Dimentio
February 14th, 2012, 05:13 PM
I am sorry if this is in the wrong place but was not to sure where to put it but what the outcome is i think it kinda needs to go here.
Well i get pushed over a lot and used and stuff but still if the person smiles at me or talks nicely to me i can't help but be it back and it happens all over again, So all i get is used and it makes me depressed so i stop eating and sleeping which gets me more depressed.
And this one is one which happens a lot but happened recently too which one friend is not happy about, I get too attached to people, Like, My friend recently was treating me like a brother and was saying we would always talk and in the course of half an hour, It went from we will talk from time to time, To i no longer want to talk and i am throwing you in the sand like the rest of my friends who i got bored off, Another person was my Art Therapist when i could no longer see her as she had to go.
I got so attachted to these people and the Art Therapist one half a year ago yet i still cry about it and not eat and sleep from it, Same for what happened with my friend recently, I still call him my friend as he was a good one and i haven't got the heart to call him names or say bad of him.
So have you guys got any ideas to make me stronger on the inside? So this stops happening anf can help the depression go away, No is the word i cannot say.
Scarface
February 14th, 2012, 05:31 PM
I am sorry if this is in the wrong place but was not to sure where to put it but what the outcome is i think it kinda needs to go here.
Well i get pushed over a lot and used and stuff but still if the person smiles at me or talks nicely to me i can't help but be it back and it happens all over again, So all i get is used and it makes me depressed so i stop eating and sleeping which gets me more depressed.
And this one is one which happens a lot but happened recently too which one friend is not happy about, I get too attached to people, Like, My friend recently was treating me like a brother and was saying we would always talk and in the course of half an hour, It went from we will talk from time to time, To i no longer want to talk and i am throwing you in the sand like the rest of my friends who i got bored off, Another person was my Art Therapist when i could no longer see her as she had to go.
I got so attachted to these people and the Art Therapist one half a year ago yet i still cry about it and not eat and sleep from it, Same for what happened with my friend recently, I still call him my friend as he was a good one and i haven't got the heart to call him names or say bad of him.
So have you guys got any ideas to make me stronger on the inside? So this stops happening anf can help the depression go away, No is the word i cannot say.
People are sick. That is one thing you need to realize. I had the same shit happen to me as a kid, and I reckon you want more friends or for people to like you. Which is normal and acceptable as its human nature to want to be liked, wanted or needed. Though there are different ways about going about it.
I used to put what everyone else needed and wanted before my own, which people saw as a weakness, and they took full advantage of that. Just because I wanted a good friend, hell I even dreamed of a best friend, that even though I have now, it just took a lot of time for me to find, which im sad to say to you, it does take a long time to find real good friends.
Though what I will tell you, is that you have the right ideas of making others happy, thats a great trait to have, but dont be a doormat. You should know that deep down inside that you arent a bad person and that you only have the best of intentions at heart. But try to make yourself happy before you make others happy, because how do you suppose you would make someone else happy, when deep down you want to cry.
Getting attached is easy, ive seen it happen to people and have someone attach themselves to me. I dont mind that, sure you like me as a friend and you wanna spend time with me, but just remember that there is a time and place for everything.
This is something for you to discover on your own reflections because as we get older in our minds we evaluate ourselves. Sometimes based upon peers or something we see or we are interested in and we either want to follow it to be like it or we become it. Just be you buddy, there is absolutely no reason why you should accent the bullshit from these people. People change their minds, but it shouldnt have happened within the same day and that strangely :P
When you make new friends or when you talk to someone, think to yourself that you want to make friends, hype yourself up, you should know you deserve better. No is a word that you should accustom yourself with using, like I said earlier Don't be a door mat when you know someone is treating you badly like a friend tell them that you dont like that. You need to feel better about yourself before you can just jump into 'being not depressed' because it all starts within. How you feel about yourself deep down in your heart. We can be our very own worst enemy sometimes, but we shouldnt let what our mind portrays of ourselves get in the way of our own happiness as well as spreading the good. I know this must be hard feeling this way, but i hope within time that you feel better about yourself, because you obviously deserve better than the bullshit youre getting. If you need help or someone to talk to my pm box is open. Have a nice day.
Dimentio
February 14th, 2012, 05:39 PM
Thanks :) That meant a lot to me and i am really thinking of what you said, Yeah that is a very bad issue of mine that my friends know, I'd do anything for anyone to make them happy even if i do not know them, And this happened a few months back with work expirience, I went to hell and have been scared to go to work when i leave school all to make sure no one else would go ha ha.
You sound like a very good person who has been having the same issues as me in the past which is unfair, At least you are btter then them people :)
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