why?

[Jupiter]

why does it seem that everytime things are just getting better, that people seem to think that it's ok to call me a "fag" or a "gay wad" and really mean it?

the sad part is that my drama coach told me that i should act more demanding in our play, and less like my normal feminine self.

and the more i get told all these things, the more i start to believe them.

[Antagonist]

Oh my god. Story of my middle school life!

There's this guy on Facebook who knows how much I hate the word "faggot" so he says it on a daily basis.
So I talked to a friend.
They said I need to grow a pair and stand up for myself.
So I'm doing just that.

Stand up for yourself, but don't get into fights, Kay?

[Electra Heart]

Believe me, you're not the only one having these problems. What's essential is that you DON'T believe them, and don't change yourself to suit their needs. It might suck, it might get better, but no matter what, always be willing to put that foot into the dark. It may work out well for you in the end...

[Jupiter]

but what i always fear is that i might be bisexual or something and then if i do come out, everyone will just be right. i mean, i can't deny what i am.

[ImCoolBeans]

Eric, don't let hurtful or derogative comments get to you, you know that they don't really change who you are and only you can make that final decision. I've been called some names before, and the best way to deal with them is really to just ignore it. Don't take it to heart, don't let them label you, don't let them belittle you. You're a strong willed person and no body can change that.

[Jupiter]

I just sometimes feel like that..

well, they also said that I am big headed. and if that's what people think of me.. everyone says how first impressions mean everything.. i mean, i just dont want people thinking of me like that .

[ImCoolBeans]

Big headed as in your head is actually large or you have an ego? Because if that's the case, and multiple people have mentioned that you have a large ego, they may be seeing something that you are not. The only way to really change that is to watch what you say, I guess.

[User_Does Not Exist]

Don't let it get to you, ignore them they're being immature and looking for something for the slightest bit of entertainment to get them through the day because they have absolutely nothing better to do and they're just assholes anyways. Middle school is such a small part of your life, just slide by and you'll be fine. It get's better. Think about when your an adult and you go through an entire decade of working/family/life in general and you look back to middle school and high school and realize that they were just rough speed bumps and that they're over with now.

[Skeptical Bear]

My gym people are like that. You don't have to be masculine, just because you're a man. It's your body, and it's you. If don't act demanding then that's how you are. Don't let them change the way you are. No matter what the situation is, or who the person is, you shouldn't change for any one. And don't be ashamed if you become Bi because you think they might be right. They're making ignorant accusations on your sexuality on how you play a game and that has nothing to do with your sexuality. You can act "feminine" and still be straight. Don't take in what these people are calling you because if you know who you are and acknowledge what they say is fake, then it shouldn't bother you. I know it's hard to just not take it to heart but if towards the end of the day, it's just a game.

[Thunduhbuhlt]

why does it seem that everytime things are just getting better, that people seem to think that it's ok to call me a "fag" or a "gay wad" and really mean it?

the sad part is that my drama coach told me that i should act more demanding in our play, and less like my normal feminine self.

and the more i get told all these things, the more i start to believe them.

Don't let those horrible people bring you down. if they want to call you gay and feminine, let them.

They don't know you. Don't let them define who you are and especially don't let them hurt you. If this happens, stand up for yourself. I'm not saying fight or anything, but say something to them. You are only hurting yourself if you don't.

Stay well! :)

[Angel Androgynous]

1. Who the fuck cares if you're "feminine?" Why is it that a girl can act like a boy and just be normal, but if a boy acts in the least bit feminine, he is suddenly gay, or demeaned in some way? Is being a girl or girl-like degrading?
2. Fuck them. Fuck them hard, Eric. It's a lot of fucking, but fuck them. It may be hard to turn yourself to stone at these times, but, I know you can do it. At the end of the day, the relevance they will have in your life will be virtually nothing... IF you push them out of your way. Take the meaning out of their words. YOU know what and who you are. If they don't, that's their fucking problem.

[Desuetude]

1. Who the fuck cares if you're "feminine?" Why is it that a girl can act like a boy and just be normal, but if a boy acts in the least bit feminine, he is suddenly gay, or demeaned in some way? Is being a girl or girl-like degrading?
2. Fuck them. Fuck them hard, Eric. It's a lot of fucking, but fuck them. It may be hard to turn yourself to stone at these times, but, I know you can do it. At the end of the day, the relevance they will have in your life will be virtually nothing... IF you push them out of your way. Take the meaning out of their words. YOU know what and who you are. If they don't, that's their fucking problem.
That's pretty good advice. Dont listen to them Eric they're not worth your time or effort and if you could just block them out completely then I'd say go for it but unfortunately everywhere you go there will always be those types of people trying to make you insecure and boost their own ego.
People don't understand the effect words have on others sometimes and thats pretty sad for the bully to be honest. Now a days children use slang words of gay when distributing anything. It's been accepted as bring okay in a way, not that it is but it's being used more and more. It does hurt but the only thing you can do is keep in the front of your mind that it isn't true and they are probably confused about their own sexuality so they feel the need to pick on you. I don't know what drives people to say things like that but don't start believing them. Don't listen to any of the BS coming out of their mouths.

[Stronger]

Eric again, the comments, are nothing, dirty, trash, you are you, and if you feel you don't wanna change then don't, they can fuck off. I was called a "fag" for years but did I let it bother me? Nope, I just simply ignored it. Clearly you are 10x's better then whoever calls you those names and as for your coach, I think he/she just wants you to get more in touch with your part, I don't think she wants you to change outside of drama, you know what I mean?

[Short Circuit]

Fag and gay wad is that all?

Try walking in my shoes for just one day. Add to that:

Stumpy Dick
Baldy Dick
Pubeless wonder
Baldy Balls
Roundhead (reference to me being circumsized)
Gaylord
Jokes about what happened to me when I was younger

Boys at school can be very cruel, and will jump on any weakness they can find. Try not to show them it bothers you, and one day, (maybe when you have left school) the taunts will stop. Until then, just smile at them, it makes them confused!

[CrossingtheCourtyard]

but what i always fear is that i might be bisexual or something and then if i do come out, everyone will just be right. i mean, i can't deny what i am.

A favorite quote of mine is "Whatever you think you are, you are more than that."

Honestly, other people can go screw themselves; in the end, what people say about you doesn't really matter, as long as you know you're a good person--and I bet you're a great guy, regardless of whether your bi, or if you sound feminine.

[Jupiter]

thank you so much. it really means a lot to know that people actually read my threads, let alone respond to them. thanks so much, guys. it really just made my day.

[spiderdude]

Man don't let these things get down on you if yo know your not what they say you are then don't let them make you think you are what they say

[DerBear]

Fag and gay wad is that all?

Try walking in my shoes for just one day. Add to that:

Stumpy Dick
Baldy Dick
Pubeless wonder
Baldy Balls
Roundhead (reference to me being circumsized)
Gaylord
Jokes about what happened to me when I was younger

Boys at school can be very cruel, and will jump on any weakness they can find. Try not to show them it bothers you, and one day, (maybe when you have left school) the taunts will stop. Until then, just smile at them, it makes them confused!

Just out of curious, how do they know your penis size and hoe you were circumsized? Just seems a little odd when you live in england lol.

Anyway Eric try not to let it get to you. Just look up on the bright side of things its only names, sure they hurt but they never last for ever.

Also in drama you need to have a variety of acting skills, maybe he/she did not mean it to be offensive. Also those people who call you those names are just insecure about there own feelings.

[Short Circuit]

Just out of curious, how do they know your penis size and hoe you were circumsized? Just seems a little odd when you live in england lol.



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