Would you really??

[acryforhelp]

If you were going to go through with suicide would you really tell someone or attempt to get help before going through with it? I told my counselor today that I was really hurting. I wasnt "there" yet but I was hurting. She made me promise I would call her or someone else on my safety plan if I got "there" (if I was going to do something to really hurt myself) So on the way home I was thinking. I dont think I would ever really tell someone if I was going to go through with it. I would just do it. Would you tell someone?

[desoux]

I would never tell anyone. I don't want that kind of attention and I don't want to look needy. I would simply leave a little note behind.

[MJohn]

WHAT I THINK = People that will commit suicide shouldn't say bye before, it's just self-pity and if you want to say bye. Do it through a letter or something. Self-Pity is rather annoying.

[Mortal Coil]

I wouldn't
I haven't
If you honestly want to kill yourself then you don't think that telling people will do anything except make people think you're an attention whore. At least, that's my experience. Also, I felt like I couldn't trust anyone with anything, let alone that.

[Desuetude]

If you are that set on ending your life I don't think you'd be looking for help.
Like people have already said, I'd just leave a note or something to the few people I actually care about. Don't make a big fuss just leave and let people deal with it later, quite selfish really but eh.

[CuriousDestruction]

This is one of those many times when I say something and sound incredibly hypocritical. No. I absolutely would not. But I have different reasons for not doing so that I won't mention here.
On the other hand, I would want someone else to contact me if they ever decided to go through with it. Most suicides are heavily influenced by treatable conditions and illnesses like depression, self-harm, eating disorders, etc.
It sounds like you are going through some other stuff that is leading you to think about suicide. So yeah, I'd ask you to tell me if you decide to go through with it. I can't stop you, but I can tell you that things will be okay and encourage you to hold on a little longer.

[Rage of the Menace]

I'll leave one song on.

Frank Ocean-Swim Good.

[kai99]

I wouldnt, it would be a lonely moment

[alex4nder]

If you were going to go through with suicide would you really tell someone or attempt to get help before going through with it?

I.. might, at least i'd like to think i would.

But maybe that's the last positive part of me talking, as while i have been thinking about pulling the plug on my life, i'm not quite there yet.

Have appointment on monday, in which i plan to mention all of this.. the problem right now is to get there without doing anything overly drastic.

Don't know if i can actually cough out the words when the time comes though, as i'm a damn coward.

..a coward who's thinking of checking out on his brother and family in general. :(

[troubleddude]

Im reading some replies and its crazy. Of course you ask for help. leaving a note is crazy thats not the way to go out. Suicide should only even be considered as a last resort. I have some serious depression even though tis gotten better i still feel extreme pain and i always wish i was never concieved or born but i would never kill myself. You at least want to ask someone maybe a friend maybe a relative maybe a so ial worker. You can even ask a random person. Just ask somebody a few pwoplw. Id be very sad to hear soomeone taking there own life.

[Abyssal Echo]

Idk what 2 tell u Troubleddude I'm 2 the point where I don't bother asking 4 help anymore simply because it doesn't get me anywhere. My councelor thinks its a joke and tells me 2 stop trying cause I'm no good at it. I have attempted suicide 4 times since I was 11 and have never told anyone, left a note or a song or CD playing. usually I do it in the quiet solitude of my room.

[alex4nder]

Id be very sad to hear soomeone taking there own life.

In this day and age.. it's depressing to read one news story after another how more and more gay/straight/bi teens get driven to suicide by their peers.

But no one cares.. so when you've been driven to a corner after years of relentless abuse, maybe suicide suddenly doesn't feel like such a bad idea?

It's not an answer of course.. but when people keep dragging you down day after day after day.. when you feel so completely alone that it makes you wish you could cry, eh..

It'd be shame to hear that.. truly would be.. but tell me, would it be surprising?

[Ravenous1]

I would just to see if anyone really cared. But if i was serious id just do it ive been to the edge a couple times but i havent really tried it

[User_Does Not Exist]

I would never do it but I see the point in leaving a note at least explaining why so others aren't left with questions.

[Love.Hate]

Having been in this situation my opinion has changed on it, if you'd have asked me this before january i would have said no i wouldn't do that to anyone. However attempting it i felt guilty and i wanted to know that it wasnt anyones fault and that i loved them.. a note just feels awful, because thats the last piece of you they have left, it makes me feel guilty as hell to think that the last thing they have of me is so horrific

[FullyAlive]

I think it depends I've been known to do stuff potentially fatal and not tell anyone until after. So I think if pushed hard enough then maybe I wouldn't let anyone stop me. However once I've done whatever and know I can't be stopped there's definitely certain people I'd tell. I'd feel like I owed them an explanation and a goodbye. I know it'd kill me to lose any of my friends but I think it would hurt more if I didn't get a goodbye and if always wonder I'd I ever meant anything. So maybe not before but I'd definitely tell someone after whatever.

[plebble]

Don't commit suicide please. Life expectancy is like around 80 years old! Think about it you are only young and I bet 99% of teenagers feel depressed sometimes. Please don't commit suicide, you have your whole life ahead of you, be wise.

[Sudds3]

I was contemplating suicide last year and a little last year, I never told anyone! When you get 'there' you wont be able to think straigh, your mind will get foggy and polluted with thoughts of how bad your life is, how you want to hurt yourself, and how you want to kill yourself! You wont be able to think about anyone but yourself.....when you get to that stage, you NEED to call someone because you would be very very close to it. If you ever want to talk to someone who has been through the exact same things you are going through...just PM me any time, ill reaspond ASAP

[Jmihas]

I'm lonely person so why not. I would.

