Demetri08
March 18th, 2012, 11:53 AM
For those of you that believe in online dating, I have a story for you.
I met a girl online back in August/September and we've always gotten along well. She came to me with every problem she had and vice versa, and we were always happy to help each other. Recently I started liking her and she admitted she liked me too, but she had a boyfriend already, which I accepted. I would just continue waiting. Last week (or two weeks ago, I forgot) she texted me saying that she was going to miss her boyfriend because of spring break, and I told her that I didn't want to talk about that, which made her get angry at me. She got over it later on that night though.
One day she texted me about her apparently still being in love with her ex while having a boyfriend, and wondered if it was wrong to think that way. I told her I didn't know if it's wrong or not and that "no offense, but I really don't want to talk about this with you." My reasoning was that I didn't want to keep picturing her with another guy. Apparently this pissed her off even more and she refused to talk to me later on that night, letting her boyfriend's brother do it for her (him telling me that he knows I'm a good friend, but I probably shouldn't hit on her because she has a boyfriend).
I stopped talking to her for about 2 days since I was upset. She noticed I was being distant and annoyed with her and she told me that she wanted the old me back, the guy that was friendly and that always brightened her day. It touched me and so I started to talk to her again, like I did before. She's still with her boyfriend and I've talked to a few people about this issue, saying that she's selfish and I should just move on, but it seems ridiculously hard to just tell her that I don't see this going anywhere past us being friends. I keep thinking about what if I make a mistake and never do get to go out with her, and since I'm not that confident with people I actually know, I'd probably end up back at square one: being lonely.
Any help would be appreciated.
I met a girl online back in August/September and we've always gotten along well. She came to me with every problem she had and vice versa, and we were always happy to help each other. Recently I started liking her and she admitted she liked me too, but she had a boyfriend already, which I accepted. I would just continue waiting. Last week (or two weeks ago, I forgot) she texted me saying that she was going to miss her boyfriend because of spring break, and I told her that I didn't want to talk about that, which made her get angry at me. She got over it later on that night though.
One day she texted me about her apparently still being in love with her ex while having a boyfriend, and wondered if it was wrong to think that way. I told her I didn't know if it's wrong or not and that "no offense, but I really don't want to talk about this with you." My reasoning was that I didn't want to keep picturing her with another guy. Apparently this pissed her off even more and she refused to talk to me later on that night, letting her boyfriend's brother do it for her (him telling me that he knows I'm a good friend, but I probably shouldn't hit on her because she has a boyfriend).
I stopped talking to her for about 2 days since I was upset. She noticed I was being distant and annoyed with her and she told me that she wanted the old me back, the guy that was friendly and that always brightened her day. It touched me and so I started to talk to her again, like I did before. She's still with her boyfriend and I've talked to a few people about this issue, saying that she's selfish and I should just move on, but it seems ridiculously hard to just tell her that I don't see this going anywhere past us being friends. I keep thinking about what if I make a mistake and never do get to go out with her, and since I'm not that confident with people I actually know, I'd probably end up back at square one: being lonely.
Any help would be appreciated.