13 and got drunk. NOT PROUD OF MYSELF.

[JustOneQuestion1]

OK, So Friday I was with some friends. And the title is pretty self explanatory. It led to a blackout of 3 hours. And during those 3 hours I threw up a couple of times. I was hungover on Saturday. But now I need help. I don't know how to redeem myself. Thats what I am here for. Now let me give you some things to hel you out with. I am not proud of it whatsoever, I am not addicted, I will not drink until MAYBE junior year in HS if not ever. And I am sick of myself. I feel like a mess. Somewhere I know I am a smart kid. I just cannot really find myself right now. How do I redeem myself?

[User_Does Not Exist]

What are you trying to redeem yourself from exactly?

You got wasted threw up and that was that, bad experience. The way your making it seem is as if you want to get trashed again and not blackout to show that you can handle it. If your trying to get rid of like a hangover, eat greasy stuff and sweat it out of your system, saunas work great for it. But at 13 you have no business getting drunk bud.

[JustOneQuestion1]

What are you trying to redeem yourself from exactly?

You got wasted threw up and that was that, bad experience. The way your making it seem is as if you want to get trashed again and not blackout to show that you can handle it. If your trying to get rid of like a hangover, eat greasy stuff and sweat it out of your system, saunas work great for it. But at 13 you have no business getting drunk bud.

Im not hungover I am over that and passed any experience of being drunk. I am trying to redeem myself as a person. To those friends I was with. The last idea I want you to get is that I am proud and to be all 'Ooo look at me im so cool LOL'. I don't wanna drink again either, There is no good out of it.
Sorry if I made it look that way.

[Jupiter]

hey bud.

i used to drink too. it isn't easy to quit, once you quit. the best way you can redeem yourself is to not get drunk again. it is what it is.

[User_Does Not Exist]

Im not hungover I am over that and passed any experience of being drunk. I am trying to redeem myself as a person. To those friends I was with. The last idea I want you to get is that I am proud and to be all 'Ooo look at me im so cool LOL'. I don't wanna drink again either, There is no good out of it.
Sorry if I made it look that way.

If they're not looking down at you then you don't need to redeem yourself. If you don't want to drink again then don't. Considering it was yor first time being drunk "quitting" is not going to be hard, just don't do it. If your friends invite you out again to drink, feel free to tag along, just don't participate in drinking.

[JustOneQuestion1]

If they're not looking down at you then you don't need to redeem yourself. If you don't want to drink again then don't. Considering it was yor first time being drunk "quitting" is not going to be hard, just don't do it. If your friends invite you out again to drink, feel free to tag along, just don't participate in drinking.

I dunno if they are looking down at me, I don't think they are but again I am not sure.

So in short, Just don't do it and don't worry about it. That is what I was hoping for.

[JustOneQuestion1]

hey bud.

i used to drink too. it isn't easy to quit, once you quit. the best way you can redeem yourself is to not get drunk again. it is what it is.

I mean it was my first try. And now that it was such a bad experience I have no desire to do it again. But were you able to get over the hump and quit.

[User_Does Not Exist]

I dunno if they are looking down at me, I don't think they are but again I am not sure.

So in short, Just don't do it and don't worry about it. That is what I was hoping for.

Exactly, it's not a good habit to pick up anyways, nor does good really come from it, especially with us teenagers. But yes, if they don't say anything leave it alone.

[JustOneQuestion1]

Exactly, it's not a good habit to pick up anyways, nor does good really come from it, especially with us teenagers. But yes, if they don't say anything leave it alone.
Awesome. Thanks man. I appreciate the help.

But, One of the four kids is subject to maybe saying something in the near future. What do I tell him if he brings it up.

[User_Does Not Exist]

Depends on what he says, its really all determined by you.

If you want to drink with your friends, go for it, just be careful. If you don't, then don't. If you want to hangout with them and they're going to drink, you can but that's where peer pressure falls into play.

Be more specific on " One of the four kids is subject to maybe saying something in the near future. What do I tell him if he brings it up"

[JustOneQuestion1]

Depends on what he says, its really all determined by you.

If you want to drink with your friends, go for it, just be careful. If you don't, then don't. If you want to hangout with them and they're going to drink, you can but that's where peer pressure falls into play.

Be more specific on " One of the four kids is subject to maybe saying something in the near future. What do I tell him if he brings it up"

I am not going to if my friends do drink.

What I meant to say was What if one of the guys brings it up and says. 'Dude man you were a freaking mess that night you were pathetic' Or something like that. Some statement that would make me feel/look like crap.

[User_Does Not Exist]

Brush it off, and be like ya drank too much on an open stomach bad night man bad night, never again.

Play it off as if it doesn't bother you, but be clear you don't want to do it again. If not you might recieve a second challenge.

[sandyrip1]

Best way to redeem yourself get drunk again :D

[JustOneQuestion1]

Brush it off, and be like ya drank too much on an open stomach bad night man bad night, never again.

Play it off as if it doesn't bother you, but be clear you don't want to do it again. If not you might recieve a second challenge.
Will do. Thanks man.

[User_Does Not Exist]

Best way to redeem yourself get drunk again :D

lol only when challenged!!

[Stryker125]

No one's looking down on you. There's no need to "redeem" yourself. Just realize that you did something stupid, and try not to let it happen again. You seem genuinely penitent, so be the smart kid you say you are and realize that there isn't much you can really do. Just move on.

[TheRock]

I became addicted to drinking. Water. Can't live without the stuff..

[georgiamay]

Most people get stupidly drunk at some point during their teens. I got so drunk at an after prom party that my dad had to come and pick me up, shower me naked, and had to sleep in my bed to make sure I didn't choke on my own vomit. Not a nice experience.

The point is, it's life experience. You don't need to "redeem" yourself, and if your friends do look down on you, the chances are the same thing will probably happen to them within the next few years.

Hopefully, you've learnt from this experience, and you'll be a bit more responsible. Remember not to drink too quickly, and stop drinking if you feel yourself getting a bit dizzy.

[UnholyConfessions]

Most people get stupidly drunk at some point during their teens. I got so drunk at an after prom party that my dad had to come and pick me up, shower me naked, and had to sleep in my bed to make sure I didn't choke on my own vomit. Not a nice experience.

The point is, it's life experience. You don't need to "redeem" yourself, and if your friends do look down on you, the chances are the same thing will probably happen to them within the next few years.

Hopefully, you've learnt from this experience, and you'll be a bit more responsible. Remember not to drink too quickly, and stop drinking if you feel yourself getting a bit dizzy.

100% agree with this.

You are young, you made a mistake, its no big deal. You learn from it. You don't need to 'redeem' yourself as you put it, you just get on with things. Nobody is going to think anything of the incident. We all do silly things at times when we're young, often involving alcohol. No big deal.

[Amaryllis]

Shame is a miserable thing to feel and I hope things aren't still as tough for you as when you made this thread. Forgiveness is something a lot of us need to work on. Especially forgiving yourself. You did something you're not proud of, we all do at one point, it feels terrible and maybe you just can't get it out of your head but tell yourself this: There are no mistakes. Because I learn from everything.

Well, you can. And you will, since you've acknowledged it as something you're not proud of. Ask yourself "What can I learn from this?" Your brain will answer your questions, just ask the right ones. Not "Oh crap why am I so stupid" but "What can I learn from this and how do I do better."

If you did something that hurt someone else or... Well, something embarrassing. Just go up to the people who were effected/saw and explain you were drunk as hell and you'll be a lot brighter from now on.

[Recreated]

Pray.