coming out

[TheCrownish]

i'm sure that i'm be so i planed my coming out. i know that my friends will deal with it but my i dont know how to it in front of my parents and how does they react. what would you do?

[AppealToReason]

Personally, I'd rather not deal with any of my family's reaction or my friend's as I know they are not mature enough to handle such news, so I'd keep it private until I move out and live alone.
Your parents really do not have to know, but just wait for the right moment if you must tell them. If they're in a good mood, and nothing else important is happening, break it to them. Be prepared for a negative reaction as it may be shocking to them at first.

[mfupi2]

It really depends on a lot of factors.

1 - how old are you?

If you're 13-15 I'd be more inclined to encourage you to just tell them ASAP. If you're older than that, some parents try to leverage why independence you're gaining at that time against you dating someone they don't approve of. In that case you might be better off waiting until you're living by yourself and more independent.

2 - is their religion an issue here? If not, that makes it easier, and maybe you should just trust they'll support you.

3 - Have they said or done something to make you suspect they will or will not support your coming out?

4 - Most parents support their queer kids within a year of their coming out (and many of those were right away, of course, like my parents) so yes, you should think about how to ameliorate any negative reaction they have but I wouldn't worry about it like you're going to not have a place to live or something like that unless you have a real reason to think otherwise.


Sent from my iPhone

[senior.2013]

Talk to them. Sit them down and have a serious conversation about it. Theyre your parents so they should love you no matter what. And "Rizzle Dowgg" you should start a new post but its normal to masturbate a lot because of hormones during the puberty ages.

[abcdefghjklmnop]

I wouldn't come out at all. Especially if you are only 15 (my age). I think sitting them down and telling them is just to dramatic.

I dont plan on telling mine at all. Especially since I'm bi, I will have girlfriends and they won't be as suspicious if I was gay. And I might even get married to a girl.

My advice, just please be sure you are gay because they will always remember what you told them, they won't forget if one day you say you aren't gay.

[TheCrownish]

Well, I've already come out to my parents (I'm 16) because I was definitely sure that I was gay. I never could and never will see myself getting married or having a relationship with a girl.
I came out to them last December (2011), and they were fine with it. As long as you are sure with your sexuality, and no other issues come into reference (like religion or homophobic parents) then you should be fine, and they should be fine too. If you don't feel like they would be ok, don't tell them until you are older and maturer, and when you have moved out since then they probably wont be able to do anything bad.
Hope this helps in anyway..

thanks this will help a lot

[ImCoolBeans]

Puberty for Boys :arrow: Teen Sexuality

[User_Does Not Exist]

Depends how your parents are, there's a lot of contributing factors here like other people have said. Such as maturity and religion. Then again you don't have to tell them, like I've chosen to do. As for your friends, will they accept or ill they shun you just because of your preference. Look at all aspects and possibilities through everyone else's views as if you were them. How would you react if they told you? Its a sketchy decision but for you to make. Good luck with it.

[dkp123]

I'd just keep quiet, friends will probably tease you and your parents will not believe you and just say its a 'phase'

[Electra Heart]

Honestly, if I had NO idea how my parents would react, I'd just put one foot in the dark and go for it. You'll feel a lot better in the end.

[secondsight800]

I would really consider coming out to your parents and plan it pretty thoroughly and make sure that you are 100% ready. Personally I would tell one parent at a time, preferably your mother first and once she knows ask her how she thinks your father will react and, since she knows him better than anyone, she could tell you the best way to approach telling your father..