What is wrong with me?

[Aksed]

Some of you may remember my previous thread here. It was about a girl (let's call her "A") that I liked, she was the most beautiful thing in my life, I would've done anything to be with her.
But this week (Monday, to be specific) I met one girl (let's call her "B") from my school, I saw her just a couple of times, but we exchanged skype id's, so we've been texting for 1-2 days now.
The thing is, ever since I met "B", I forgot about "A", when just a week ago I would've done anything for her, now I don't see her like that, I only see the flaws in her. And even though things have been going great with "B" so far, I feel awful about this whole situation. I feel like I've been lying to myself. What happened to all those strong feelings I had for "A"?
And there's another thing, as I said I've known "B" for ... exactly 6 days now, and I'm already starting to fall inlove with her, to the point that it hurts me when she is not responding to my texts and etc. Why do I get so attached to the girls I like?
WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH ME?

[Heatbomb21]

Let's start off from the last thread. Have you engaged with A and told her how you felt? Has anything happened between you before the arrival of B?

My first thought was that maybe you got over A after something she did or tiring of some divine moment to arrive, but I now don't think that's the case.


Respond and I'll think and work from there.

[Aksed]

Let's start off from the last thread. Have you engaged with A and told her how you felt? Has anything happened between you before the arrival of B?

My first thought was that maybe you got over A after something she did or tiring of some divine moment to arrive, but I now don't think that's the case.


Respond and I'll think and work from there.

Hey man, it's nice to see you again :) Once again you're the only one that tries to help me.
About your question, no, I haven't told A how I feel, I was waiting for the right moment to do so, but it never came, and after I met B, I don't think it will come.
My feelings towards A just ... evaporated, I didn't think that was possible, and she didn't do anything to cause that.
But don't get me wrong, things with B are going good for now ... she shows signs of liking me, but how can I be sure that the same thing won't happen to my feeling towards her?

[Heatbomb21]

Hey man, it's nice to see you again :) Once again you're the only one that tries to help me.
About your question, no, I haven't told A how I feel, I was waiting for the right moment to do so, but it never came, and after I met B, I don't think it will come.
My feelings towards A just ... evaporated, I didn't think that was possible, and she didn't do anything to cause that.
But don't get me wrong, things with B are going good for now ... she shows signs of liking me, but how can I be sure that the same thing won't happen to my feeling towards her?

The pleasures all mine. l got no help myself. Wouldn't like someone like yourself to suffer my same fate, now would we? :)


Ok, now that you've elaborated:

It SOUNDS like a good thing that your feelings for A disappeared. You say you would've done anything for her, but I don't think that would have been a particularly good thing for you. Especially since you're unsure about her now. Not that you've shut her out though, just that you'e gotten not as serious about her.


As for B...

It's not the same situation, but what sounds like the start of a similar one.

I'll say this: I don't believe in "love at first sight" and if you were to listen to these words, you do not love her. Yet. It's safe to say from my point of view that this is currently only a crush as of now. However, if you really want to make something happen, stick closely to B, and befriend her earlier than A. Plus, if you find out later down the road for certain that she does like you, then you won't have to worry as much about telling her.


Stay friends with both of them. Nice, legitimate friendships always work well.


The only thing I'm curious about is why you so quickly lost feelings for A. That usually doesn't happen unless something huge goes on, and I don't think that B is big enough.


Please let me know if I was unclear in any way.

[Aksed]

The pleasures all mine. l got no help myself. Wouldn't like someone like yourself to suffer my same fate, now would we? :)


Ok, now that you've elaborated:

It SOUNDS like a good thing that your feelings for A disappeared. You say you would've done anything for her, but I don't think that would have been a particularly good thing for you. Especially since you're unsure about her now. Not that you've shut her out though, just that you'e gotten not as serious about her.

I completely agree with you to this point.

As for B...

It's not the same situation, but what sounds like the start of a similar one.

I'll say this: I don't believe in "love at first sight" and if you were to listen to these words, you do not love her. Yet. It's safe to say from my point of view that this is currently only a crush as of now. However, if you really want to make something happen, stick closely to B, and befriend her earlier than A. Plus, if you find out later down the road for certain that she does like you, then you won't have to worry as much about telling her.

Here we start to differ. As naive as it sounds, I believe in love at first sight, and it's not because of this girl, I'm not really sure if that's the case with her.

Stay friends with both of them. Nice, legitimate friendships always work well.


The only thing I'm curious about is why you so quickly lost feelings for A. That usually doesn't happen unless something huge goes on, and I don't think that B is big enough.


Please let me know if I was unclear in any way.

That is the thing, nothing huge happened, as a matter of fact nothing really happened, except ... B.
And that's what's bugging me, why did I lose my feelings towards A so fast, and why did I started to feel B so ... close. It's like ... they swapped, I just can't control it.

[Mortal Coil]

What I think happened, and feel free to ignore my opinion if you choose, is that B is exactly like you said, a replacement for A. A didn't realize or return your feelings for her but B seems to be. The result is that you've taken your feelings for A and devoted them to B because she's the "more likely" option.

