Who should pay for dates?

[Shortie]

Hey! Just curious to what others think about who should pay when going out? Boy? Girl? Pay for themselves? Whoever asks for the date? What do you think?

I like when the guy pays for me, makes me feel like a girl, I don't expect him too but it's a nice feeling when he does.

[Jagz]

i definitely think the guy should pay since it is... well it's just right.

[FullyAlive]

It's nice when they offer, but I'd still pay myself, i'm just not comfortable with people spending money on me.

[Donkey]

Going halves is probably best... but if they offer they offer!

[Jupiter]

Well, being in the money issue that I am in, I believe it would only be right to let them know, that if they were going to go on a date with me, that it would be challenging to pay for both of us. I know it sounds rude.

I don't go out much. :|

[Mortal Coil]

I've never really been on a date, but would definitely offer to go halves, or if it's something like a movie then ice cream, then one pays for the tickets and the other buys ice cream for both of us.

[georgiamay]

I like it if they offer to pay, but I normally pay anyway. I don't want someone to spend money on me. If we're in a relationship, then it's fine for them to spend money on me, and I'll spend money on them, but for dates I'd rather pay for myself.

[Jess]

a guy would usually do that to be a gentleman, but sometimes it's split in half, sometimes the girl may offer to pay and do so.

[kenoloor]

I like when the guy pays for me, makes me feel like a girl

You need someone to spend money on you to make you feel special? That's materialistic of you.

i definitely think the guy should pay since it is... well it's just right.

What is this, 1950?

Going dutch is what the cool kids do. No, but seriously, one person paying for 100% of everything really adds up and it's selfish to expect someone to do that for you. If they offer, great. But splitting the bill is usually the best way to go.

[Princess Ariel]

I think that it should alternate. One date the man pays, the next the woman, and it goes back and forth like that..

[Voodoo]

Being a guy; personally I feel like I should always pay on a date no matter what... It just feels right and not to makes me feel like I've done something wrong...

[Abnormal]

It's cultural, in America, for a boy to pay for the date expenses no matter what. Its the whole male code or something.

[Smeagol]

Well... I think that whoever's idea it is should pay. Like, if I wanted to take my imaginary significant other to the movies I'd pay. If that person wanted pizza after, that person would pay for the pizza.

[Kaius]

I'd always say paying halves unless I was the one that offered :P I'm awkward and don't like people paying for me xD I feel guilty, i prefer being the one offering.

[Shortie]

You need someone to spend money on you to make you feel special

I didn't say I need them to, I said it's nice.

[Jupiter]

It's cultural, in America, for a boy to pay for the date expenses no matter what. Its the whole male code or something.

lolwut?

[cdude22]

guys defs should if they want go out with the girl

[Skeptical Bear]

I never been on a date my self but I never liked people going out of their way to pay. My families low on money now but I'd try to pitch in at least.

[Wolf_2]

Personally, I always pay when I go on dates, but I think it sort of relaxes a bit if youre actually in a relationship. My ex and I always went back and forth -- I would pay then the next time she would, etc. But if youre just going on dates and not actually dating yet, then yeah I would totally pay everytime

[Simon.]

It seems fairer if it's a who asked who basis but usually it's a gentleman like for the guy to pay. :)

[Thunduhbuhlt]

The guy should always offer. But if she insists on paying, let her.

[kenoloor]

i definitely think the guy should pay since it is... well it's just right.

a guy would usually do that to be a gentleman

Being a guy; personally I feel like I should always pay on a date no matter what... It just feels right and not to makes me feel like I've done something wrong...

It's cultural, in America, for a boy to pay for the date expenses no matter what. Its the whole male code or something.

guys defs should if they want go out with the girl

It seems fairer if it's a who asked who basis but usually it's a gentleman like for the guy to pay. :)

The guy should always offer. But if she insists on paying, let her.

Maybe someone can explain this to me. Why should the guy always pay? What reason is there? It makes the girl 'feel special'? That's materialistic. It's the 'gentlemanly' thing to do? It's 'gentlemanly' to waste twice as much money as necessary?

What if the date is between two guys? Do they fight over it until one of them proves to be 'manlier' than the other? What if the date is between two girls? Should they both refuse to pay and see who's more stubborn?

This is fucking stupid. If the guy offers, fine. But setting that up as an expectation is ridiculously old-fashioned (e.g. 1950s).

I challenge anyone of you to produce a legitimate rationalization for this kind of sexist mindset. Ready? And...rationalize!

[Dragon_Droppings]

Maybe someone can explain this to me. Why should the guy always pay? What reason is there? It makes the girl 'feel special'? That's materialistic. It's the 'gentlemanly' thing to do? It's 'gentlemanly' to waste twice as much money as necessary?

What if the date is between two guys? Do they fight over it until one of them proves to be 'manlier' than the other? What if the date is between two girls? Should they both refuse to pay and see who's more stubborn?

This is fucking stupid. If the guy offers, fine. But setting that up as an expectation is ridiculously old-fashioned (e.g. 1950s).

I challenge anyone of you to produce a legitimate rationalization for this kind of sexist mindset. Ready? And...rationalize!

I agree with you that the guy doesn't have to always pay. It is very sexist, and I disagree with it as well.

[Jupiter]

i'm going to have to agree with sam and bradi. this IS sexist.

inb4 ooooh wut bout sndwhchs? :what:

[prob1996]

I think the guy should pay and in the case if it's two guys or two girls, then it's whoever invited the other on the date.

