Coming out

[JackShephard]

I want to come out to my best friend. I'm bi and I've been hiding behind a mask for years. I am very good at it an I know it would take him by surprise. I need advice. How can I come out? Its just hard even though it's so simple.

[sage of craze]

Well, I don't know your friend, so I can't say for sure, but what I suggest is vaguely hinting at it, to see how he'd react, then going in for the kill. More likely than not he wouldn't care, but it would probably be best not to just come sliding out of the closet while snapping your fingers, you know? :P

[JackShephard]

I need an ice breaker. And I need to feel comfortable. So a casual hint? I don't want to give him the idea that I am trying to seduce him. Haha do you have a coming out story? Are you gay/str8/bi? How would you handle your best friend being gay if you are not?

[sage of craze]

Pretty much go for a casual hint. Like if you ever find yourself talking about who's attractive at school or whatnot, casually throw in a guy to see his reaction. I'm bisexual, but I'm also pretty bold. The majority of my coming out stories went along the lines of 'I'm bisexual.' 'Oh, okay.' and then we moved on, lol. A couple I came out to while playing a question game, but that's me. My friends really don't care about a person's sexuality.

[JackShephard]

All lucky me, I get to live in a small town where nearly everyone's minds are very narrow. Haha I think I'll do that when next time I see him. He should be ok with it. I don't want things to change though...

[sage of craze]

Then why worry about coming out to him? I have friends who don't know I'm bi, because it's not relevant. I definitely suggest testing the waters, and if it looks like he's a homophobe, don't worry about telling him.

[Skeptical Bear]

You can also try to go off and tell him you wanna tell him something personal. Then tell from there when he asks "what" and tell him. I did that with my best friend.

[Thanatos]

You could go the fun route like I did, mention how cute or hot some guy you both know is to your friend and when he says "What are you gay?" Just be like "No I'm Bi, get it right."

Thats what I did. My friend actually started cracking up when he realized I was serious.

[prob1996]

I kinda just blurted it out with a few friends. I tried to hint at it but it just came out. they werent that surprised really. :p I would suggest just testing the waters to see how they react

[Jdawg91]

The best way to deal with this is to very discretely tell him in a low tone of voice,never go over the top when announcing things like this to anyone.