Horrible Frickin Break-up!

[mosin1942]

Okay, so tonight my girlfriend broke up with me, supposedly for my own good, but according to her she still loves me and just needs time, but she told me not to wait on her, well when my friends found out about the break up they all got sick of me, started screaming and as a result i am now left standing here by myself, no true family, no friends, no girlfriend, and in an incredibly ticked off state, and i am tempted to just say "F you!!!" to the whole idea of love and not being alone, but i'm still nto really sure what to do, what do you guys think?

[Jupiter]

I'm sorry this happened to you. Breaking up really really sucks.

From experience, I know that you just need to give it time, to move on. How long were you guys dating?

[mosin1942]

we were only dating for about a month, but we were friends for a while before that, and though it was difficult going to seperate schools we still managed to spend almost every other day together, and it took me over a year of searching to find a girl i'd even consider dating, and she was it

[Stronger]

I'm sorry to hear about this, I think thats odd she said she still loves you, seems fake to me, my friend's ex when he broke up with her told her he still loved hr and stuff, but anyway I hope things work out

[Jupiter]

Now, I hate to contradict Brandon here, but I did love someone even though I broke up with them..

How many times have you argued with this person, OP?

[Stronger]

Now, I hate to contradict Brandon here, but I did love someone even though I broke up with them..

How many times have you argued with this person, OP?

But why? well..actaully now that I think of it, I think im wrong as to what I said

[Jupiter]

Because, my old girlfriend and I argued everyday. We had to end that relationship, because we both just hated each other. It got to the point to where I wasn't dating Alexis because I loved her, but because I loved being in a relationship.

[mosin1942]

we never had an argument, when we had disagreements we actually sat down and agreed on a compromise, and she said that she's got a lot going on and can't focus on me right now and that that is unfair to me, but i'm perfectly willing to go through that for her...

[Jupiter]

That isn't really fair to anyone, to be honest. But you have to do the selfless thing and let her be happy.

[mosin1942]

she also said that she will probably want to get back together at some point, but that if she does have to move that would make it hard, (which i understand but i think it could be worked through) and she does not want me to wait for her even though she acknowledges still having very strong feelings for me, and she said that she's just trying to sort her own stuff out, should i try to wait it out and see if anything changes here shortly before i make any strong decisions? and right now the only two options i can really see are either sitting and waiting to see if she does want to get back together, or give up on the possibility of love completely...

[Buranri]

Personally? I would just wait. Not necessarily try to get straight into another relationship, but perhaps not avoiding one either. If you find another girl, then date her. If your ex wants to come back, date her.

[Manga]

I have a friend like that, she can be a complete idiot tbh when she is like that. Either give it time or move on or talk to her about how it makes you feel and if she really does still like you, get her back.

The whole "Fuck you" attitude is actually good though, really helps.

[Ambrosia]

Here's the deal, and I'll explain it bluntly:

She is just stringing you along. This girl obviously just wants you there, ready to take her back at any moment, so that if she ever needs a boyfriend it won't be hard for her to have one she can drop again at any moment. She's using you, and that's that. Forget about her, and move on with life. Stop searching for a girlfriend, and just live your life. When a girl comes along worthy of your affection, you'll know, and it'll happen. Searching only brings problems, and fake relationships.

As for those friends of yours? Forget them too. They aren't real friends if they drop you like a hot potato like that. Make new friends, and don't worry about it.

Good luck!

[mosin1942]

well, we both ended up deciding to move on and see if things work out between us at somepoint, i get the feeling that things will forever be awkward between us now... i've stopped talking to her for the time being, hopign to some day be friends and maybe see if things work out again, but as for right now i need to move on, and that would be a ton easier if i knew any girls that actually fit what i wanted other than her...

[Aves]

well, we both ended up deciding to move on and see if things work out between us at somepoint, i get the feeling that things will forever be awkward between us now... i've stopped talking to her for the time being, hopign to some day be friends and maybe see if things work out again, but as for right now i need to move on, and that would be a ton easier if i knew any girls that actually fit what i wanted other than her...

Things won't "forever be awkward" like you said. Trust me. They never are. Don't sever the ties you have with her though. That's the biggest regret I've ever had with my ex's. You wait too long (which at the time doesn't seem that long) and they're gone forever. Just move on and live life for now. That's the best advice I can give.

[unnamed94]

it seems that she is either stringing you along like lexi said or is just lying to you about how she feels and stuff so it wont be that hard for you, knowing you still have feelings for her. the best decision is to move along and see if maybe your feeling for each other develop again naturally in the future. btw, fuck your friends if they treat you like that after it. find some true good friends. a real friend wouldnt scream at you after your break up specially if they know how you feel.

[Iron Man]

If she does not want to stay with you, its her loss. You have your whole life ahead of you to find somebody else. Of course you will have setbacks (everyone does), but it doesn't mean you throw in the towel. If you try and be alone forever, and the right person comes along, you will forever regret blowing it off and not pursuing it. Miss Right is out there, just keep looking, and good luck!