Talking To Her

[Heatbomb21]

Recently, I've been wanting to talk more with my loved one, and try to become better friends than we are now. I sometimes try to start conversations in Play Practice, but they always die off. Same with any other time. I'd like to become as fluent as talking with her as much as any of my other friends. I got her bwst friend number last year, and I loathed her before. But now we're great friends and still talk a lot. I just want to recreate that.

I also can't work up the damned courage to ask my loved one's number. and I was *this* goddamned close to having it. I blame Samsung and their crappy batteries for that...

Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

[Ace_of_Spades]

Deep breaths and relax ^^ There is barely anyone in the world who will say 'go away' if you say something like 'mind if i join you?' So just go up and join one of her groups and talk to everyone in the group, then slowly work your way into having private conversations with her, and it should be easier.

[Creadman]

Once i was talking to her in gym shorts and got a boner. I tried to act cool then she looked down. Most embarrasing thing ever!

[botwa]

wow, when I read "the loved one" I thought you're talking about your gf at first :)
right... I think trying to hang out with her more even by joining her during the meal. you can just ask for her number online. it's OK, you can tell that it's better to talk to her this way at least for you :D
you can tell her that you want to hear her voice.

[Heatbomb21]

Deep breaths and relax ^^ There is barely anyone in the world who will say 'go away' if you say something like 'mind if i join you?' So just go up and join one of her groups and talk to everyone in the group, then slowly work your way into having private conversations with her, and it should be easier.

We have an...unorthodox play arrangement, Which doesn't consist of the luxury of separate groups. Play's tomorrow anyway. But talking to her in a group sounds like a good idea, if I can work up the courage. Thanks.

Once i was talking to her in gym shorts and got a boner. I tried to act cool then she looked down. Most embarrasing thing ever!

I'll avoid that. Thanks.

wow, when I read "the loved one" I thought you're talking about your gf at first :)
right... I think trying to hang out with her more even by joining her during the meal. you can just ask for her number online. it's OK, you can tell that it's better to talk to her this way at least for you :D
you can tell her that you want to hear her voice.


Yeah, I wish that were the case. I'm just that serious about her.


Ok. I'll try that.

Asking for her number online is currently impossible. She has no personal email address, facebook, or any means of online communication.

And though I love her voice, I'm gonna say no to that. Sounds creepy.

Thanks.

[Aksed]

Hey man, nice to see that you're trying to get things going with your girl :)

The most important thing is to spend as much time as possible with her, I am not aware of the whole situation but I'm sure you know how to do that. Oh and try to do it without seeming needy.

The other important thing to do is to relax. Yes, I know you're afraid of saying something stupid, but actually anything is better than awkward silence (it is!). Try to start conversation that she might find interesting, even if you don't. The key moment is to make HER talk, not yourself.

And the phone number, work on that, it's important to have connection with her, even if you don't use it (often).

I think that's it. I hope I helped ;) Best of luck.

P.S. Why on earth would you buy a Samsung?

[Heatbomb21]

Hey man, nice to see that you're trying to get things going with your girl :)

The most important thing is to spend as much time as possible with her, I am not aware of the whole situation but I'm sure you know how to do that. Oh and try to do it without seeming needy.

The other important thing to do is to relax. Yes, I know you're afraid of saying something stupid, but actually anything is better than awkward silence (it is!). Try to start conversation that she might find interesting, even if you don't. The key moment is to make HER talk, not yourself.

And the phone number, work on that, it's important to have connection with her, even if you don't use it (often).

I think that's it. I hope I helped ;) Best of luck.

P.S. Why on earth would you buy a Samsung?


Didn't think you'd show, Aksed. I thought my elaborate trap had failed.


Ok. Being with her is not too much of an issue. But i'm trying to be subtle so nothing is suspected. Not that it matters but...

I'm not afraid of saying anything stupid. it's as inevitable as death for me. But I have no idea what fuel to throw into the chat to keep it alive. Or just to start it.

And unless I REALLY set an elaborate trap, then I doubt I'll be getting her number any time soon... :/


We both have Samsung actually...(wow. I know her damn phone model but not number...) and it isn't long lasting at all. I was texting with her friend, and my loved one was talking to me though her phone the conversation went well enough, but when I basically asked for the number, both of them told me the battery was dead. Cursed like a sailor, I did.

[Aksed]

As you spend time with her, the conversations will go smoother and longer.

As for the number, you can start a little chat about you phones, you know like "those samsung we have suck, don't they" and when you talk a while about the phones you can say "you know, I don't really have your number, mind if I....", thats off the top of my head, of corse you'll use diffrent words, but you got the idea.

And by the way, when I say "try to spend more time with her" I mean 1 on 1, together.

[Heatbomb21]

As you spend time with her, the conversations will go smoother and longer.

As for the number, you can start a little chat about you phones, you know like "those samsung we have suck, don't they" and when you talk a while about the phones you can say "you know, I don't really have your number, mind if I....", thats off the top of my head, of corse you'll use diffrent words, but you got the idea.

And by the way, when I say "try to spend more time with her" I mean 1 on 1, together.

How should I go about doing that? If I just go and start following her around (for lack of a better word), I'm gonna get some weird looks. Because I don't talk to her enough for that to follow. Unless you mean privately, but that's like, to me, overstepping it to a date whenever me and her speak.


P.S. ...umm...the new profile pic is...nice...

[Aksed]

How should I go about doing that? If I just go and start following her around (for lack of a better word), I'm gonna get some weird looks. Because I don't talk to her enough for that to follow. Unless you mean privately, but that's like, to me, overstepping it to a date whenever me and her speak.

Make her your friend for a start. Best relationships are built on friendship. And as you get to know her better you'll see if she is really the girl for you.
As for the spending time with her, you just have to take advantage of the small moments. Let me make it clearer with an example:

She: Damn, I have to go to the hospital tommorow for a.... (blah blah blah)
You: You know I'm free tommorow, you want some company?

Ok, the hospital was a bad example, but you got the idea, you just have to find whatever way possible to spend more time with her alone, again, without seeming creepy or anything.

P.S. ...umm...the new profile pic is...nice...
Yeah, well you are feeling the same thing right now so shut up! :D

[Heatbomb21]

...God, I'm an idiot...


Thanks, Aksed. I wish you the best.


Still open to suggestions.