Half-Out?

[starbrite5]

Okay, so I'm at this really awkward, half-out of the closet situation right now, and I'd love to get some advice. I told my best friend that I'm asexual a couple of months ago, and she just sort of assumed that I'm only interested in guys when I'm really romantically attracted to people of all genders. Prior to realizing I was asexual, I did believe that I was straight, but I had a bit of a revelation after figuring out my sexual orientation. She's always saying things about my apparent straightness and sort of trapping me in a false identity. I have other friends who know I'm asexual from casual mention or my blog, but it's not really a thing I talk about since it's not a big deal. Basically, how do I say "Oh, hey, I'm pan," without making my asexuality this big thing? (This is just my friends, by the way. My parents really don't need to know any of this.)

[Gandalf]

Maybe you could just say you prefer to see people for their personalities rather than their physical appearance.

[starbrite5]

I'm not sure that would work. One, it doesn't mention the pan bit, which is what I really want to get across. Two, I do care about physical appearance on an aesthetic level, just not a sexual one.

[Teensensation32]

Just say ...you fall in love with the actual person no matter there sex, or sexual orientation