A Way To Suppress Urges?

[Ryukie]

[This could trigger]

I haven't cut at all this year, was my new year's resolution, but due to pressure of school work and issues in my family, it's getting harder. Everything is starting to snowball.

To people that used to or still self harm, hell anyone with constructive advice, have you ever found an effective way to make the urge to cut go away? Lately I get into an agitated state when I'm on the verge of a panic attack and all I want to do is cut so I'll feel 'normal' again. Now that I tell myself I can't cut, it gets even harder, and I haven't got the comfort of knowing I have the means to cut if I really wanted to, because I threw them away at the beginning of the year.

[Desuetude]

The only thing that stops the urge for me at the moment is music, just shove on my headphones and turn them right up. Even that is weakening though. Do things you enjoy it could be music, drawing, photography, just throw yourself into something like howmework or cooking, something that takes up most of your attention so cutting wont be on your mind.
You're doing great though! Over 2 months, you should be so proud of yourself! It's good that you threw them away or you may have let the urges get the better of you. Have you got people you can talk to about it? Someone you trust and that will just listen? becuase getting it out and having someone real know about it can really make a difference and it will take the pressure off of you a little.

[CuriousDestruction]

music really helps, so do friends. Drawing, writing, anything artsy. Working out. Whatever takes your mind of things and gives your hands something to do. Nikki is really right though, great job on nearly 2.5 months! That's really something to be proud of

[Ryukie]

Nikki- Nah, my parents and a few friends know, but they [albeit sounding like a typical teenager] don't quite understand. They just get angry with me rather than well, being constructive I guess :/

[Desuetude]

Nikki- Nah, my parents and a few friends know, but they [albeit sounding like a typical teenager] don't quite understand. They just get angry with me rather than well, being constructive I guess :/

That's stupid that they get angry. They should be trying to help not causing more problems. Well it may make it easier to see a professional if your mum already knows. If she isn't happy about it then just go to one anyway, they are obliged to keep your privacy. Like I said, talking is a great way to suppress the urge just knowing someone else is there to listen.

[Jupiter]

lots and lots of encouraging music. that's why the last time i did it i was at school, i couldn't blare any music in my ears there. :/

[Ryukie]

That's stupid that they get angry. They should be trying to help not causing more problems. Well it may make it easier to see a professional if your mum already knows. If she isn't happy about it then just go to one anyway, they are obliged to keep your privacy. Like I said, talking is a great way to suppress the urge just knowing someone else is there to listen.

The issue here is that I'm dependant on them for travel and if I disappear the same time every week or something similar, they'll guess. They figured out my brother was doing the same and I'm pretty sure to this day they don't take him seriously.

[Desuetude]

The issue here is that I'm dependant on them for travel and if I disappear the same time every week or something similar, they'll guess. They figured out my brother was doing the same and I'm pretty sure to this day they don't take him seriously.

Right, well is there someone at school you can go to and just talk to? Usually schools have something like that and then you wont have to travel anywhere. If not then could you set different times and days each week I dont know if it would be possible. Are you able to cycle or walk, if you start getting to places in a different form of transport now then it wont seem too weird in the future.
Your brother was in the same postition? It really is stupid that they do nothing to help. Try to find someone that understands and wants to help because without anyone backing you up it will be harder, harder but not impossible.

[Ryukie]

Sadly, the school will tell my parents straight away, they're not big on confidentiality and then my parents will kick off because they think I'm making a big deal out of nothing. My brother suggested I wait until uni, but with AS's and whatnot this is arguable the most stressful time at the moment. :/

[the_chef_of_your_lif]

it's been nearly 11 months since i last cut and believe me, you're doing better than i was and am. if there's anything you like to do, then when you start feeling the urge, then if you can, start doing that. Pick up painting and just paint. it can take a few hours. if you have friends that you can talk to and help you get help, then do that too. take advantage of your resources. cry it out if you need to too