[Abyssal Echo]

I think the guy should pay and in the case if it's two guys or two girls, then it's whoever invited the other on the date.

I kinda agree with u prob1996 but it should not matter if the guy asked the girl or the girl asked the guy who ever asked the other out should be the one paying for the date same as 2 guys or 2 girls. just my opinion though.

[User_Does Not Exist]

It shouldn't be a set thing on who has to pay for it. It should alternate, like one pays for this date where the other pays for this. Or even one person pays for part of it and the other pays for the other part, like boy pays for movie, date pays for lunch. That's how me and my X did it for 3 years, and it worked fine.

[ImCoolBeans]

It's cultural, in America, for a boy to pay for the date expenses no matter what. Its the whole male code or something.
lolwut?

You know, she's not wrong. It's always been expected that the male pays, in America at least.

[Erasmus]

Usually the guy... Which sucks for me...

[Gandalf]

I think that it should alternate. One date the man pays, the next the woman, and it goes back and forth like that..

But what if one day the guy pays £15 for cinema, and then the girl ends up paying say £20 for a meal the next time? It doesn't add up.

[kenoloor]

But what if one day the guy pays £15 for cinema, and then the girl ends up paying say £20 for a meal the next time? It doesn't add up.

Then split each bill.

[unnamed94]

Maybe someone can explain this to me. Why should the guy always pay? What reason is there? It makes the girl 'feel special'? That's materialistic. It's the 'gentlemanly' thing to do? It's 'gentlemanly' to waste twice as much money as necessary?

What if the date is between two guys? Do they fight over it until one of them proves to be 'manlier' than the other? What if the date is between two girls? Should they both refuse to pay and see who's more stubborn?

This is fucking stupid. If the guy offers, fine. But setting that up as an expectation is ridiculously old-fashioned (e.g. 1950s).

I challenge anyone of you to produce a legitimate rationalization for this kind of sexist mindset. Ready? And...rationalize!

there is no rational explanation (at least i havent heard one) of why it is. it has been that way for decades and although it did start as a kind of sexist way to see who pays. it has ironically stayed that way even now in a society which seeks equality between man and women, etc.

If i dont know the girl i usually offer to pay (and end up paying), but if we have been dating for a while or i am relatively close with her, ill tell her to split it. if im short on money, ill tell her to split it anyway probably at the beginning of the date, and if she doesnt like it that way and expects me to pay all the time i wont date her.

[WickedWeekend]

Fuck, just go dutch.

[Jmihas]

I would not pay, although friend date.. yeah maybe because I know my friends and I share money.

[Danielle's dreams]

Hey sophie ! Think we should go halves ! Lol

[GothicTsukiyomi]

I always pay. It's just how I was raised....

[christianteen]

As long as it's not too expensive it should be the male.

If it's over $100 I'd say 50/50.

[Shortie]

Hey sophie ! Think we should go halves ! Lol

lol ok we will go halfs on our dates :P

[kai99]

Half and half. Fair enough

[RCT109]

Hey! Just curious to what others think about who should pay when going out? Boy? Girl? Pay for themselves? Whoever asks for the date? What do you think?

I like when the guy pays for me, makes me feel like a girl, I don't expect him too but it's a nice feeling when he does.

TBH being a guy I feel Obligated to pay regardless of if she asks me or not, but that is just me. Then there is the time when her parents tell me to let her pay.

Also, its up to you and Him.

IK a friend of mine and his gf alternate but thats what they like to do

[User Deleted]

Dates? Why you should yourself of course, don't mooch the dried figs off of your friends.

each pays for them self, simple. Then you can be sure both people want to go to do whatever it is. And half and half, what if one person want more of something than the other?

[wildone016]

Split it.

[Breakeven]

for the first date the guy! unless the gal asked him out like for a drink that change but in bf and gf dates it doesn't matter coz they r together

[DanielD210]

The guy its the gentleman thing to do! =)

[ekul6159]

My girlfriend and I have decided, since we're both tight on money, we take turns every date, that way I can feel like a man and provide sometimes, and she doesn't feel helpless sometimes.

[Thugboy101]

honestly i think that the man should pay for the date so the he can show the woman that he can and is willing to pay for her ever need also its th respectful thing to do.
:cool:

[mrclutch1976]

I pay for both of us that's just how i was raised i guess.

[Shortie]

Some of you guys sound really sweet :)

Recently I had lunch with a guy friend (we aren't dating) and he automatically paid, again he didnt have to but it's nice. I don't know but for some reason guys seen to like throwing money at me, well not at me but for me if you know what I mean. It was almost like he enjoys paying?

[Renee]

Whoever asks the other on the date, definitely. Once things get steadier, take turns.

[Kavin34]

Hello! I think I still have to pay a guy

[Jmihas]

No one, it's all about love.

[Suicune]

I haven't been on a date but I would probably pay.

I don't like people spending money on me so I spend it on them.
I don't get it myself.

[Dabigdtc]

Personally I kind of feel like its my duty to pay makes me feel like I'm not fulfilling my job as the boy.

[Josh Schlacter]

It was made only socially acceptable for the guys to pay because back then before feminists the rate for men working was higher than women. So the man had more money to spend. But now women can get same jobs same pay so they have money to spend. And i would think its selfish is she had a job and i didn't but i would have to pay all of it. If she didn't have a job and i did, then i would pay it. If we bot had jobs then split it 50/50.

Although i feel more like a man if i pay, but i still don't think its right to carry old traditions that don't apply to this generation anymore. Personally i just think they want a "free good time"

[FullyAlive]

Please don't bump old threads :locked: