Gay...?

[jhsjsams719]

I'm an 18-year old male.
So I've been having these "curious" emotions for a while... It freaks me out sometimes... I'm in class and then there is a girl and a guy...I look towards and check out the guy more than the girl. I'm clearly much more physically and sexually attracted to guys more than girls.
But, I can never imagine myself in a committed relationship or marriage with a guy... I always fantasize about the "ideal girl."
My sex drive is much, much stronger towards guys and I'll do things with him (more like I want to), but on the other hand, I would do things with a girl, but kind of like I don't have to (or I don't really have the sex drive for it, other than maybe if I want to have a child when I'm in a committed relationship with a woman)

I'd rather rub on a guy, I'd rather hug a guy, I'd rather kiss the guy, I'd rather have sex with the guy. But when it comes to emotions with a guy? I back off, and I am disgusted... There was this one guy that liked me, and I totally cut connection with him.

I think sex and commitment as two polar opposite things. I'd rather have the committed relationship with the girl but I'd rather the sex with the guy.

Ok, so I do give a subconscious effort in trying to impress a girl (i.e. looking good, being myself in a good way)
I have this guy friend I know that is sometimes too "bromantic" to me, that it makes me suspect them that he is gay, and I'm actually a bit uncomfortable how he crosses the line (as in he's going to spoon me, calling me his husband). I don't find those things too pleasant.
So in one view, I think I'm straight, but in another view, I think I'm gay.


What the hell am I?

[Bytefox]

Normal. That's what you are so don't worry.

A lot of people who are sexually attracted to men, whether they are gay or bisexual often try and force themselves to like girls by seeing girls as the "relationship" option.

The fact that you find it digusting to date a guy is likely your mind trying to put you on the path towards marriage and kids that you've been taught is right.

It isn't.

What's right for you is not the same as what is right for your parents, or the media.

If you feel attracted to guys, good, enjoy that, if you don't feel attracted to girls, then thats fine.

What I would suggest is really thinking about why you're disgusted by a gay relationship.

You clearly want to have sex with men and not women.

[Stronger]

You sound like you are bi and no totally gay. Since you are still some what attrached to girls, then you aren't totally gay, more or less bi. I don't see why you cut connections wit that boy, its not like you had to go out with him, he just liked you. I could also be wrong and you could be more gay, but I think your bi.

[jhsjsams719]

Normal. That's what you are so don't worry.

A lot of people who are sexually attracted to men, whether they are gay or bisexual often try and force themselves to like girls by seeing girls as the "relationship" option.

The fact that you find it digusting to date a guy is likely your mind trying to put you on the path towards marriage and kids that you've been taught is right.

It isn't.

What's right for you is not the same as what is right for your parents, or the media.

If you feel attracted to guys, good, enjoy that, if you don't feel attracted to girls, then thats fine.

What I would suggest is really thinking about why you're disgusted by a gay relationship.

You clearly want to have sex with men and not women.

So you're saying that society is pressuring me into put me in the path towards marriage. Yes, I've been actually thinking deeply about that... I think of a girl as an ideal person that you share emotions with...and lead to marriage. That might be because the media portrays to the society that man and woman are usually in committed relationships. I still don't know. The physical appearances of both men and women attract me, but I can't distinguish between admiration and attraction.

And I don't really see myself in a relationship with a male. I love my guy friends, but not like that. I would do them, but I wouldn't date them.

[CuriousDestruction]

It sounds like you are human to me. If you don't like to date guys, you don't have to date them. If you don't want to kiss girls, you don't have to. Do what you like to do and don't let anyone judge you, yourself included. Don't worry about labels like bisexual or gay. Sexuality is constantly changing and it may never completely settle. My advice is just to go where the wind takes you and have fun.

[Abyssal Echo]

I'm an 18-year old male.
So I've been having these "curious" emotions for a while... It freaks me out sometimes... I'm in class and then there is a girl and a guy...I look towards and check out the guy more than the girl. I'm clearly much more physically and sexually attracted to guys more than girls.
But, I can never imagine myself in a committed relationship or marriage with a guy... I always fantasize about the "ideal girl."
My sex drive is much, much stronger towards guys and I'll do things with him (more like I want to), but on the other hand, I would do things with a girl, but kind of like I don't have to (or I don't really have the sex drive for it, other than maybe if I want to have a child when I'm in a committed relationship with a woman)

I'd rather rub on a guy, I'd rather hug a guy, I'd rather kiss the guy, I'd rather have sex with the guy. But when it comes to emotions with a guy? I back off, and I am disgusted... There was this one guy that liked me, and I totally cut connection with him.

I think sex and commitment as two polar opposite things. I'd rather have the committed relationship with the girl but I'd rather the sex with the guy.

Ok, so I do give a subconscious effort in trying to impress a girl (i.e. looking good, being myself in a good way)
I have this guy friend I know that is sometimes too "bromantic" to me, that it makes me suspect them that he is gay, and I'm actually a bit uncomfortable how he crosses the line (as in he's going to spoon me, calling me his husband). I don't find those things too pleasant.
So in one view, I think I'm straight, but in another view, I think I'm gay.


What the hell am I? sounds 2 me ur Bi if ur both sexually and emotionally attracted 2 guys and u can c ur self spending the rest of ur life with a guy then yeah I'd say ur gay don't get all hung up on labels be your self. :)

[Daracon]

You are, in my opinion, not gay. In order to be gay you have to be willing to have a relationship with another guy i.e going out to dinner, even marrying him. If anything I think you are curious and leaning towards being Bisexual.

[ExhibitG]

you are sexually attracted to guys and emotionally attracted to girls, simple. that, in my opinion, would be classified as a variation of bisexuality.

[MJohn]

You are, in my opinion, not gay. In order to be gay you have to be willing to have a relationship with another guy i.e going out to dinner, even marrying him. If anything I think you are curious and leaning towards being Bisexual.

I agree^. I say you're probably bi or just curious. Same thing as happening to me. I'm curious to what giving bjs and having sex with a guy.. But wouldn't want to have a BF. haven't tried it so left unknown of my sexuality.