Were at one time gay , bisexual, or curious only

[nick2014]

Ok so I'm straight/curious leaning toward bisexual...& I'm trying to stop & be just straight...can anyone help me ?

[senior.2013]

You cant choose your sexuality, it is just there. Youre what, 14? You will probably grow out of it. Almost everyone has a curious stage in their teens.

[nick2014]

15...won't go into detail but lets just say I forced to b this way

[Rayquaza]

You cant choose your sexuality, it is just there. Youre what, 14? You will probably grow out of it. Almost everyone has a curious stage in their teens.

Basically this. Your sexuality isn't an option. Besides, I was like this but im 16 now and I classify myself as straight.

[Bigswedishboy]

15...won't go into detail but lets just say I forced to b this way

How were you forced

[Stronger]

You are what you are, you can't change who you are. Check this link (http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=125182) out it should help you.

[CuriousDestruction]

You can choose to hide your impulses and feelings about someone. You can live a lie and say you only like women. you can swear yourself to secrecy and never live to your fullest potential. but the truth is, you'll still feel the way you feel. You'll still be attracted to those you like. regardless of gender. Nobody here can help you stay straight. but every one of us will support you no matter who you are attracted to.

[chancebest]

Your sexuality isn't really a choice, be yourself and don't change who you are.

[AveryK]

I am straight, butI get turned on by guys. Sometimes i even masturbate to gay porn. But i like woman alot more

[nick2014]

I was forced into bi b/c in 7th grade my step brother made me blow him give him hand jobs he performed anal on me & pretty much he forced me to do every sexual thing u can think of ...i never wanted any of it but eventually it was an every night thing that wer were doing this...& eventually I turned

[ExhibitG]

I was forced into bi b/c in 7th grade my step brother made me blow him give him hand jobs he performed anal on me & pretty much he forced me to do every sexual thing u can think of ...i never wanted any of it but eventually it was an every night thing that wer were doing this...& eventually I turned

i'm very sorry for what sounds like a traumatizing experience, but even that can't "turn" you bi. it's just who you are. there are plenty of other bi and gay people that are born gay or discover that they are bi/gay during puberty. there's nothing you can do to change who you are.

[nick2014]

but I don't want to be like this I want to be straight I get made fun of for bieng like this

[senior.2013]

If friends cant accept you for being who you are, you dont need them. Im sorry you feel you were 'forced,' but you arent really gay/bi until you start feeling an emotional attraction toward the same sex. Do you feel an emotional connection to men? If you do, then you are Bi. You arent bi because someone made you that way, but you should tell someone about it. If you develop the emotional attraction, you can call yourself bi or gay.

[kaiba]

Just do whatever, i don't think u can just decide to be straight or gay or w/e.
If u wanna pretend ur straight and ur not then go for it but it's not good

[KarkatLuv]

First of all, you don't get to choose, your sexuality is not up to you. Second, this is how i think of it, when you are bi you have double the fun, double the chances of finding love, i been bi since primary but only near the end of 2010 did i realise what it ment, be honest to yourself, or your life will be a sucky one

[lizzard]

As has been said, you don't chose your sexuality. Sexual preference, in the sense of defining it to a single term, is determined by the gender an individual finds themselves emotionally or sexually attracted to. A person can find themselves sexually attracted to members of the same gender - i.e. enjoying gay porn - while only finding emotional happiness in relationships with members of the opposite gender - i.e. seeking relationships along the lines of dating with girls/boys depending on your gender.
A person can also be emotionally or sexually attracted to people of multiple genders and define themselves as bisexual, pansexual etc.
They may not find any type of attraction for anyone: asexuality.

In your case, you say you were, well, let's go with abused, by an older sibling. A person mind is what determines their attractions, be it to males, spinach, or a favorite color. In your situation, it seems to me (a non-professional, whose advice should have no medical weight whatsoever) that the prolonged abuse you suffered resulted in you succumbing to accept the treatment imposed upon you. It could have had a psychological effect that caused you to eventually like the sexual behavior that was occurring. That may affect your sexual attraction but should have no impact on your emotional attraction. If you seek a deep relationship with only females and dispel any desires for sexual relations with males, than for all intents and purposes you are straight. If you seek a deep relationship with both males and females, then you are bisexual. This attraction would be emotional and thereby not have been affected by your past abuse. And to simply complete the basic theory here, if you seek a relationship with females and choose not to suppress a sexual desire for males then you are bisexual to some extent.

You can't change how your mind chooses what it likes. You can't change your sexuality.

Tl;dr - seriously, read it.

[Jdawg91]

Your natural instinct will guide you to your true sexual preference, however this might not happen till your alot older.

[Hermes]

You can;t choose who you are attracted to, i.e. your basic orientation however being somewhere in the middle of the scale does give you the option to choose which attractions to pursue.

So, you can't stop being attracted to guys as well as girls but as long as the attraction to girls is stronger you can decide to pursue the attraction to girls to start a relationship.

[pmm98]

I really hope you see my response, because I know a lot of people that think similarly to you, and I guess I have been there before. I identify as straight and I am going to have a reply to your post that may be different from the others. Yes, it is true, you are born with attraction. You don't know it as a baby/child but as a pubescent teen you start to notice girls or guys, depending on gender and sexuality etc., You cannot choose what you find attractive or arousing. You just don't. Bottom line is though, and I am sure some people may disagree with me, YOUR SEXUALITY CAN ABSOLUTELY BE INFLUENCED ONE WAY OR THE OTHER. I was born straight, I believe. Everyone in my family is, aside from my father who is bi but married to my mother. I don't think she knows he is, but whatever, that's not the point. Point is, when I was very young something happened with my dad that has instilled some same sex attraction in me. EVEN AT A YOUNG AGE. To this day, about 8 years later, gay porn can still turn me on very easily, maybe easier than straight porn depending on my mood/time of day. However, I know I am straight because I only have sexual attraction and emotional attraction to women in real life situation. You need BOTH attractions to be in a healthy relationship, not just one. I know however that I will only EVER date woman, have sex with woman, marry, propose, be romantic with woman etc. I just couldn't stomach it with a man.

ALSO::: Sexuality is not genetic. Some people believe it is, and it is not. My father is bisexual and both my brothers and sister and I are straight as well as my mother and everyone else in my family.

[pmm98]

Also, I'd like to point out that your traumatizing experience can influence your sexual attraction. Most likely not your emotional attraction though!

[ImCoolBeans]

Puberty for Boys :arrow: Teen Sexuality
I think you'll get more relevant answers in this section.

As for your post, sexuality is unfortunately something that you can't exactly pick for yourself. You may think or believe that you fit under a certain label at the moment, but that all could change at any time. You've just got to figure it out as you go along.

[CaliKiDD]

Sweet heart please love yourself, whether you're gay straight or bi your sexuality is nothing to be ashamed of. You cant and never will be able to "Fix" yourself so stop trying and start living.

[Electra Heart]

Don't force your sexuality like that, go with the flow.

[Daracon]

Sorry bro, but you cannot change your sexuality, just embrace who you are! :D

[Bigswedishboy]

Being gay or bi is not just sexual, if you only like the sexual intercorse from a guy you're not gay or bi. If you have emotional feeling and want to be seen in public dating, you might be gay or bi