Am I Gay

[LateForTheSky]

Well I am posting this because I feel there is know one else that feels the way I do to the extent I do.
I have had this crush on a guy since I was 12 I have fantasised about having sex with him and he is all I think about. except a few other small crushes with other guys but nothing like this I don't get stimulated by girls atall and I must confess I look at gay porn reguraly. The reason I think this is more extreme than most is because i am 13 and not going to be 14 for a while so I was wondering if i'm going through a curious stage (very long 1 if so) or something more serious.

[Ironic Infidel In England]

Could be a curious phase, but from how you're describing it, it sounds like you're gay.

[Mirataku]

Sexual Psychologists agree that most people are not in a definate sexuality, according to the kinsey scale of sexuality. As he maybe your first sexual attraction, he might have a high rank in your sexuality but you might not be gay.

[LateForTheSky]

I hope your right Mirataku though I doubt we have a choice in our sexuality I always thought it was something that was already decided for u. And he is not my 1st sexual attraction I have had other before but this is the strongest. I did have a crush on a girl once but that was different I didn't feel any real sexual attraction to what I do with Nathan (thats my crushs name)and she was my 1st sexual attraction. any other help would be good no one else who has wrote in has the problems to the extreme I have or at least it dosn't come across to be as bad.

[MoveAlong]

Could be a curious phase, but from how you're describing it, it sounds like you're gay.

I agree

Altho, do you have emotional feelings for the same sex? What about the opposite sex? Are you attracted to girls?

[LateForTheSky]

Nope I had one crush on a girl but that was a 1st attraction and that apparently does not count because its the 1st time it has happened to u. Emotionaly, well i have this anoting problem were i always have to try and impress guys i dont know how to explain but i care alot more what they think than the opposite sex but i dont see myself settling down with a guy but as for girls they just dont interest me sexualy in ANY way.

[mattyboy28]

i know how you feel, i have gone around on here saying that im gay, cuz i have no attraction to girls, and i love any contact with guys... but still, im wondering if i am going through a phase. Ive had the suspicion that im gay for about two years, and for about one year i have been using gay porn.

[Φρανκομβριτ]

it sounds like you are, but at your age it could be a phase

[what the?]

The one person who can answer that question, is you. Do you think you're gay? If you do, you probably are, because no one knows you better than yourself. The only way you can really tell if you're gay, is to wait it out and see. Sexuality is a very complicated thing and even after five years of thinking you're gay, you might feel differently about boys or girls, or both lol. Just wait and see, it might be frustrating, but there's no other way.

My heart goes out to people struggling to understand or come to terms with their sexuality, cause I've been there and I know what it feels like.

I hope that you can understand what it is that you feel and come to a conclusion about your sexuality :)

[Enkoi]

Personally, I wouldn't know. However, I feel it is up to you to decide. I think it might be a phase.
And maybe this "strife for male attention" has to do with wanting to be accepted by your peers? I'm only giving a guess at this. At your age, many boys and girls want this for either gender.
I don't think you will know until it happens, and at the same time ofcourse don't go forcing yourself to "want girls" if you are afraid of being gay, or "want guys" if you really are convinced you are gay. Just allow time to let it fall into place.

Good luck!!

[davidprefierelmus]

Maybe unconsciously you feel scared or threatened by the opposite sex and that makes you feel rejected too. Then, as a way of self defence you are uninterested and fall in your comfort zone, the one you already know: boys. I don't think you are gay, yet.

[xTheLordsServantx]

Nope I had one crush on a girl but that was a 1st attraction and that apparently does not count because its the 1st time it has happened to u. Emotionaly, well i have this anoting problem were i always have to try and impress guys i dont know how to explain but i care alot more what they think than the opposite sex but i dont see myself settling down with a guy but as for girls they just dont interest me sexualy in ANY way.

maybe you're just physically attracted to men but not emotionally, which many psychiatrists and scientists say is not gay, but rather very normal.

Personally, I wouldn't know. However, I feel it is up to you to decide. I think it might be a phase.
And maybe this "strife for male attention" has to do with wanting to be accepted by your peers? I'm only giving a guess at this. At your age, many boys and girls want this for either gender.
I don't think you will know until it happens, and at the same time ofcourse don't go forcing yourself to "want girls" if you are afraid of being gay, or "want guys" if you really are convinced you are gay. Just allow time to let it fall into place.

Good luck!!

I couldn't agree more...

[MoveAlong]

Well I am posting this because I feel there is know one else that feels the way I do to the extent I do.

Yes there is. I felt that way when I was questioning.

Nope I had one crush on a girl but that was a 1st attraction and that apparently does not count because its the 1st time it has happened to u. Emotionaly, well i have this anoting problem were i always have to try and impress guys i dont know how to explain but i care alot more what they think than the opposite sex but i dont see myself settling down with a guy but as for girls they just dont interest me sexualy in ANY way.

That sounds like you're gay. I identify with something very similar! :D

Sexual Psychologists agree that most people are not in a definate sexuality, according to the kinsey scale of sexuality. As he maybe your first sexual attraction, he might have a high rank in your sexuality but you might not be gay.

Hey, I know a hot girl when I see one, and I think to some extent women can be beautiful, pretty, hot, cute etc but I'm just not into that. I don't agree with the Kinsey scale for sexuality - I agree with most of his other work tho

But as said (yada yada yada) you're the only one that can find your true sexuality!

[Melchi0r]

Hey, I know a hot girl when I see one, and I think to some extent women can be beautiful, pretty, hot, cute etc but I'm just not into that. I don't agree with the Kinsey scale for sexuality - I agree with most of his other work tho

This is what I'm like too. Sometimes I see a girl and think "She's really pretty" or "she's hot". But I don't really want to have sex with her. I sometimes think aobut it but then it goes away quickly. If she's nice I'd date her but sex with a girl isn't so much appealing to me as sex with a guy.

[Emryl]

Your gay. Thats it! Don't be dissapointed though. You are probably curious about your sexual orientation, so you really are still in the judgement area. You won't know for sure untill you tell yourself you are.

[NintendoFanboy]

This is what I'm like too. Sometimes I see a girl and think "She's really pretty" or "she's hot". But I don't really want to have sex with her. I sometimes think aobut it but then it goes away quickly. If she's nice I'd date her but sex with a girl isn't so much appealing to me as sex with a guy.

YES YES YES! This is exactly how I feel! HA! :yeah: Anyway...

Yeah. Unless you want to be gay, you aren't gay. KK? :yeah: But if you really feel this way, I'll say that you are gay... I'll admit it, and I'm a Christian!

[LateForTheSky]

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Yeah. Unless you want to be gay, you aren't gay. KK? :yeah: But if you really feel this way, I'll say that you are gay... I'll admit it, and I'm a Christian![/QUOTE]

U can't decide trust me I've tried although I fell I'm coming to gribs with it and I have told one of my BEST friends and he is fine with it but is extremly str8 I don't think he will ever become curious although he said he had done when he was younger but we are pritty young right now and I feel he might just be trying to comfort me. Despite him being str8 I am starting to have deeper feelings than friendship with him now and feel like i (this sounds REALLY CHEESEY) I feel like i am begining to love him the feelings are not just sexual but i really do adore him and that other boy. I just feel that i now should just enjoy the feelings i have and if they change over time well they do but now that i have got over the "I THINK I MIGHT BE GAY" thing i can relax. All this aside I dont see myself settling down with anyone of the same or oppisate sex but see myself settling down. But i dont like being alone and want someone in my life to love in a sexual, friendship, adoring way. I feel a bit empty in this way alone, no matter how many people are around me.