Need Some Encouragement

[Zach_014]

Ok so im on the very FREAKIN verge of telling my mom that i am gay and well im like REALLY scared and need some encouragement.

sorry if i put this in the wrong forum but i though it was the most appropriate area for the topic.

[Mr. Awesome]

Well congrats that you feel confident enough to tell your mother, im sure everything will be ok, good luck and let us know how it goes

[Jupiter]

yay!

im so glad that you are so brave to do that!

[Zach_014]

thats the thing... i dont feel confident about it but then again when will i so i can suffer now or later.......suffer is hypothetical, my parents wont punish me for being gay i dont think

[Mr. Awesome]

well you said you were about to tell her, so thats more than you have been ready to do so before, which is a positive.

Even better is you believe that they will not have a problem with it at all which is great, best of luck

[Stryker125]

If you feel like you're ready to tell your parents, good on ya. I'm sure everything's gonna be alright though.

[Zach_014]

I dont think i can do it. :'(

[Mr. Awesome]

Thats ok, you dont have to do anything until your ready, hope everything goes great when you do tell her

[Zach_014]

thank you to everyone who posted it may happen soon but.......just........not right now i just keep thinking of the repercussions of it......... probably worst case scenario but still........

[Zach_014]

i may see if i can tell a good friend before anyone else.........also would be a bonus if he was gay/bi too cause i have a MAJOR crush on him

[Stryker125]

That's probably best. That way, you might even get your friend to be there with you when you tell your parents, for support

[prob1996]

Telling ur friend first is probably the best thing to do. Once u have one or two ppl to support u, it's easier to tell other ppl. I understand ur fears in telling ur mom, I haven't told my parents yet either. You will when u feel right.

Good luck!!

[Abyssal Echo]

Well congrats that you feel confident enough to tell your mother, im sure everything will be ok, good luck and let us know how it goes

I agree with Mr. Awsome :D Congratts on comming out

[Levi scott]

My mom was the second person i told about 4 years ago. It felt really nice and reliving to tell her that i was gay. It was sorta hard for her to realize she wouldnt have grand children but hey shes okay with it. Msg me if you ever need to talk im always here to help :)

[CrossingtheCourtyard]

For the most part, my friends and family actually took it (That I am bi), really well. While it didn't feel great when some relatives didn't take it as well, they still accepted me and it feels really good.

If you think you're in a position that people will accept you and not make your life hell, then I say it's fine to come out.

[babolat96]

I agree with people above me. I think that the easiest thing to do would be to tell some friends that are definitely gonna be okay with it. I can't really say much about coming out to parents, because found out inadvertently.

[ZzKingz]

Make her a cupcake and put a note inside :)
I recommend you tell a friend/liberal relative first. You will always have their support.

[smd11451]

I found that telling a parent was way harder than telling a good friend. Mostly because I knew how my friend would react, but my parent was a lot more difficult to read (especially my mom). In the end, the reason I ended up telling her was because I got tired of her asking why I didn't have a girlfriend and having to lie to her/make up an excuse. Its hard, but the nice thing about parents is that *most* want you to be happy over anything else.

[OregonStateDude]

I'm in the same boat. There are times I want to tell my mom so freaking badly that I am gay. And then I wonder if she will think that I am some kind of sissy or something. Which is so not true, 'cuz I play sports and stuff.

[Short Circuit]

You have told this forum, so that was the first step, I think you should tell your mum, once you pluck up the courage to do it, and I reckon, she already has her suspicions but is just waiting for you to confirm it.

Good Luck anyway

[swimmerboy95]

The fact that it is even an option makes you much stronger and braver than I am. Go with what feels right. Good luck with whatever you decide to do and let us know how it goes!
--Alex