[plebble]

Dont, you have your whole life ahead of you, its only the teenage years which are crap

[Carly011]

If i really wanted to kill myself i wouldnt call anyone...i might text or something to say goodbye... i feel like i would do that because i know i need help but at the same time i really dont want to live so i would give both a chance at happening and see whichever wins i guess

[Noxail]

Dont, you have your whole life ahead of you, its only the teenage years which are crap

That my friend, is such the sadist lie. Most of us whom have really thought about suicide, are sufferers of a medical condition called DEPRESSION. It is fatal, it is awful, and there is nothing you can do about the feelings it gives you about yourself. There's a huuuge difference in the "oh my boyfriend just broke up with me imma hang myself" depression and the " I've lived for years in this misery, I wonder what it'd be like, just to let go?" depression. Personally, I tried to kill myself last November, and I had my note written and was totally ready to go. I didn't tell a soul until my attempt failed and I had a panic attack durring which I called my best friend. I've known too many people whom fake their suicide attempts and tell everyone their going to die, just for attention. So no, I wouldn't tell a breathing body. I'd leave a very down to earth note, explaining whom was to take care of my dog and my chickens. Ahh maybee I'm just weird. :rolleyes: Stay safe ~Holli

[Wolverine.]

No. I wouldn't tell anyone.

[Ravenous1]

in march i replied i would tell someone, my thoughts have changed i wouldnt tell anyone cuz i wouldnt want to be saved.

[Noxail]

in march i replied i would tell someone, my thoughts have changed i wouldnt tell anyone cuz i wouldnt want to be saved.

Yea, I guess that's another reason I wouldn't tell. I really would hate to have someone interfere....

[Fiction]

I wouldn't tell anyone that could interfere. That's what i've done the two times i've attempted really. I told Aaron. He was too far away to interfere anyway but emotionally.

However when I started violently throwing up scarily coloured stuff, I did tell someone closer to home who did in turn force me to hospital :/

[xXl0sth0peXx]

I don't want to, but probably out of fear I probably would. :|

[Kaius]

When i attempt i generally do it when i know people don't expect it enough to actually stop me. I don't tell someone im doing it before i've done enough and even then i probably won't say anything until its obvious what i've done i.e. hospitalization. But by then its too late for anyone to do anything. When i get to that stage where i feel the only option is that, i don't want to be stopped.

[Weeping_Angel]

I wouldn't try to contact anybody beforehand, and I wouldn't leave anything behind. I would do it, die, and leave all selflessness behind. People would find me months later because they wouldn't even think twice about me until my mom finally made a dinner, or had some whore over and wanted me to meet them. Then she would find my body all rotted out, and she would finally know what the stench that was filling up the whole house was. No one would really cares about me, so why should I tell anyone?

[Princess Ariel]

I can't tell anyone since they'd tell me that I shouldn't do it, I have a reason to be here... the basic textbook response.

I think i've only told one person what I was going to do, and I would've be successful (I know a bridge with no suicide bars) and she actually saved my life..

[this_kids_a_DJ]

If you were going to go through with suicide would you really tell someone or attempt to get help before going through with it? I told my counselor today that I was really hurting. I wasnt "there" yet but I was hurting. She made me promise I would call her or someone else on my safety plan if I got "there" (if I was going to do something to really hurt myself) So on the way home I was thinking. I dont think I would ever really tell someone if I was going to go through with it. I would just do it. Would you tell someone?

I have been there, almost drove my car into a tree at 85mph, I realized last minute that I was doing something incredibly stupid! I have too much to live for. I sought help but not from a counselor but instead from a friend. We just talked and I told him what was going through my head that made me want to do such a stupid thing and we just talked it out. It really helped, he and a couple other people know that I was suicidal and are always there for me when I become depressed.

As for actually going through with it... that is a sign of weakness and stupidity. I am not saying that thinking about it is because that would make me a hypocrite, but if one actually goes through with it, they are not smart... there is ALWAYS a solution to a problem that does not involve death.

[Wiltedrose2394]

Im reading some replies and its crazy. Of course you ask for help. leaving a note is crazy thats not the way to go out. Suicide should only even be considered as a last resort. I have some serious depression even though tis gotten better i still feel extreme pain and i always wish i was never concieved or born but i would never kill myself. You at least want to ask someone maybe a friend maybe a relative maybe a so ial worker. You can even ask a random person. Just ask somebody a few pwoplw. Id be very sad to hear soomeone taking there own life.
Absolutely right!!!! I have been suicidal before. I've had suicidal gestures, and one attempt. The one attempt came from the one time I didn't ask for help. Suicide in and of itself shouldnt be a quick way out. For so many, it is the ONLY way out. Not asking for help is plain lazy. You talk about it being selfish? Bullshit!!! You are only selfish if you don't ask for help. Why? Because it shows you aren't thinking of anyone else and aren't even going to try and save yourself!!! I might sound like someone who doesn't get it, or self righteous, or a hypocrite. But in reality, I can think of only two ways suicide without a warning is justified: Terminal Illness, or truly being a burden to everyone else. Still don't think I understand? I DO understand the desire to die; the desire to inflict pain on yourself. I might not understand you specifically or your situation; however, I understand that asking for help can sometimes be the most SELFLESS thing you can do. It lets others know you still care about them; it lets others know that they are useful. But most importantly, it let's others know that you are truly at the end of your rope. I don't care about the stereotypes, and "if you really wanted to die, you would just do it." because that is just a plain lazy thing to say. Suicide in itself is not selfish when you are in too much pain. What is selfish is doing it without giving fair warning. It's like if you just stop showing up to your job; you didn't let them know you were done working there and you leave them hanging. It is ABSOLUTELY essential to give your "two weeks notice."