about her :(

[Truth]

I met my first girlfriend online, before we actually got together she had a cigarette, it was a one off and she didn't tell me until about 4 months later and I still went ballistic, she dumped me last week but I still worry about her :( You really "went ballistic" because she smoked 1 cigarette? No wonder she dumped you, good for her. That is ridiculous of you, get ahold of yourself.

[bobynrobyn]

"OP's" have it rite:cool:, if your going to do some of the little things that you roll up in little papers.......do it while your young !!
my mom has often told me that if she new she was going to live so long she would have taken better care of herself !!

bobynrobyn

[Weber_Swagg]

Yeah, you should try to help him quit. If he needs help, give it too him.

[OregonStateDude]

Kaden, I am guessing that you don't smoke at all (good boy!). Anyways, just try and convince this guy that smoking is bad for his lungs, bad for his heart, it's just bad news all around. If he cares about you, then that should give him the motivation to quit.

[TeddyBearRock]

You just care for him, but i dont think there a high chance of him getting it, its ok that you think that just dont make that feeling get you to start screaming at him if he smokes

[Truth]

Kaden, I am guessing that you don't smoke at all (good boy!). Anyways, just try and convince this guy that smoking is bad for his lungs, bad for his heart, it's just bad news all around. If he cares about you, then that should give him the motivation to quit. Let me tell you something.. when a random girl I know tries to push her beliefs and values on me, I tend to cut them out of my life completely. I don't smoke cigarettes, just weed, so I have nothing to worry about like health effects - but it's the same situation.