Court case

[sarah newman]

So for those of you who have read my past posts on abuse, I know you would probably think I'm asking for it. Believe me, I'm not.

I was being sexually groomed.

This guy has been found, and a few days a go I got a letter home saying he has been charged for penetrative sex with two 13-15 year olds, rape a 16 year old or over, non penetrative sex with a 13-15 year old and sexually grooming with a 15 year old.

The police are saying if I met up with him again- because last time I went with my dog- then he would of raped me, because he wanted me to go without my dog.

It has gone up to crown court because it's to serious for magistrates court to deal with, and I will be in court on the 3rd may.

Along side all this, I have exams to prepare for, and I'm under a lot of pressure. I feel guilty because if he raped someone after me then I could of stopped it but I didn't believe he was like this. He has two kids he's not allowed to see.

Sorry, I just had to right this, I didn't know where else to put my feelings. Any ideas on how to cope with this would be much appreciated.

[Jupiter]

It's not your fault that he is a sick bastard. You know this, right?

[sarah newman]

I know that bits not my fault, but I feel that if he did all this after I met up with him then I feel like what he's done is my fault and I feel guilty. Hes 24 years old roaming around 13-16 year olds, he's sick. I just feel bad for what's happened to the other girls.

[Jupiter]

you're so lucky he didn't do that to you. just remember that.

[sarah newman]

I know

[The_Narwhal]

It wasn't your fault, It was his, remember that.

Plus there was no way you would have known about the other girls.

You need to stop blaming yourself for what this bastard did. By reporting him, you've stopped him from doing this to any other girl.

Remember its not your fault.

Good Luck with the court case. If you ever want to talk, I'm here.

[sarah newman]

The police aested him for something else and found stuff on his phone and that's how they found out. Okay thank you.

[sarah newman]

Okay, I'll try and think positively. And I know, my parents and the police are saying he will do time but it's just a matter of how long.

[CuriousDestruction]

And he is going to live with those charges on his record forever. Every job and every employer he tries to get work from will know he did this. Even if he doesn't serve much time, his life is going to be much shittier from now on and there will be a lot of legal stuff to prevent him from hanging out with teenage girls. The people above me are right, try to think positive. Justice is being done as much as it can be done.

[sarah newman]

Yes I know, I'm gonna get a liaison officer for when I got to court, thank you for commenting, anyone else who wants to comment is welcome to :)

[sarah newman]

Hey, so I have given my evidence a few weeks ago.. Scariest thing! But I'm so happy with the result, he's got 7 years in prison with 5 additional years on licence, and he's on the sex offenders register for life! :D