help need a lot of help fast

[bradsandman123]

So ok we and my dad fight daily over something and these are the reasons
-His dad my grandfather died 3 years ago and his mother my grandmother 4years
-My mental issues
-My lack of caring about anything from said reason above
-Stress about money
-His lack caring of him going to counciling with me to talk about our issues
-His anger with all of us
-ETC. there's a lot going wrong with us
-Him not supporting my goals and dreams
I really need help also with what's happening my anxiety and depression are back to were it was last year. also the fact that his family won't talk to us cause we moved a hour away and my moms mother my grandmother doesn't talk to us my life's a mess i don't know what to do i need help badly.

[Mortal Coil]

I'm really sorry about all of this. You should really see a doctor if your anxiety and depression are getting worse, they can help, honestly. It always sucks when parents don't support their children, despite what may have happened to them personally. Perhaps talk to him rationally at a time when he's in a relatively good mood, and if he starts to instigate a conflict then get out of the situation. Also, this doesn't need to be said but don't start an argument yourself.
It's good that you understand his reasons for being under stress as well as your own, and since you have that insight you can stop fighting more quickly.
Tell him you don't want to fight and try to get rid of the root problems. I know you can't bring your grandparents back from the dead, but let him get his anger out, try and figure out why he doesn't support you etc.
All the best!

[bradsandman123]

I go to therapist tried to work it out that way and still nothings changed. There was a paper we made saying how to interact better but he doesn't get it. Also he has depression too and won't get help but there are somedays we get along and it's nice. We went on the allagash for a week and it was great we didn't fight like usual it was minor. Then when we get home back to were we started. He was in the front of the canoe and he listened to me for once because of the danger in chase rapids and i've done the trip before. So i'm truly lost. I don't know what to do next i'm going to college next year and my girlfriends going to basic training on june 9th the day after we graduate from high school for the navy for three months then coming home for three to 12 weeks then being stationed in Norfolk, Virginia i'll finish my fire science degree move down with her. But in those three months i'll be working as a truck driver. Another issue is i'm getting a job so i can get a truck he won't let me and my mom do it because of other things i've owned and broken when trying to fix them. But i need a truck to get to work, hauling my quad and hunting reasons. I don't get most of his reasoning behind most things he says and does it makes me so mad all the time.