Don't want to be...

[jacob6545]

Hey, I've been reading the forums for a few days now, and I figured I'de make a post to see if I could get some help... well the story is, is I'm gay... get turned on by alot of guys. But I don't want to be gay, I know if your straight you feel the same attraction as gay, but your normal. Just wondering if theres anyways to be straight without *pretending*... because you can only pretend so long

[MoveAlong]

There's no real way to become straight, or at least, that's what the majority of the gay community says.

There are some religious organizations that claim that they can 'cure' homosexuality, but it's not that easy and in the GLBTQ community, you can't choose to be gay.

Millions live with it. They grow to accept themselfs =]
Altho, if you mean straight acting, that's something that I've been trying to do for a long time and it has payed off, tho I'm not quite there yet.

[jacob6545]

Well... I can always fake it I suppose, which really doesn't make you feel good. I'll look into "curing it" but I probably won't find much luck :(

[MoveAlong]

Well I don't believe that you can cure it because it's not a disease or mental illness.

And fake what? Pretend you like girls? No, just like guys. It's much easier and you'll be able to live with it much easier.
+ if there really was a way to cure being gay, why would we even have gay people, and why are there so many? :-/

I think you should just be comfortable with it =]

[jacob6545]

it's not a disease or mental illness.
What would it be =/ ... not really my choice

[Mirataku]

A sexuality has many theories; biological attraction, psychological constructs, or just personal preference.

[LateForTheSky]

Well you can't change how you sexualy without going into denial u either grow out of it as u finish puberty or don't simple as that.

[MoveAlong]

...u either grow out of it as u finish puberty or don't simple as that.

You can't grow out of sexuality - you grow out of curiosity! :P

[Melchi0r]

What would it be =/ ... not really my choice

It's normal human sexuality. If homosexuality were a mental illness or disease then so would heterosexuality.

You don't have to come out to everyone right away but faking being straight forever is so painful. It kills me to pretend to be straight all the time.

I'm really sorry but if you're gay you can't change it. Religious organizations who claim to "cure" homosexuals only make their depression worse. Sexuality can't be reversed. Denial is one of the first parts of discovering that you're gay or bisexual.

Things will look up. *hug*

[lxl]

It's normal human sexuality. If homosexuality were a mental illness or disease then so would heterosexuality.

You don't have to come out to everyone right away but faking being straight forever is so painful. It kills me to pretend to be straight all the time.

I'm really sorry but if you're gay you can't change it. Religious organizations who claim to "cure" homosexuals only make their depression worse. Sexuality can't be reversed. Denial is one of the first parts of discovering that you're gay or bisexual.

Things will look up. *hug*

yeh... its really painful to keep it to yourself... i was in denial for like 2~3 months and learned to accept myself... its not easy but its not hard as you might think
good luck

[what the?]

I can understand why you might not be happy with the way you are, but you're born that way, it's just something you have to deal with. At first it might seem daunting, but you learn to find a way to deal with it. It's probably not as bad as you think. In my experience, friends and family have been extremely supportive, and why wouldn't they. I'm still the same Ashley that I was five or six years ago, except a heck of a lot taller lol.

I honestly wouldn't worry, if you just try and live with it, you'd probably be a lot happier :)

[Blahages]

Yeah, studies have been done, those supposed things that help you become "Not Gay" don't work, period. They're just going to lead to depression, or make it worse. They're just religious/anti-gay garbage, nothing more.

As for "Straight-Acting," It's all stereotypes. There is a huge percentage of gays that "act straight." It depends on what you mean by that.

Do you have any reason to "pretend not to be gay," besides not wanting to be? If not, there's really no reason to hide it. There's definitely no reason to flaunt it, but there's no reason to conceal it or pretend to be something you're not either.

[Rawrbaby]

It's hard i know i kept it in for 2 years and i just recelenty told my friend today i was and she excepted me but anyway don't pretend to be straight
it's better to not pretend and just go on with it who likes living a lie and trust me you will feel better once you stop living that lie