Breaking up over text

[Buranri]

I'm honestly curious - obviously it depends on the situation, but why is there such an issue with breaking up over text? I mean, in some ways I guess it is a bit of an asshole thing to do. But personally, I find it a lot easier to have conversations like that over texting, where you don't have to reply immediately, you can look at what they said again... Doing it in person is just a lot of pressure to have an answer right then.

[Jupiter]

if you have the balls to break up with her, then you should have the balls to say it to her face.

[confused65]

if you have the balls to break up with her, then you should have the balls to say it to her face.

right

[AutumnDae]

I see it as more of a respect thing.

If you liked me enough to date me, and spend time with me, I hope you respect me enough to break up with me in person. Seriously.

[botwa]

I think that if you were in a relationship you would know that people who are together not only love each other but also respect and are honest. breaking up via text message leaves a lot of space for thoughts and uncertainties.

[CaliSublime]

It's just lame, and it shows you never really liked them or respected them

[ImCoolBeans]

Doing it in person is certainly more respectful.

I mean I've broken up over text before, but I much rather would have done it face to face. It really shows a lack of care/respect towards the person.

[Princess Ariel]

Doing it over text is just rude, and overall mean. It gives the impression that you're scared to do things face to face. Like stated above it shows that you never cared about the person, If you cared for him/her you should do it face to face. I mean sure they could over-react and throw a few punches, and kicks in there. But at least you did the right thing. It's the same for asking someone out. It's easier to do it on a computer screen yes, But if you do it to their face it will show that you care, and will be there for them no matter what happens.

[Magenta]

Graaaah, I just wrote a great post and it got deleted. ;_;

Anyway, I was trying to say that the other issue with texting is that you lack the other keys to communication that you'd get from face to face: tone and body language. A lot of it tends to be open ended and open to interpretation because they're just words... and can be taken in a variety of ways that tone and body language would narrow down. It can just be insensitive and not nearly as personal. Talking to the person face to face seems a lot more sincere when it's something as important as a breakup.

If you're face to face and you feel pressured to answer right away, you can ask for a minute to think. There's nothing wrong with that. It's the fact you've put the effort in to actually see the person and gotten past the fact it may be uncomfortable for you that says a lot more about you and the situation.

[Erasmus]

i think that's it's kinda offensive to not say it to his/her face... but that's just me.

[Eclipsical]

Cowardly.

However, this is coming from a guy who broke up with a girl by outright avoiding her. But she was a total bitch to me for no reason and pretty much used me so it was pretty deserved.