So confused...

[christianteen]

Hi;

Right now I have a big problem to do with relationships.

So I've liked this girl for about a year and I've been slowly working on her to get her to like me. I impressed her at the school talent show, I bought her a concert ticket and I smashed everyone in the school swim meet just to name a few.

But only a few weeks ago a friend and I were talking about my art in the form of literacy. Then this other girl overheard me talking about it and she walked over and we all started talking about it. She asked if she could see some of it and I said that I'd bring it in the next day which I did. I gave it to her and she asked me if it was okay if she read it later which I said was fine. We then got into a conversation about people our age and how they waste their time though video games and television. She said it was really impressive that I was focusing on such an artistic thing and I thanked her for it.

A few days later I asked if she'd read it yet and she said that she had read part of it but not all of it. Even though she said that what she read was very good. Now it's been a few days and I've been noticing that she's looking at me almost every time I walk past her. So after that I kind of liked her and I told a friend of mine. He then asked one of her friends who wouldn't give it up but said that this girl liked one of his friends. That could be me!

To make it even more confusing there's this girl at youth group who I like as well.

So now I'm confused about who I should like. I'm stuck in a three way calamity here!

The first one who we'll call "S" is hot and raw. We're the same age and we like the same sorts of things and I think we have a similar personality. But at school she's called a slut and she hangs out with some pretty unsavoury characters. I also found out only on Friday that she's got a recent boyfriend.

#2 will be called "M." She's sweet, smart, elegantly beautiful, kind of bubbly and artistic. No downfalls that I know of.

#3 is "H." She's two years older than me and she's very beautiful. She's also got a very happy feeling about her and she's intelligent.

I don't know what I should do! I need advice here!

[prob1996]

I'm not sure what you are asking? Do you want us to pick which girl you should "like" or go out with? If that's the case, no one can tell you who to like or be attracted to. For example, I was in a relationship with two very different guys. I honestly was in love with both of them for totally different reasons. I ultimately ended up picking one because it wasn't fair to anyone and I'm very happy with my decision. My point is you're going to like who you like for whatever reason. If you want to see who's the better choice to pursue well, I honestly think #2 "M" sounds like an awesome girl and would be a better match based on what u've said.
The first girl you said recently has a bf, probably best to avoid getting involved with her then and the last one "H" is a little older and sometimes that can be tough on a relationship too.
Again, in the end no one can tell you who to like. You have to just follow your heart and be honest with yourself and be respectful to the other person!
Hope that helps and good luck with your decision!

[Stronger]

No one can tell you who to chose but in my opinion #2 "M" seems like the girl who would make you happy. The first girl, sounds like she hangs out with the wrong crowd and recently got out of a relationship, the last one could be too mature and not be what you want and that only leave the #2 which seems to be just right, but of course its your choice :)

[unnamed94]

well if i were to make my decission from what you said, i would say go for M. S has a boyfriend and has some type of bad reputation so to avoid trouble, dont go for it. although the age difference isnt a problem, the fact that most of what you wrote is about S and your relationship with her makes it look like you have stronger feelings for her than for H. its up to you in the end

[MonsterChic]

#2 sounds actually like a good match for you.. Considering how #1 is thought to be in a relationship and #3 is older then you (:

[botwa]

every time a person asks this question I want to assure him/her that no one will be perfect for you
if you still hesitate and can't decide on your own then skip them all

no one here can tell you the right answer, only you can

[christianteen]

I forgot to mention that M is one year younger than me. We're in the same grade but she's a year younger.

[Smeagol]

Well, do you feel the particular need to date one of them? Because, you could just randomly pick M or H. The thing is... you really need to sit and think about them, and also... H is two years older than you. She isn't in your grade, she'll graduate before you. S, well, she's sort of out of the question since she's dating another guy. If I were you, I'd date M. You described her the best, and honestly, she sounded the best to be with. But, maybe you should just take a break and be single before pursuing anybody.

[Stronger]

I forgot to mention that M is one year younger than me. We're in the same grade but she's a year younger.

One year is nothing, I think shes your best choice of the three, she seems to be the right one for you, good luck :)

[TeddyBearRock]

I would say #2 you both suit each other really well. Ask her.

[spiderdude]

I'd go with #2 but that's cause im me