Bothering me

[Lethe]

Lately I've been really bothered with thoughts about a particular guy I've liked for awhile. Actually, two guys. One of them is a trombone player in the wind ensemble, the other is just a regular guy. Both are quiet, nice and moderately kind towards me, on the off chance that I actually get to say anything to them.

I like both of them because they're quiet and nice, not to mention they're pretty attractive (although none of my friends think so at all :confused:). I've been so troubled by how much I like both of them and it depresses me to no end. I know neither of them will ever like me; looking at their Facebooks, the girls they've added on their friends list are all very beautiful, with big breasts and nice figures and pretty faces. I'm none of that; just look at my avatar to get a good idea of what I look like. I know that I'd never appeal to them in any way, and it tortures me because I have to sit near them both in almost every class I have during the day and I'm around them constantly, although I never get to talk to them.

I don't know what to do :(. Prom is coming closer and I'm getting more and more depressed knowing that although I like both of them I'll never have a chance to be with either of them. It's been bothering me for weeks and it's driving me crazy. Should I just give up, knowing that neither of them will ever be interested in me?

[Stronger]

Don't give up, talk to them more, build up a nice relationship and who knows maybe one of them will actaully like you, unless you heard them say it then you still have a chance, if it doesn't workout then they weren't meant for you.

[Lethe]

I guess so. I'm just so used to being rejected and laughed at that I expect that no matter what I do or how much I try to look attractive I'll always be rejected. I can't imagine any guy ever liking me...

[Vonn]

looking at their Facebooks, the girls they've added on their friends list are all very beautiful, with big breasts and nice figures and pretty faces. I'm none of that

Comparing yourself to others who are more attractive than yourself gets you nowhere. By the same token, you're just as beautiful to some of the more homely girls that exist (I know, girls that are legitimately ugly, what a shocker) in the world. Congratulations. Now what?

just look at my avatar to get a good idea of what I look like.

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Did you have a picture of yourself in your avatar or are you actually referring to the cow? Because I swear.

I don't know what to do :(. Prom is coming closer and I'm getting more and more depressed knowing that although I like both of them I'll never have a chance to be with either of them. It's been bothering me for weeks and it's driving me crazy. Should I just give up, knowing that neither of them will ever be interested in me?

Way to make their decision before you've even asked them. If they're nice and they don't already have a date, one of them is bound to say yes. And if not, it won't be the rusty-spoon-through-the-eyeball rejection you're expecting.

I guess so. I'm just so used to being rejected and laughed at that I expect that no matter what I do or how much I try to look attractive I'll always be rejected. I can't imagine any guy ever liking me...

More than six billion people are on this planet. Half of them are guys. They're not all going to throw peanuts at you. Have some self-respect, regardless of how you're treated.

[unnamed94]

i want to make it clear that it doesnt matter how hot their facebook friends are or how unappealing you think you are. physical appearance shouldnt determine if a guy likes you or not. if you develop a good relationship with them as stronger suggested, maybe one of them will start to like you back.

[Smeagol]

If I were a guy, it would be my personal opinion that I would make a point of not choosing who I dated on their character. A lot of the good looking girls are just...really mean... and their boyfriends are more like a trophy then a actual boyfriend. Of course, that stereotype is unfair... So yeah just put your best foot forwards, be really nece and positive, and it is likely that one of them will go to the prom with you. Oh, and, I doubt you look like a cow, but if you do, cows are cute too :)

[Lethe]

Yes, I was referring to the cow.

I know I could ask them to go to Prom, but I'm female. It just doesn't seem right. Maybe I'm just succumbing to stereotypes but I'd prefer to avoid being embarrassed. Besides, I'm almost certain they'd say no. There are plenty of prettier girls to go with, why would they ever choose me?

[Smeagol]

A lot of people do not just choose their dates by looks :) It seems to be only the unreasonable people who do that...and if I were you, I'd go ask them, there's no time like now and it is better to have asked and lost then to have never asked at all, right? And I have some girl friends who asked their dates to go to prom last year, it does happen. That way, even if they don't want to go to prom with you (and I bet they will, you sound like a nice person) you will be able to move on.

[botwa]

It seems to me that you haven't even tried to talk to them, to be friends with them, you're just sitting and blabbing that you're ugly, that you will never get a chance to be close to them.
get a grip and start doing something.
I remember myself being in the same state. well, he didn't become my boyfriend but we're still friends. and I'm glad everything turned out this way.