ella_louise
February 18th, 2012, 08:47 PM
I am 19 years old and met my boyfriend when I was 16 years old.
We only just moved in together in December 2010, and since then we have been living together for just a little over one year. This sounds all well and good, except for the fact that the story is a little more complex, so please bare with me.
My partner is 14 years older than me, which makes him 33, going onto 34 this year. Me, being a teenager means I had to make the choice to cut off people in my family and friend circle that didn't agree with the relationship I have chosen to have. My mother and I didn't talk for a long time, and she was mainly the reason why I left home - to start a new life in which I thought was right, because I love my partner so much, regardless of what people have been saying about our age difference.
He, still living with his parents have opened up their home to me and allowed us to stay there until we find a place. He has been struggling to make money with a job that doesn't pay a very high sallery, and I am studying and working 3 jobs. Thinking that we could stay here and pay board for a few months has turned into over a year, and things haven't been going well, especially for me. His family has a history of violence between one another, and there is so much manipulation, hipocracy and jealousy between one another. Most of the time its his mother trying to manipulate me into thinking that me and his son aren't good for each other, or insulting me about how my nationality and background have stopped me from learning any knowledge of being a 'housewife'.
Whilst trying to juggle all of this, my boyfriend has tacked on the stress, not willing to hear my side of things. He has become emotionally abusive, blaming me for every little thing that goes wrong in our relationship. He swears, screams and makes up rules as he goes that I have to FOLLOW, then if things turn around and he accidently makes the same mistake, I have no say whatsoever. Little things like, me counting money that we have withdrawn from the bank that he's asked me to count and I've taken too long, will turn into him screaming at me in the car and asking me how stupid I could be. These things don't help the fact that I have depression, because right now I don't feel like I am being listened to at ALL. I just want some sort of justice because as much as I don't like to gloat, I gave up a life for this man, and I feel that he is taking advantage of my age. I really need some advice!
Sorry for the rant, but this is me cutting things sort. Seriously. :yes:
Thanks guys,
:cool::rolleyes:
We only just moved in together in December 2010, and since then we have been living together for just a little over one year. This sounds all well and good, except for the fact that the story is a little more complex, so please bare with me.
My partner is 14 years older than me, which makes him 33, going onto 34 this year. Me, being a teenager means I had to make the choice to cut off people in my family and friend circle that didn't agree with the relationship I have chosen to have. My mother and I didn't talk for a long time, and she was mainly the reason why I left home - to start a new life in which I thought was right, because I love my partner so much, regardless of what people have been saying about our age difference.
He, still living with his parents have opened up their home to me and allowed us to stay there until we find a place. He has been struggling to make money with a job that doesn't pay a very high sallery, and I am studying and working 3 jobs. Thinking that we could stay here and pay board for a few months has turned into over a year, and things haven't been going well, especially for me. His family has a history of violence between one another, and there is so much manipulation, hipocracy and jealousy between one another. Most of the time its his mother trying to manipulate me into thinking that me and his son aren't good for each other, or insulting me about how my nationality and background have stopped me from learning any knowledge of being a 'housewife'.
Whilst trying to juggle all of this, my boyfriend has tacked on the stress, not willing to hear my side of things. He has become emotionally abusive, blaming me for every little thing that goes wrong in our relationship. He swears, screams and makes up rules as he goes that I have to FOLLOW, then if things turn around and he accidently makes the same mistake, I have no say whatsoever. Little things like, me counting money that we have withdrawn from the bank that he's asked me to count and I've taken too long, will turn into him screaming at me in the car and asking me how stupid I could be. These things don't help the fact that I have depression, because right now I don't feel like I am being listened to at ALL. I just want some sort of justice because as much as I don't like to gloat, I gave up a life for this man, and I feel that he is taking advantage of my age. I really need some advice!
Sorry for the rant, but this is me cutting things sort. Seriously. :yes:
Thanks guys,
:cool::rolleyes: