Now what do I do?

[josh1817ua]

Today at school I told my best-friend that I was Gay(he is the only one that I have told) and we did not have much time to talk about it. He seemed pretty chill but what should I do when I talk to him tomorrow. What should I say and do? Cause he told me something and I promised him that I would tell him what has been bothering me for past few years. So how and when can I talk to him about this so it is beneficial and not so awkward.

[Antagonist]

I think it will be awkward regardless. Your told your friend you're GAY. That could be a devastating moment in a best friends lives.

[User_Does Not Exist]

It shouldn't be weird as long as you don't have a crush on him or something along the lines of that. Just be yourself and show him that just because your gay doesn't mean that it's not the same you.

[Thanatos]

I agree with Ducky, just make sure he knows that this shouldn't change your relationship at all. I know since I told my best friend I was Bi, he started asking me for advice if he looked hot in something, etc. Kind of funny since he is not my type at all.

[Jabbawocke]

Hark. I agree with all of them< Being gay doesn't change you. Just changes your tastes. Doesnt mean you kiss boys randomly. And besides he is your best friends. Best friends are supposed to understand. If he doesnt, get a new best friend.

[josh1817ua]

No, just explain you are still you and let him know weather or not you have no sexual feeling for him or not so you don't chase him away. I assume you don't if he's Your best friend.

Well I did tell him that I don't have feelings for him, but I live in a community were there are no gays and everyone looks down upon it. So was it the right thing to tell him?

[Thanatos]

I think it was. Your sexuality is a large part of who you are and it's good that you are able to confide in your best friend about that.

[Saxophone 44]

I don't think it's going to be a big problem, from what you have said. If my best friend told me he was gay, I would congradulate him. He is a step further than everybody else: he has his sexuality figured out. He told me that he has tried to commit suicide; I helped him through that. He has a back problem that 15 people IN THE WORLD have; I was his therapy. He has extremely brittle bones (a disease that is slipping my mind) I was his "bodyguard" when he started coming back to school. He was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome. I was by his side. All of this is true (I'm starting to cry as I write this) except for him being gay. And if he told me that, I would be OK with it.

[NephilimAzrael]

if he's ur best friend, he shouldn't care that ur gay, he should just accept u as u r =)

[Tonebone88]

I think it will be awkward regardless. Your told your friend you're GAY. That could be a devastating moment in a best friends lives.

This comment is offensive, unhelpful, and incorrect. Just because you tell a friend you're gay, it doesn't mean that they will freak out about. On the contrary, most kids in our generation are rather accepting of gays. If the person is truly your friend, they will realize that you being gay doesn't mean you like them and accept you for who you are.

I can say from experience that things often turn out better thatn you would think. I have told 5 of my friends that I'm gay and all of them accepted me for it. On top of that, being around them wasn't awkward because they were considerate enough to realize that this is harder for me than them. Most of my friends try to put me at ease by acting like its not a big deal. I've even gone to a lot of them for advice about stuff related to being gay and they're really helpful. I think everything will be fine and eventually, you'll realize its nice to not have to hide that part of yourself from everyone.

[transportphile]

your lucky he didnt knock you out, i personally would if sum1 told me they were gay

[transportphile]

This comment is offensive, unhelpful, and incorrect. Just because you tell a friend you're gay, it doesn't mean that they will freak out about. On the contrary, most kids in our generation are rather accepting of gays. If the person is truly your friend, they will realize that you being gay doesn't mean you like them and accept you for who you are.

I can say from experience that things often turn out better thatn you would think. I have told 5 of my friends that I'm gay and all of them accepted me for it. On top of that, being around them wasn't awkward because they were considerate enough to realize that this is harder for me than them. Most of my friends try to put me at ease by acting like its not a big deal. I've even gone to a lot of them for advice about stuff related to being gay and they're really helpful. I think everything will be fine and eventually, you'll realize its nice to not have to hide that part of yourself from everyone.

how in any way is the guys post offensive, they will freak out being gay is not wrong but not everyone agrees with it like myslef so just keep it to yourself

[bigjohnson]

i see this is a huge topic so im going to stay out of it

[josh1817ua]

I don't think it's going to be a big problem, from what you have said. If my best friend told me he was gay, I would congradulate him. He is a step further than everybody else: he has his sexuality figured out. He told me that he has tried to commit suicide; I helped him through that. He has a back problem that 15 people IN THE WORLD have; I was his therapy. He has extremely brittle bones (a disease that is slipping my mind) I was his "bodyguard" when he started coming back to school. He was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome. I was by his side. All of this is true (I'm starting to cry as I write this) except for him being gay. And if he told me that, I would be OK with it.

I "believe" that he is "ok" with me being gay(not for sure), we have not talk about it a whole bunch. Plus I will not talk to or see him for the next few weeks, months, i don't know how long, because he will be gone. So right now I have been going through much depression and a lot of mixed emotions about being gay and telling him. Who am I going to talk to in person about it, I have no other friends that I trust to tell? Also a teacher today confronted me about being so depressed and was trying to help me. She also told me that I can talk to her or councilor and she will help me in any way and won't look at me any different. I don't know what to do about this whole situation, because I have so may mixed emotions about it all.

[ImCoolBeans]

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[kai99]

He need sometime to understand things. But talk to him as soon as possible

[ExhibitG]

your lucky he didnt knock you out, i personally would if sum1 told me they were gay

do you have a legitimate reason why or are you just ignorant? i'm going to assume it's the latter.

[Desuetude]

your lucky he didnt knock you out, i personally would if sum1 told me they were gay

how in any way is the guys post offensive, they will freak out being gay is not wrong but not everyone agrees with it like myslef so just keep it to yourself

No, from what I have seen on VT and my school people are very open and honestly someone being gay shouldn't change your opinion on them.
Yes everyone should get an opnion about everything I'm just wondering why you don't agree with being gay? I just don't understand why it should have any effect on you whether someone is gay or not i am honestly genuinlly curious why you think that.
Also beating them up? Thats always a good way to resolve someones sexuality because surely thats going to make them straight, won't it? I like how you told him to keep it to himself though you're the hypocrite here. Everyone gets an opinion.

Anyway, sorry a little off topic.
OP. Give your friend a little time to adjust because he may be a little shocked but he knows now, no need to bring it up again if he doesn't first. Things shouldn't be awkward, if you want to tell him that it won't change anything between you then i'm sure he would be appreciative of that.

Also a teacher today confronted me about being so depressed and was trying to help me. She also told me that I can talk to her or councilor and she will help me in any way and won't look at me any different. I don't know what to do about this whole situation, because I have so may mixed emotions about it all.

Take her advice. Talk to someone about it if you want to, it might help clear things up for you and keep your mind at rest about your friend because worrying and upsetting yourself just isn't necessary. Telling someone that isn't bias about the situation and can give you some good advice would be the best idea and talking to people in real life is just another step forward because that's always harder than the internet but also more rewarding.
Good luck :)

[Sudds3]

Just be yourself, thats the person he is best friends with! If you change then he will get wierded out! So be yourself and he will accept you cuz he has been friends with you for a while...then it shouldnt matter that you are gay, also congrats on coming out! I am jealous of your courage, im straight but curious and I would never have enough courage to do something like that, I envy you!