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yankeefan7723
February 29th, 2012, 09:18 PM
So there's this girl I've known for about 3 years now and it hasn't been until recently that I've become attracted to her. Her looks, her personality, mannerisms, etc. I'm just really into her.

She used to have a thing for me when we first met, but I was attracted to someone else and she got somewhat touchy feely with me at a bowling alley at one point. I drive her to school everyday and I'm now starting to text her here and there. We haven't really had that kind of relationship until recently even if we live literally right down the street from each other.

This past weekend our families took a trip for the weekend to a big indoor water park in the Poconos and we hung out the entire time. Went everywhere in the water park together, even invited me back to her room afterwards. We talked a bunch, just one on one, no one around. Sat next to each other everywhere we went, did the arcade together, and even slept together. I woke up in the middle of the night and she was a little less than a foot away from me with her leg rubbing against mine. Given past history and how she's been recently I feel like there might be something between us. But, she has a boyfriend.

Though I don't know how serious she is with this guy as her past few relationships have been really short. I'm talking weeks and even days long, but she seems more interested in this one, but I still feel like I have a special place in her heart given our history. Our little sisters have taken notice as well. She just came off as extremely friendly this past weekend especially for having a boyfriend. When I say we went everywhere together, I'm not kidding. At one point, it felt like we were together.

I don't know. We're going on another trip together st. patties day weekend so that's probably going to be the climax of it all. Where I'll make my move, feel it out, see where we stand. I'm just confused as to if she's as interested in me as I think she is and all that kind of stuff.

Opinions, thoughts, suggestions? Thanks guys.

IAMWILL
February 29th, 2012, 09:43 PM
I don't think you should make a move with her until she has broken up with her current boyfriend and two weeks after that, so she has a little time to recover. At the same time, don't make the mistake of being that guy who shoulder she can cry on, I know its hard not to be but that is when you enter the friend zone and your just screwed at that point. Wait a little and see if she comes to you or makes a move. If you try something and her boyfriend finds out, your gonna be in deep shit.

ImCoolBeans
February 29th, 2012, 10:25 PM
I don't think you should make a move with her until she has broken up with her current boyfriend and two weeks after that, so she has a little time to recover. At the same time, don't make the mistake of being that guy who shoulder she can cry on, I know its hard not to be but that is when you enter the friend zone and your just screwed at that point. Wait a little and see if she comes to you or makes a move. If you try something and her boyfriend finds out, your gonna be in deep shit.

The friend zone is basically impossible to break out of. I agree with everything said in the quoted post; give her a chance to break up with her boyfriend and some time to get herself together after it, she'll need it. You don't want to make a move too soon and be that guy "friend" who she tells all of her problems to. Once you hit that stage you're treading in deep water within the friend zone.

Mortal Coil
March 1st, 2012, 05:00 AM
The friend zone is basically impossible to break out of.

Au contraire, mon ami. A lot of girls, although usually the more immature ones, tend to fall in love with their guy friends at some point in time, and usually if you were once in love with someone you'll still go out with them. The reason guys get friendzoned is often sexual revulsion, so keep going to the gym!

Black.Veil.Brides
March 3rd, 2012, 12:58 PM
just b u!!!