why do they always become friends

[green]

so whenever i want to date a girl, i flirt alot and hang around with them and stuff. and by the time i get up the courage to ask they all say somthing like "i dont want to ruin our friendship" or "i dont think of you that way". it really annoys me. now im glad i can have such great friends but i would really like someone to be extremely close with. how can i get friends to go out with me

[Blessthefall]

Really, for the most part, once you're "friendzoned" you're stuck there. I've had this same problem, and it seems to happen when the girl in question is a lot like me. I'm not saying go after girls who are your opposites (although opposites do tend to attract to each other_ but be wary of the "friendzone"

If it makes you feel any better, I have that problem as we speak.

[ImCoolBeans]

Try to make it clear that you are interested in dating a bit sooner than later. If a girl sees it as you trying to make a friend, they'll take that path and it's very hard to stray from. If you go into it with the intentions of dating, and make it somewhat clear that you are interested in them in that way early on, they will see that; avoiding the friend-zone and hopefully pushing it into the right direction. Of course if they aren't interested they just aren't interested, but this will help you avoid the dreaded and oh so horrible "friend-zone", which you most likely will never get out of.

[Blessthefall]

"Most likely will never get out of" roughly translates to "you're stuck, amigo."

Another piece of advice that goes with what CoolBeans said is to hope to God that you don't develop a crush on someone you're already friends with.

[Clevdawg]

The friend zone is the black hole of a relationship. No matter what you do the person won't want to be more than friends. Its not fun when you dig a person who is like that. And if you try to make it more than a friendshi, than it comes off as weird. Sorry your stuck

[Mortal Coil]

Try to lay off just a tiny bit. If you're slightly nonchalant* then girls find it easier to see you as dateable.

*NB: "slightly nonchalant" does NOT equate douchebaggy. If you do that then you won't have girl friends or girlfriends.