girlfriends best friend

[shadowhunter320]

hey, my girlfriends best friend and i hate eachother. were always fighting, amd my girlfriend is getting really mad at both of us for it. she says she chooses me, but feels bad, so shed rather not have to choose between us. i want her to get over that and just tell her friend she chooses me, but i dont want to do anything that will hurt my girlfriends feelings. i just cant stand her best friend, please help.

[Mortal Coil]

Is there a rational reason behind your hatred of her friend? If so, try to resolve that conflict. If she just pisses you off, then try to avoid her. Explain to your girlfriend that you don't want to hurt her feelings but that you aren't going to change like that, that you can't change your opinion just because you're dating.
All the best!

[Kaius]

Just because you don't get on with her doesn't mean your girlfriend has to choose between you both, she can still have both of you. At the end of the day its not her with the problem. It might just be better if you and the friend stay away from each other or contact each other and try and either clear the air or form a truce for your girlfriends sake.

[Stronger]

What Aaron said, or true and make mutal territory to not fight, don't have to be friends but don't fight either for the sake of your girlfriend

[shadowhunter320]

alright, ive tried. we always have to be around eachother though, and shes the type of person who wont let something be. she knows sarah (my girlfriend) chooses me, and that makes her mad because theyve been friends for years. i dont want to break their friendship, but she needs to know this isnt alright...

[Kaius]

You need to make your girlfriend understand that she doesn't need to choose between you both and you need to make sure this friend is around when you tell her that, because its adding hostility to the situation that really isn't needed.

[ImCoolBeans]

Just because you don't get on with her doesn't mean your girlfriend has to choose between you both, she can still have both of you. At the end of the day its not her with the problem. It might just be better if you and the friend stay away from each other or contact each other and try and either clear the air or form a truce for your girlfriends sake.

Basically what Aaron said. Just try to keep your distance from the friend, don't let it ruin your relationship. She doesn't need to pick one when she can simply have both.

[TeddyBearRock]

just go up to her friend and say "look, (girlfriends name) hate it when we fight and she feels like she gas to chose between obe of us, and i dont want her to do that, so for her sake can we try to get on?"

[shadowhunter320]

well, we had a loooooooooong fight today, i just stopped, she can say whatever she wants. im done...