Triggers and school, any distractions?

[rosey1228]

How do you handle mega urges to cut, I have been 1 week with out cutting, and then today, my emotions just got outta control, and I cut again! I feel so ashamed. But my worry is when I go to school after the week end, that I'm not going to be able to cope with triggers, that I have been able to in the past week! Theres friend ship issues at the moment, and also exam pressure! I'm not the most popular girl at school! And I have PE, which I have to wear a short sleeved top! Does anyone know, ways to stope urges, or how to cope? Distractions? Also my friends know that I started cutting again, and they don't seem to understand at all! I just dunno what to do.

[Amlykax3]

well, what i do in general is that i bring a note book with me every where i go. and if i feel an urge i literally just write away the feeling. im going to be completely honest, sometimes it does work and sometimes it doesnt. But, it does help get the edge off. If you really do need to...go into the bathroom and step away from the situation. take a few deep breaths and reassure yourself that you are okay. this may sound kind of weird but i always try and say positive words to myself. "im strong" or "i can do this" ect. And as for ur exam, all you can do is your best. Study as much as you feel the need to and try your best. Friendship issues always pass...i promise just stay strong during the storm of the friendship(s) and the calm will come soon. If you need anymore help feel free to message me!

Good Luck <3

[Voodoo]

I agree with the poster above; I also bring a note book with me... I don't write it out I draw it out, as for tests and stuff I just take a deep breath and basically zone out into my own little world. If you ever need to talk or anything, feel free to message me.

[georgiamay]

This might sounds stupid, but do your work.
Seriously, if you feel like you need a distraction, make yourself get your head down, and do the work that you're actually meant to be doing. I don't mean to sound harsh here, but even though that might be the last thing you want to do, it passes the time, and if you make yourself focus on it, it takes your mind off of other things. Try and concentrate on it, and I mean really concentrate. Try and actually learn what you're doing.

If this doesn't work, maybe try and excuse yourself from the lesson. Don't do this if you feel out of control, only if you think that a few minutes alone will help. Leave your blades in your bag, and leave your bag in the lesson. Just ask to go to the toilet, and if they don't let you, give them a look that says "I'm on my period," and head off. If you have say it, then just say it under your breath. Always a good excuse.

Hope everything goes okay :hug3:

[Roses_Are_Yellow]

Honestly, nothing distracted from my urge to cut when I was going through issues last year. I tried the snapping of the rubber band, but that did nothing. Writing sort of helped, but not really... I eventually locked my self in a stall and just weped my eyes out until I literally couldn't cry any more. I think the thing that helped me the most is I would spend about ten minutes in the bathroom stall, and just breathe. (well, not too many breaths. That bathroom was nasty) If I felt particulary down, I would log on to VT on my phone, and for some reason when doing that I didn't feel as alone.

My friendships sucked last year. My so called friends thought it was funny to say things like "Woah, you just shook up the bench there." and "That's a lot of food don't you think?" they made fun of my looks, called me 'emo', etc. But this isn't really about my sob story... I severed ties with the people who made me feel like shit, and slowly things were starting to get better. Honestly, if your friendships are not going well (like where the your friends start making fun of you) I think you should try to hang out with different people. But maybe if it's just you can't see eye to eye, try to get your friend(s) alone during lunch or something, and talk it out.

As for the P.E. Thing, I use put on heavy foundation. I was able to pass a couple of scars off as cat scratches. If you have a cat, you can try that. (Make sure it's not a lot of scars though, because people might become suspicious). Also, I didn't think of doing this at the time, but you can cover up your scars with bracelets (like the iheartboobies ones. Try wearing those, along with hair ties, and lots of bead bracelets.) My friend's not a cutter, but she wears like three iHeartboobies, six bead bracelets, and a friendship bracelet, and they cover from her wrist to six inches above her wrist.

If you ever need anyone to talk to about this, feel free to PM me. I know what it's like to feel like no one understands. The one friend I told at the time that I cut, was a cutter too, but she really didn't care about me AT ALL. I just felt isolated the whole time, and I just want you to know that you have someone to talk to. :)

I hope these helped, and good luck.

[Mortal Coil]

write down the most hurtful words you can think of: I have a list of words such as "bleed," "hate," "torture," "hopeless" etc. You can also draw lines on your skin where and how you usually cut, and make sure that you press into your skin when you do that. Or if you need a distraction, play a piece of music mentally, preferably a complex one like Pachelbel's Canon, which requires concentration to have all the parts playing properly.

[rosey1228]

Thanks