[Heatbomb21]

What I think happened, and feel free to ignore my opinion if you choose, is that B is exactly like you said, a replacement for A. A didn't realize or return your feelings for her but B seems to be. The result is that you've taken your feelings for A and devoted them to B because she's the "more likely" option.

According to his description of B, she does seem like a "more likely option" chances are that she even liked him before he realized it. This [IMO] is not to much of a reason to shift, though.

He was also waiting for the right moment to speak to A about how he felt, but that never came.

This is gonna sound pretty dark, Aksed, but I think that A just wasn't the correct person to go for. Not that there's anything wrong with her, but something or nothing that's not worth your time or presence, and you didn't realize that until you met with B.


Question: Who started the first conversation between you two last Monday? Yourself or B?

[Aksed]

What I think happened, and feel free to ignore my opinion if you choose, is that B is exactly like you said, a replacement for A. A didn't realize or return your feelings for her but B seems to be. The result is that you've taken your feelings for A and devoted them to B because she's the "more likely" option.

I assume you're right, but that seems kinda mean from me, doesn't it?

According to his description of B, she does seem like a "more likely option" chances are that she even liked him before he realized it. This [IMO] is not to much of a reason to shift, though.
I agree. I never wanted to shift, I felt like A was perfect for me.

He was also waiting for the right moment to speak to A about how he felt, but that never came.

This is gonna sound pretty dark, Aksed, but I think that A just wasn't the correct person to go for. Not that there's anything wrong with her, but something or nothing that's not worth your time or presence, and you didn't realize that until you met with B.
I suppose you're right, although I'm a little confused.


Question: Who started the first conversation between you two last Monday? Yourself or B?

B did. She also was the first one to ask about my Skype ID. Which kind of surprised me, as I used to be the initiator in all of my previous relationships, so it was a little strange for me.
Although I'm not quite sure that she likes me, there are doubts that she has a boyfriend, but that's whole another subject.

[Heatbomb21]

Ok then.

Start on a good foot with B and make sure absolutely nothing goes wrong. If you want a relationship, it's beyond possible. Her effort towards communicating with you is evidence enough that she AT LEAST wants to be friends.

I can't say much more about A then I already have. I'm sure you know where to go from here though.

[Aksed]

Ok then.

Start on a good foot with B and make sure absolutely nothing goes wrong. If you want a relationship, it's beyond possible. Her effort towards communicating with you is evidence enough that she AT LEAST wants to be friends.

I can't say much more about A then I already have. I'm sure you know where to go from here though.

Yeah it's what I intend to do. She does some crazy shit now which I can't really understand and I'm getting mixed signals, but I'll handle that.
Thanks again :)

[Heatbomb21]

Glad to help. Hope things work out better this time around.

Feel free to let us know how things go.

[unnamed94]

why would there be something wrong with you? in my opinion you just seem to be the kind of guy who just falls in love (or just starts liking) with someone very fast and it seems the feeling can go away as fast. it does seem that now that you are not feeling the same as A, B is kind of a replacement for her. maybe because you didnt tell A (havent read your other thread completely so correct me if im wrong), you feel nothing is going to happen with her, but you do see a possible future with B.

[Aksed]

why would there be something wrong with you? in my opinion you just seem to be the kind of guy who just falls in love (or just starts liking) with someone very fast and it seems the feeling can go away as fast. it does seem that now that you are not feeling the same as A, B is kind of a replacement for her. maybe because you didnt tell A (havent read your other thread completely so correct me if im wrong), you feel nothing is going to happen with her, but you do see a possible future with B.

You're absolutely right. But do you think that's normal?

[Tommie]

Haha bro, there is nothing wrong with you, I would imagine everyone gets that, I certainly have. But unless you're direct, well maybe more appropriate, make her aware of your intentions and how you like her, you'll never know. As a wise man once said, "Girls are complicated... Like the Davinci Code"

[Aksed]

Haha bro, there is nothing wrong with you, I would imagine everyone gets that, I certainly have. But unless you're direct, well maybe more appropriate, make her aware of your intentions and how you like her, you'll never know. As a wise man once said, "Girls are complicated... Like the Davinci Code"

Yeah I'm leaning into it. Though I'm careful not to screw things up, I think I might have a chance with this girl :wub:

[nicnicolas1]

thats just you

[unnamed94]

You're absolutely right. But do you think that's normal?

lol yes. although im not like that, i have a very close friend who is just like you. there is nothing wrong in changing your feelings for a girl relatively fast or something. it seems you and A werent going anywhere so your feelings for B are completely normal. maybe you just tend start liking someone fast.

[Aksed]

lol yes. although im not like that, i have a very close friend who is just like you. there is nothing wrong in changing your feelings for a girl relatively fast or something. it seems you and A werent going anywhere so your feelings for B are completely normal. maybe you just tend start liking someone fast.

It's kind of a relief. Thank you.