Padded Push-Up Bras

[mynameisjane]

so i know guys probably dont like padded/push-up bras because if a girl ever took her's off in front of him, her boobs are half the size he expected. but of course if he liked her for her personality, it wouldnt really matter, right? because im considering getting one. it would make me more confident, thus improving my personality, which is what really matters to guys, right? but i dont know how embarrassing it would be if i ever took it off in front of a guy.

[Ezz]

what do you mean by "a guys dont like push-up bras..."

[Maverick]

If he should like you for your personality then why fool him in the first place?

[Gumleaf]

If he should like you for your personality then why fool him in the first place?

a good point but maybe the girl needs it for confidence.

[mynameisjane]

because girls with a nicer body get noticed more. and if a guy i havent met notices me, he might start talking to me. we might get to know eachother and maybe get to liking eachother's personality. if he really likes my personality, what does my bra size matter? and i dont intend on having sex with a guy unless we're in love and we've been together for a couple months, so would it really be a big deal when it finally comes off?

isnt a padded push-up bra the same concept as make-up? girls put on mascara to make their eyelashes look bigger, lipgloss to make their lips look plumper, and concealer to hide their flaws. both are artificial ways to look better for a while and come off later. so why is makeup more accepted than a padded push-up bra?

[Maverick]

It's a false confidence though. Everyone should learn to be confident with who they are, not who they aren't. I can see this push-up bra only working temporarily with possible extra attention but it will only lead to guys mostly coming on to you for the wrong reasons and once they realize that reason isn't there, you might be finished with them. If you don't lie to begin with, then you'll only have guys that like you for who you are and you don't have to be worried about how he'll react when he realizes you've been lying about your body.
if he really likes my personality, what does my bra size matter?
Exactly so if it doesn't matter, then there's no reason to lie. Learn to get his attention other ways besides lying. Get his attention for what you really are.

Make up is visable and he knows its there so you wouldn't be lying since all guys know girls wear make up. You should try to be as real as possible otherwise you'll never find someone who likes you for who you're truely are.

[mynameisjane]

i'm not confident with how i look naturally. i dont know how to feel confident looking like i naturally do. so i'm really shy if i dont wear makeup.

if i'm with a guy long enough, could he really dump me for my boob size? i mean, i could tell if a guy likes my personality or just my looks. and if i'm with him for a long time without doing more than kissing, doesnt that prove that he doesnt just want me for my body?

[Maverick]

There's nothing wrong with wearing make up, getting plastic surgery, etc. If it makes you happy then do it. If he's a good guy he probably wouldn't dump you but it will make you look bad for lying. The point is though you shouldn't lie to begin with because if he's a good guy, he won't be overly concerned with your size. What I fear that all this will do is attract the wrong guys who will be with you only for your size and it will be a big mess when you finally admitt it or he notices.

Relationships should never start off as a lie.

[mynameisjane]

yeah, i guess.

[ThatCanadianGuy]

Hey, remember the other "size" forum for this you had Jane? You're beautiful just the way you are! Don't let yourself think otherwise!

[Lifesreject]

KK first of all if guys dunt notice u thats there loss not yours. I don't think there is any thing wrong with push up brs my best m8 as just gt a gel bra u if u r wondering wot it is lyke wen a lad takes ur bra off mab u should nt lead them on with the whole my boobs are bigger kinda thing bu its up 2 u

[Romeo]

Personally, I don't like girls that cover up their true appearance just to attract more guys. A girls appearance shouldn't play a major part in how a guy chooses who to date, but if he finds out that her appearance wasn't her true body, then he will get very offended.

[stridegum91]

i like push up bras but i wouldnt care when the girl took her bra off when they would be half the size because for a girl to look good in a push up bra they have to be at least something but id rather go for the personality

[Aηdy]

Although appearance shouldn't be a factor in a relationship, generally guys will pick the better looking girls, it's just the way it is.

[Enkoi]

Well, I have only one push up bra. I wore it for a while, and it really wasn't for other people to notice me. It was in fact about my self confidence and such. However, I only wear certain bras under certain shirts because different shirts make you look different (whether its mental or not).
Anyways, I understand your point about how it makes you look physically. You are correct with the point "it shouldn't matter if the guy really likes your personality." Because it shouldn't. Its not a big deal whether you wear one or not. Only how it makes YOU feel. Its about comfort and fitting well too. And I say go for it. You have nothing to lose quite honestly. If it makes you feel sexier, than its a benefit! But you shouldn't necessarily expect it to make some hot guy just automatically be attracted to you. Don't worry about your real boob size with guys until you're with the right one and you're comfortable enough with yourself.
It's all really about your self confidence. You shouldn't be sharing your body with others until you're ready to acccept your own. At least that's how it is with me, and I'm finally feeling that this year with my current boyfriend. He's not judgemental with me and likes me for who I am. He even doesnt want me to wear make up!
It's all up to you though...

[Carlene18]

Honestly, i'm a 34B and i wear a push up. It doesnt make them look bigger it just "pushes them up" thats what the bra is for.