Sexuality Confusion

[User_Does Not Exist]

I'm 18 and I had a girlfriend for 3 years, she broke up with me. Within those 3 years we only had sex twice and both times i really didnt care for it. I don't know if that like crosses me off of the being straight list or what, but same thing for guys. Sex with guys doesn't interest me at all, but like kissing, hugging, and other sexual desires do get me interested whether it be male or female. I still view women as hot and guys as cute though, just actual intercourse does not interest me at all.

I've never experimented with a guy though, although I had a chance to when I was challenged to kiss this reallyyyy cute guy in 9th grade and he even smiled about the thought so I knew it would have been fine, I just didn't do it and I regret it soo badly even to this day (graduated early). I really want to though, it's just so hard to find out if someone is or is not bi/gay.

I have no idea what my sexaulity is... does anyone have an ideas, or has someone else been in my shoes and found an answer. This has been bugging me for like 2-2.5years.

[AppealToReason]

Honestly, stop giving a shit about labeling yourself as something. Gay, straight, transgender, asexual, ect. are all just labels. Love who you love, don't stress about what you think you may or may not be. The less worries in life, the better.
If you really must know what your sexuality is, that's still up to you to decide. I can tell you what I believe, but it's not up to me to decide what you are.

[User_Does Not Exist]

Never thought of it in that manner, it just bugs me that I can't make up my flippin mind.

[AppealToReason]

I know, it used to bug me too, but I got over it. I saw no point in labeling myself as I found out I often lied to feel better about myself or fit in. I'd tell myself I'm straight because of fear of backlash from family and friends, or that I'm bi so there's still a chance I'll marry a woman. In the end, it just caused too much stress, so I stopped caring.
When you meet someone you're really attracted to, whether they be a man or woman, and you feel happy with that person, that's all that matters. Don't let labels and your thoughts stress you out.

[User_Does Not Exist]

You sound like you were in the exact same boat, I'd be shunned from my friends and fmaily if the slightest bit of gayness was brought about.

I guess I'll just stick to the meeting people and seeing what happens.

[Electra Heart]

Eh, fuck labels. Do what feels good and enjoy yourself.

[sieg]

you're still straight, but have gay thoughts.

[Stryker125]

Don't worry about it man, you've got the rest of your life to label yourself. Just live and enjoy being young for now.

[Stronger]

Honestly, stop giving a shit about labeling yourself as something. Gay, straight, transgender, asexual, ect. are all just labels. Love who you love, don't stress about what you think you may or may not be. The less worries in life, the better.
If you really must know what your sexuality is, that's still up to you to decide. I can tell you what I believe, but it's not up to me to decide what you are.

^^^ This, best possible answer anyone can give, and just becasue you don't like sex doesn't make you straight/gay/or bi, its just sex. Try not to think about this so much, just enjoy life :)

[Skyhawk]

you're still straight, but have gay thoughts.

Like Tom Cruise? :D


I'm not sure if you'll get much more from me, the usual "psh labels are for ______" speech.

Be who your want to be. ;)

[Jdawg91]

We can't choose your sexuality,its completely dependent on what you think it is. You are not locked into one option for the rest of your life.