Dealing with my girlfriend's mom

[Buranri]

My girlfriend's mom is fucking ridiculous. Just 2.5 weeks ago she was fine... She let us hang out, invited me to dinner with them. Then they went on a trip, and since they came back she hasn't let us hang out once. She'll say yes, and then change her mind a day before. Every single thing my girlfriend does - for instance, asking to go in early to get help from a teacher - her mom automatically assumes she's hooking up with me. Hell, on Friday she got mad because she found out that I'm doing track, which is my girlfriend is as well. Basically the only time we get to see each other is school and if I sneak over, which I don't really do because her mom would almost literally kill me with a baseball bat.

And I mean, this I could understand. I get that a lot of guys are kind of assholes who just want to hook up, so I'm fine hanging out with her supervision or whatever. But not letting my girlfriend see me at all? It's pissing me off.

To add to that, she's kind of a bitch. She constantly yells at my girlfriend, becomes suspicious of every little thing she does, tells her she's a failure because she's not getting straight A's (she still has pretty good grades, Bs and Cs I think). I don't even have to deal with it like she does, but it's pissing me off.

So this is more of a rant than a question, I guess... but is there anything I can do here?

[User_Does Not Exist]

The mom sounds like a frekin psyco man, she's beyond controlling and probably overprotective. She's probably just stressed out about something, give her a while to cool off, just don't be a smart ass to her that won't solve anything. Try and hang out with like just the mom maybe see if yall can sooth any tension over that might exist. I used to hang out with my GF's dad all the time. Just play it by ear and respect her.

[Jupiter]

Well, to be honest... it frankly sounds like you are only getting one side of the story. She might not want her to date anyone, so don't take it personally. Does she have a history of sleeping around?

[Buranri]

Well, to be honest... it frankly sounds like you are only getting one side of the story. She might not want her to date anyone, so don't take it personally. Does she have a history of sleeping around?

That's not it, I think. I mean from what I can tell she likes me, and before President's Day weekend (when they went on a trip) I thought we got along pretty well. I don't know the details, but from what I've heard there was some incident that lead to her mom being a bit suspicious. My girlfriend just moved here in September and hasn't dated anyone since then, so I don't really know.

Aaaand now I just found out that my girlfriend has ADD (which I knew), but also that her mom doesn't let her take her meds...

[BassSwagg]

Im a girl and my mom is SUPER chill and loving and whatnot except when it comes to boys, i mean i got pregnant at 13 so its understandable but even before that she was still all up in my mug when it came to boys, just respect it and have an open disscusion with her :)

[botwa]

her mom is just caring and supervising. I bet she doesn't want her daughter to get pregnant early.

[Mortal Coil]

Her mom doesn't know how to raise a kid. She's super uptight and maybe you can *try* to reason with her. You probably won't be able to though, seeing as she's so irrational.
It looks like you're going to have to stick to seeing her at school and sneaking. Sorry :(

[Jdawg91]

There are several options to this.
Completely ignore her and go your own way as we aren't caged animals.
Question her authority and try to reason with her.
Be friendly and try to form a friendship with her to make her relaxed.

[Buranri]

There are several options to this.
Completely ignore her and go your own way as we aren't caged animals.
Question her authority and try to reason with her.
Be friendly and try to form a friendship with her to make her relaxed.

1 is probably what we'll end up doing. 2 would just be a mess. 3 is obviously the best idea, but it's kind of hard to be friendly with someone you never see.