Stuck in the middle

[Chatman]

Well, for ages i've loved this girl, but i've been going out with someoene else (some of you might have read the 'i want to kiss her' thread i did a while ago - that was about the girl i'm going out with now) and i want to finish with her and go out with this other girl:

1. I don't know how she'll take this

2. This other girl will probably turn me down anyway

3. I hate to be the one to end relationships

4. I don't know how to appraoch this other girl to ask her out or tell her i love her.

5. It is about 7 weeks until we all move to high school and i will probably see very little of each of them.

6. I live out of town and would find it very difficult to meet up with this girl if we were to start a proper relationship.

7. I need advice from people who do not know me so they won't tell anyone.

8. My current relationship has gone nowhere (as in no kissing etc., just hugging ) and i am quickly losing attraction to my current girlfriend.

Thanks people and i hope you can help me .:confused:

[mynameisjane]

just tell the girl youre with that she's pretty but you dont feel the same you used to but youd like to stay friends. breaking ups a part of life and if you havent kissed, she shouldnt take it too bad. if youre not attracted anymore, theres no point in making her think you do. you shouldnt be with someone just because another girl wont like you. its not fair to either of you.
the other girl is a seperate thing. i would give it a little time before dating someone new but that depends, how long have you been with your current girlfriend? personally, i dont think long distance relationships work out, especially for teenagers. maybe you can ask her out because if you dont youll never know.

[Chatman]

I've been with her for about 4 months, but the other thing is that i can't deal with the embarrasment of people saying things like ' Awww, you broke up with her...' or the embarassment of being turned down seeing as this girl is very popular. The thing that sets me apart from other people is that i love this girl for who she is, not just because she's in with a popular crowd. Anyway, like i said, i might not see her very much once we are in high school as it is a big school.

[MoveAlong]

Well usually teen bfs/gfs aren't really in love, they just have chrushes on each other
Sorry :whoops:


Ending relationships is something everybody does or has to do once. Although the embarrassment thing is something you have to deal with. Plus it might not be the best move, maybe you should just go single for awhile. This girl sounds too hard to get and she might not even like you.

+ It might be kinda creepy if you tell her that you love her when she doesn't know you

Here's what I would do: go single! If my current girlfriend gets wayy too boring and there's no way to fix it, then I'd break up with her and start high school fresh.

+ mynameisjane is very truthful and I agree completely :D

[Chatman]

i do know her quite well and i would say we were good friends but you are right and i would like to thank you for your advice :)

[mynameisjane]

finally someone likes my advice!
it would be an insult to the other girl if you go out with someone new within 30 days. after that, you can give it a shot. sure you might get rejected but what if you dont?

[Chatman]

i suppose but like i said i really don't have 30 days to wait, we break up from school really soon.

[Ddeswz]

just a tiny note... relationships and/or having a girlfriend isn't all about kissing/sex ...

[Chatman]

yes i know but it is very boring to be with someone for ages without them doing anything, i am an affectionate person and i like to show it. Also, i've dumped my previous girlfriend now and am just trying to become better friends with this other girl before making any moves.