I found out my friend is bi, should we still hang out?

[Creadman]

I have been friends with this guy since 3rd grade. One day at the beggining of the year someone told me he was bi, so i asked around and found out its true. What should i do?

[CrossingtheCourtyard]

I would sincerely hope you would not drop him as a friend simply because he is bisexual (Especially since you'v been friends since grade three), that would be absolutely awful. His sexual orientation doesn't change who he is as a person, he won't just morph into a new being now that you've learned he is bi.

Honestly, imagine how awful he would feel if his friend ditched him just because he was bi.

I should also hope that you won't feel awkward thinking that he will try and make a move on you--its rather likely he won't, if he does and you are not interested, simply tell him so. I would assume that he would understand.

You may want to talk to your friend about this to actually confirm it, and so that you can have a conversation about it--if you want, that is.

[Desuetude]

Do nothing. Just carry on exactly the way you are, there is no need at all to change teh way you act and treat him because of his sexuality.

I would sincerely hope you would not drop him as a friend simply because he is bisexual (Especially since you'v been friends since grade three), that would be absolutely awful. His sexual orientation doesn't change who he is as a person, he won't just morph into a new being now that you've learned he is bi.

I should also hope that you won't feel awkward thinking that he will try and make a move on you--its rather likely he won't, if he does and you are not interested, simply tell him so. I would assume that he would understand.

You may want to talk to your friend about this to actually confirm it, and so that you can have a conversation about it--if you want, that is.

This is basically the perfect answer to what you should do. If he has been your friend for that long then he should understand and want to tell you if it's true or not and in the very rare occasion that he might start hinting that he likes you then just tell him to stop and that although you are good friends you're not interested. Be gentle and don't give up such a good friendship because he might like a few boys, it really isn't worth it.

[Dimitri]

Bud, ditching someone just because of their sexual orientation is not too nice, makes then feel insecure and many other things, they were willing to trust you with that information...

If you told someone that you were *insert a change in orientation* would you want them to leave you because you were different?

[Magenta]

:arrow: Teen Sexuality since this isn't really about dating.

[Clawhammer]

First, ask him if it's true, doesn't sound like you talked to him about it so it may just be rumors. Just ask casually, don't be confrontational about it. What's the big deal anyway? So he likes guys as well as girls, what does it matter. His sexual interests really aren't any of your business, and I doubt he'd try to change that if he knows you're straight. If he says yes, just say, "Oh, cool, didn't know that," and move on.

[spfreak]

Never stop being someone's friend because of their sexual orientation. Chances are he doesn't have any feelings for you. When I told my straight guy friends they accepted it and the all knew that I had absolutely no feelings for them at all because they were my friends, nothing else.

[Short Circuit]

You should do nothing. If you are true friends, his orientation should not affect your friendship one little bit.

[ExhibitG]

you should stay friends with him. why should a person's sexuality even make you consider doing anything about it? how would you feel if you were bi and your friends found out and didn't want to be friends with you anymore?

[Tonebone88]

I recommend that you do absolutely nothing. Even though him being bi may weird you out, it doesn't change who he is. Plus it doesn't means he's out to convert you or seduce you or something crazy like that. Odds are that he simply felt that you should know he is bi because you guys are good friends. I definitely say that you need to keep talking to him and being his friend. I can say from experience that coming out is a delicate situation, no matter who you're coming out to. It seems like the person's reaction is the most important thing in the world. If you push him away because of his sexual orientation, it could cause your friend to have serious self-esteem issues and prevent him from telling people the truth.

[Stronger]

Why should who he likes make a difference? You been friends for that long, of course do nothing. If you feel bother, just forget he said it, play it off, but if you clearly break your friendship with him, then like Robert said would make him insecure, about telling others. Like I said, and the rest of the posters, do nothing.

[Midland]

Bud, ditching someone just because of their sexual orientation is not too nice, makes then feel insecure and many other things, they were willing to trust you with that information...

Exactly. And it's not that just because he's bi he wants to have sex with every guy he sees. Seeing as you've known him for so long, what difference does it make to you, now that you know. You would have had arguments and fights before, think about why you are only now considering ditching him?

[Erasmus]

Keep hanging out with him. Do not stop being his friend just because he is bi.

