Divorce

[Thunduhbuhlt]

My parents announced today that they are going to get a divorce, at the dinner table, as if it was nothing. Later they fought for a while and exchanged some harsh words.

I can't even begin to explain how I feel. I just want to crawl into a hole and stay there until this horrible nightmare ends. I can't even comprehend what my life will be like.

I guess it has been "a long time coming" and I should just not worry about it. i dug around to find that my mom had an affair and my dad has not been treating my mom right.

I cried myself as I watched my little brother and sister bawl their eyes out. You don't know how hard it is to explain to a 6 year old why this is happening and what will happen. I imagine my older sister who is 18 will take it okay because she can move out.

What can I do? I was thinking emancipation, and if I can prove to the court I will be better off with my sister, I may be able to make it happen.

Now not only do I have drama at school, I have to come home to more drama.
My parents both think I hate them, I don't. And I will never take sides.

Just venting, but reply if you would like to.

[shadowhunter320]

im really sorry to hear this, i hope everything gets better.

[Lethe]

I'm very sorry to hear that :(. I hope that everything works out alright for you! I know how it feels to have two parents who aren't exactly a match made in Heaven and I know what it feels like to be torn apart like that. I hope that you will be alright, and if you ever need anyone to talk to, you can allways VM or PM me!

[organickush]

I've been through the same thing , minus the affair, but it gets better faster than you think. if you have any questions, pm me.

[Stronger]

I am really sorry to hear about this sitution, I hope things will get better for you but you wanna live with your sister? If you wanna talk feel free to let me know. :hug:

[CuriousDestruction]

-hugs- Parents can really suck sometimes. Even if they are doing it for good reasons, doesn't make it hurt any less. Stay strong love.

[Desuetude]

Im really sorry, im not saying everything is sure be ok because thats not always the case but if you need someone to vent to then you can come to me.
You just have to think of the good things coming out of this. You wont have to listen to the arguments, your dad wont be hurting your mum, ect..
It will hurt but keep your head help high and you will get through this, everyone believes in you but it's ok to feel hurt and upset at it.
It takes time and im sure if you want it enough and are ready to fight for it with help from your sister then you have a chance of being able to be with her.
You dont have to take sides. Although it may feel like they want you to, well it does for me anyway, dont be forced to choose between them. You can still love them even if they dont live together and they still love you.

[xXl0sth0peXx]

Yo man. First, I'm sorry about their divorce. Divorce is never an easy thing, unfortunately. My heart reaches out to you and your family during this time, and if you ever need someone to talk to, I'm right here. :)

Next, don't assume your sister will be okay with it, just because she's allowed to move out. Maybe she can't afford to or isn't ready or something. Just because she's moving out doesn't mean she won't be affected. Chances are she will be, because he parents are splitting up. The people who raised her for 18 years. She will probably be hurt.

Next, emancipation.. It's a funny thing man. In most places, emancipation happens when you're at least 15 or 16, you have a job, and you have consent of both parents, among other things. So being as you're 14, that's not able to happen at least until you turn 15. However, if you're parents agree, you could always move in with your sister, if she moves out, if she's okay with it, and if your parents okay it. However, that depends on a lot of things, because most 18 year old girls probably don't want their 14 year old brother around living with them alone, no offense. Most people think emancipation is simple, you want to move out, so you go to court and they let you be your own person. Nope, it ain't like that. It's a long process. I wanted to get away from my parents last summer, and I figured emancipation would be the best. I talked to my friend, who sent me to his sister, who is a paralegal, who explained emancipation to me. Sadly, you're gonna have to choose a parent most likely, or go back and forth or something, because at least for the time being, you won't be able to get emancipated. Sucks, yeah it really does, but sadly some things in life can't be controlled. Your dad can't be mad at you if you go with your mom, and likewise if you go with your dad, your mom can't be mad, because they chose this. It's for the better they know, and they'll understand. They won't hate you. I could recommend asking your parents if you could see a therapist or something, to help you cope with this. A lot of people think of therapy as a sign of weakness, however it's not. And if you're honest with her about your feeling about the divorce, it will help. I strongly urge you to. It really helps to talk about things going on.

Again, I'm really, really sorry this happened to you, and best wishes to you and your family. <3