Parents Love Control

[Antagonist]

Okay, so my parents (mostly my dad) love control. First of all, he thinks its his decision as to when I get my hair cut. He says longhair is ugly, so he makes me get it cut.To be honest, I look GOOD eith long hair. And most guys and girls in my town like it too. But my dad is like "I dnt give a f*** what you like, you're getting a d*** hair cut!" Look. Juat because you were brought up to think thqt longhair is "gay" doesnt mean you have to force your biased opinions on me.
Secondly, he thinks he has to tell me to do everything. "Noah go brush your teeth." Ive known to brush my teeth after every meal since second grade. And when I say "I know" he gets mad because its a "smart" comment. He says I have to be told to do everything, when the reality ia he does it regardless.
Also, he is so bipolar. Right after we get done arguing, he acta as it never happened. Wha the hell is wrong with him? Hes a bully too. He knows Im bi. He knows im more feminine. So why do you think I walk like abgirl and talk like a girl? Idiot >_<
And religion. He'd rather me be bi than Wiccan. Hes okay with bisexuality, but not Wicca. Wtf? He bought me abig book on magicka arts, Hindu magick, and indian occultism, and you DONT want me to be Wiccan? Make up your mind.

Help :T

[botwa]

well you have no choice. you have to tolerate his behavior until the day you become an independent person.
I think there's also that thing that you somehow urge him to behave this way. you're bi and you try to push it in his face and he becomes more fierce about that. maybe if you were a little bit more cunning, you would get more freedom. listen to him, don't leave that "smart" comment. when you accept your father as he is (believe me there's no way he can change right here and right now), he will accept you. not totally and immediately but step by step. try to build a good relationship with him and you will see it getting better.

[Stronger]

I going to agree with the user above, the best way for things to get better won't be until your independent. Things could just get worse if you try and fight with him on everything, it may just be better to just suck it up and listen to him (sorry if its not what you wanted to hear but its better than nothing)

[Antagonist]

well you have no choice. you have to tolerate his behavior until the day you become an independent person.
I think there's also that thing that you somehow urge him to behave this way. you're bi and you try to push it in his face and he becomes more fierce about that. maybe if you were a little bit more cunning, you would get more freedom. listen to him, don't leave that "smart" comment. when you accept your father as he is (believe me there's no way he can change right here and right now), he will accept you. not totally and immediately but step by step. try to build a good relationship with him and you will see it getting better.

But like... i dont push it in his face. I dont talk about that stuff around him.

[Invisible Ninja]

[QUOTE=biandproud1998;1632140]Okay, so my parents (mostly my dad) love control. First of all, he thinks its his decision as to when I get my hair cut. He says longhair is ugly, so he makes me get it cut.To be honest, I look GOOD eith long hair. And most guys and girls in my town like it too. But my dad is like "I dnt give a f*** what you like, you're getting a d*** hair cut!" Look. Juat because you were brought up to think thqt longhair is "gay" doesnt mean you have to force your biased opinions on me.
Secondly, he thinks he has to tell me to do everything. "Noah go brush your teeth." Ive known to brush my teeth after every meal since second grade. And when I say "I know" he gets mad because its a "smart" comment. He says I have to be told to do everything, when the reality ia he does it regardless.


I thought my dad was the only one. We are all Christians, so he leaves out some of those "choice" words, but when I read your comments I felt like I was listening to my dad :/. Just try not to talk to much with a "smart" tone, or just nod and go on when he tells you to do something that you already knew to do. That's what works with my dad and I. The haircut, idk, I still get mine cut every 6 weeks to 2 months. Sorry i cant help you there. Hope the little bit I did tell you helps.

[botwa]

But like... i dont push it in his face. I dont talk about that stuff around him.

I don't mean you push it in his face but I'm sure he sees that you are not happy with that and even those little things you say are showing him that you're in the defendant's position.

[blueranger]

:what:Hello? Is anyone dere? :*

[Mortal Coil]

I agree with everything said above. My parents are really similar to yours: my mother doesn't accept my religion, and calls anything I say a "smart comment."
It's not fair, but it is temporary.
If it feels better, rebel behind their backs. Just don't get caught. Do something crazy but be smart about it. I'm not telling you to get arrested, but do something for yourself to spite them. I promise it will make you feel better, and will remind you that as much as your parents want to control you you are still a separate human being. No one can take that away from you unless you let them, and you're a really strong person. I trust you won't.

[XxAssasiNxX]

U cant just go through life takin orders from a stupid army dad. One day youl just have to stand up against him.

[CoolKid97]

My dad and mom are like this. They call me gay or queer more of my mom if I want long hair. They say once you move out you can get long hair and do whatever you please with your body... Message me sometime!