[Sudds3]

Accept him! You were friends with the bisexual kid the entire time, he just never told you until now

[Abyssal Echo]

Bud, ditching someone just because of their sexual orientation is not too nice, makes then feel insecure and many other things, they were willing to trust you with that information...

If you told someone that you were *insert a change in orientation* would you want them to leave you because you were different?

I agree with Dimitri it would really suck if u did that to him

[Dmtuba]

Absolutely

[Victor]

You shouldn't suddenly dislike him just cause he also likes guys, believe me, i grew up in a backwards country which is deeply homophobic, and the way they treat people like your friend is just cruel.
And then you should just casually ask your friend to confirm if he is or not.
If your not sure how to react to it if he says yes, maybe just ask him over the net?

[Mortal Coil]

It shouldn't change anything, but if this fucks up your dynamic and you can't be friends with him then that's a little pathetic but... you shouldn't be hanging out with him if that's the case.

[CaliSublime]

Be his friend, there is nothing wrong with being bi, it doesnt mean you are bi or gay cause your his friend, and you shouldnt be worried about him hitting on you cause you dont even know if he is attracted to you, even if he is he should respect that you are straight and not interested

[Biscuithead13]

I have to speak for not only your friend but myself as well. My best friend is a guy and we have been friends since kindergarden. I found out I'm bi just a few months ago, and he is actually one of the few I haven't told up to this point, for this exact same reason. The fear that he would want to end the friendship soley because of my sexuality. He is a very no-judgemental, but also very religous person, so I worry what he might think. I have to say, I would NEVER hit on a friend that had such a close relationship with me. It would be wrong and I view my regular guy friends just as any guy would, contrary to popular belief. To be honest, it would break my heart to if my best friend ended our friendship just because I'm bi :/ I can't get you inside your friends head, but as someone who is also bi and dealing with adversity as a result this is as close as I can get you to that.

[Iron Man]

If you drop him because he is bi, then you will severely hurt the way people look at you. You accept your friends for who they are, regardless if they are gay, bi, black, white, crippled, or even fat.

[Tyryham]

If. Ur a true friend ul accept him no matter what

[KarkatLuv]

he hasn't changed, just your perspective of him, so yes you should, coming out can be extremely hard, and on the offchance people don't accept you, it can feel like your life is spiralling downward, please try not to cause that pain.

[Joe96]

Stay friends. Sexuality makes no difference to the person.
You should actually support them, because it's very hard coming out.

[RCT109]

I have been friends with this guy since 3rd grade. One day at the beggining of the year someone told me he was bi, so i asked around and found out its true. What should i do?

You should still hang out with him. Treat him like you did before you knew. If he gets with a guy support him and the same if he gets with a girl. Many of my friends are bi, grant it most are girls, but it doesn't change the fact that I back all my friends plays like I would a if said friend was Straight. To be honest, if you support him it will actually help your friendship.

Just remember to back his play no matter what.

[swimmerboy95]

The best thing you can do is act like nothing ever happened. That is the most respectful thing you could do and you definitely should not give up a friend of that long just because of his sexuality. If you really are friends, you should accept him and be proud of him for telling you. Hope this helps!
--Alex

[OregonStateDude]

I agree with everyone else, do not treat him any differently. Good friends are hard to come by, so you don't want to lose what you already have.

When I told my best friend Justin that I was gay, it didn't bother him one bit. He treats me the same now as he did before he knew.

[Thomas01]

He is your friend, it doesn't really matter what his sexual preference is. You guys have known each other for a long time and you should be able to accept who he is.

[Hermes]

Think about it this way. Your friend has not suddenly changed. All that has changed is what you know. All the things that made you friends are still there so why would you act differently?

If you are afraid he will come on to you just rehearse in your head how you would deal with that which is presumably to politely say that you are not interested. As he's a friend he would take no for an answer and, in any event that is very unlikely to happen.

Or is it that you are worried other people will think that because you hang out with him that you must be gay or bi yourself? Whose opinion is more important, your friends or random strangers? You can't choose your friends based on what other people think of them.

[PerpetualMotionSquad]

Stay friends with him. Why dump him just because he is bisexual? Sexuality is only a little part of your character. I also think that he deserves a lot more respect from you if you have been friends since 3rd grade he is obviously a good friend right? So I think dumping him for that is pretty low. He sounds like a pretty good guy so in conclusion... Keep him :P. Hope I helped :)