Attracted to my best friend.

[SamJC]

I'm 16 and bi

Me and my best friend are very close. We share the same interest in everything… Music, humour anything you can think of.

But recently, I've developed a strong attraction to him, and I can't get him out of my head, and I keep having sexual fantasies about him… It's very strange… He is bi himself… Should I say anything? I don't want to ruin our friendship….

Any help would be wonderful!

[babolat96]

Try and bring up the topic as a hypothetical thing or something, and see how he feels about it would be the best advice I could give. You could try maybe asking him on a date or something, if you wanted to go so far as to do that.

[senior.2013]

As said, try hypothetical reasoning. Just be careful because as you said, it could go bad.

[Unsolvedmind]

Just try to bring up the topic

[Skeptical Bear]

I was in the same exact situation. It came out bad when I told him but because he was completely straight. Since your friend is Bi, you have a better chance of him accepting it. Do what they said up there. Just bring it up carefully as well and don't just spill out it out to avoid awkwardness. Good luck.

[samb12]

just try to bring it up and stuff like say i had a wired dream about u and me and see what his reaction is and go from there

[Countrykid]

Just tell him how you feel, if he us your friend he'll understand

[SamJC]

Thank you all so much! I'll just take it slowly - see how I feel when I see him next! Thanks again!

[WithoutFear]

tell us how it goes, i hope he likes you back

[SamJC]

Thanks man :) I will!

[TDWPFAN2012]

i would say since hes bi u have nothing really to lose
by telling him how u feel im sure he will understand

[Jmac]

I'm the same way with my best friend but I kinda want to experiment with him to see if he feels the same way and if we could have something I mean we play around all the time and we have a bromance but I kind of made it a little more serious

[SamJC]

I'm the same way with my best friend but I kinda want to experiment with him to see if he feels the same way and if we could have something I mean we play around all the time and we have a bromance but I kind of made it a little more serious

Yeah, I'm the same with my friend. We're even married on Facebook, and we declare our love for each other all the time. Too affectionate for our own good! xD Well, actually, he says he's bi curious which is a bit different I think... Well, we'll see! Thanks everyone!

[MJohn]

You're lucky then that he is BI.

[SportsNutChase]

Just go easy and think about it. A really good friend of mine told me how he really felt around holiday time and we are still friends but its changed? I just didnt feel that way about him. Great guy and we have everything in common but I guess I didnt think about him in that way. Not saying dont because I dont know you both but think about the friendship thats all.

[TeddyBearRock]

Ask him if your could experiment or fool around, then If he says yes after and few times then ask him if you want to go out.

[Pepito]

Take it step by step and do it gently. The fact that he`s bi might make things a bit easier. Good luck

[BoyTeen1997]

i would just ask him the worst that could happen is he says no

[BelieberBoy95]

You should definitely go for it! You 2 seem like you're meant to be! ;D

[confused65]

if i were u i would tell him. i told my bestfriend that i liked her and we are still cool. tell me if it worked out between you 2

[SamJC]

Thanks guys :)

[User Does Not Exist]

Progress report? Did you say anything to him?

[SamJC]

Not yet. Haven't seen him in a while. Will let you know soon though!

[WithoutFear]

how is it going?

[Rayquaza]

If you've known each other for years, you may not want to risk losing such a healthy relationship. I know I've made a relationship awkward with one of my good friends. Don't make the same mistake. If you feel brave enough, go for it. Try and bring up the subject and see his replies.

[Calex]

Since he's bi it could end up good, you just have to ask. Don't wait and hold in. I had feelings for my best friend but I said nothing and now we aren't friends no more and I regret not telling him how I feel... well I don't regret no more cause it all lead up to me meeting my current bf hehe but still you should ask and report to us what happened :D haha

[JJSSHH]

Make a suggestion here and there, and see how he reacts. If he reacts positivly, then go right ahead. Also, i always make a pros and cons list. That usually helps.

[SamJC]

Well, I saw him today, and the attraction was still there, more than ever, but I just feel so terrified of loosing the friendship, so I'm going to leave it for now. But thank you SO much for all your help guys!!

[Jake777dylan]

Dude im in the same situation :) I'm waiting for te right
Time to do it

[Marcus339]

IMO friendships are more important than anything else, so just be very cautious and tentative about everything. And try to be casual too, b/c that makes it a bit less awkward.

[Sudds3]

Just start talking about gays and guy on guy stuff, then drop the bomb!

[shashasha]

haha I have the same problem, i just ignore it:P

[ImCoolBeans]

Puberty for Boys :arrow: Teen Sexuality.

[Coolboi]

just be your self an see what happens..
if it's meant to be enjoy it an be happy

[Curoz]

Any news? I like the idea of bringing it up as a hypothetical, just start asking him random hypothetical questions to him that arnt related then pop this one in. This way you are getting his opinion on the matter without admitting your feelings.

Good luck. And keep us updated.

[PerpetualMotionSquad]

I will tell you a story about my friend. He had a best friend too but they were very close they spent all their time together. I used to be really good friends with one of them do this is howcome I know. One time they were watching porno together and they were getting turned on. Anyway this resulted in the two of them experimenting. All of this experimenting broke their friendship and now they have only just started speaking normally again. It is clear that they will never be the same again. So in my opinion I would just keep the fantasies to yourself and please resist the temptation of telling him it could result in a broken friendship. Hope I helped :)

[Sebastian Michaelis]

Hypothetical reasoning often bites the user in the ass, and makes things awkward anyway. Being honest can be risky too, but it often has worked the best for people. In order to avoid the awkwardness try to walk around the 'egg shells', and only lightly touch the subject by mentioning others or TRUE similar events. When he delves deeper into the subject himself then you know he is currently comfortable with the subject and you can admit your honest interest in him.