I don't know what to do!

[xCaliiGurlx]

Please help me.
I'm 14, and well I have a boyfriend who is basically great to me.
But, yesterday, everything changed.
We were at this pool party at my one of my friend's house and I was talking to one of my friends, and then he comes over to me and says he needs to talk to me. I say okay, and I leave. We go inside the house to where the dining room was, and then he starts to kiss me...everywhere! I thought nothing would go as far as that, so I let him. But, then he started to take my bikini off, I backed away the first time, but then he said "you don't trust me, babe?" I felt forced to go back by him. We had sex that night without protection, I trusted him, but now, I'm scared that I'm pregnant. I want to tell my older sister about this, but I'm too scared to tell her. I don't know what to do. Today, my boyfriend came over my house... he tried to touch me again, but I didn't let him. He got angry at me and started to say things that weren't true. I couldn't do anything but cry, that was our first fight in our 8 month relationship. I'm scared that our relationship is going downhill from the moment we had sex. Please help me, what should I do?

[DouggyO.o]

the most important thing to do right now is to tell somebody either your sister or your mom. if not you might have some very bad consequences

[MoveAlong]

I agree with Doug.
And this guy doesn't sound like he respects you very much. Even tho it might be hard, I think you should dump him (that's what I would do)

[Romeo]

Look, I am a guy, and I do know that guys should have enough sense to not have sex, with or without protection. Sex is something that needs both people in the couple to agree on. If your boyfriend ignored your attempts to break away, then I think that it's time to leave. This may sould harsh, but he's not really respecting you or your body.

14 y/o is a young age, but old enough to get pregnant. You need to have a pregnancy test; you can get one at a drugstore. If you're pregnant, well...then I don't know how we can help you here.

[Glasgow]

He sounds like a jerk to me. No offence but nobody at the age of 14 should have sex or be forced to have sex. Lets hope you are not pregnant

[mynameisjane]

i agree with everyone else!

[cry4eva]

You should defeintly tell ur sis or bff. if u r pregnat @ that age u could get an abortion, which im totally against

[mynameisjane]

please dont get an abortion. california even has a law that allows anyone to leave their baby at a hospital and they won't ask questions if you absolutely can't have a baby. being pregnant at 14 is going to be hard, but if you just get through it, you give someone life. please dont get an abortion. you will have to live with the regret for the rest of your life.

[CryingEye666]

please dont get an abortion. california even has a law that allows anyone to leave their baby at a hospital and they won't ask questions if you absolutely can't have a baby. being pregnant at 14 is going to be hard, but if you just get through it, you give someone life. please dont get an abortion. you will have to live with the regret for the rest of your life.


the part thats underlined , its not mean, but thats not a really nice way to put it lol. although it might be true and theres nothing much to help you with, i agree with what everyone said as in : tell someone, perferebly your sis at least you can trust her. and/or dump the guy you're with because he doesnt seem like the kinda guy to be with [forever] or whatnot

[xCaliiGurlx]

Yeh... me and my sister went to the doctor 2 days ago. Yeh, turns out I'm not pregnant. The doctor said I should take the morning after pill and then the test. We got the test, and I'm not pregnant. I have also dumped my ex-boyfriend. We had a huge fight, but I don't care about him anymore, he is a real jerk, and I'll make sure no other girl goes through what I have. Thanks for the help.

[CryingEye666]

hey
im glad you did what you did
you did what you had to do
and thats good your not pregnant =]
good job

[mynameisjane]

the part thats underlined , its not mean, but thats not a really nice way to put it lol. although it might be true and theres nothing much to help you with, i agree with what everyone said as in : tell someone, perferebly your sis at least you can trust her. and/or dump the guy you're with because he doesnt seem like the kinda guy to be with [forever] or whatnot

no i suppose its not nice. but im very against someone getting an abortion because they accedentally didn't use protection.

and i'm very relieved for you. im sure youve learned from this and you did the right thing by dumping him.:yes:

[MoveAlong]

Yeh... me and my sister went to the doctor 2 days ago. Yeh, turns out I'm not pregnant. The doctor said I should take the morning after pill and then the test. We got the test, and I'm not pregnant. I have also dumped my ex-boyfriend. We had a huge fight, but I don't care about him anymore, he is a real jerk, and I'll make sure no other girl goes through what I have. Thanks for the help.

Good for you! =]

[Gumleaf]

thats really good to hear. if it makes things any better for, i think you did the right thing by dumping him, he sounds like a real bastard.

[ViolinPro]

that was a very good experience for you (in a good way), now you know the difficulties you could overcome.
good job, and be careful next time if something happens the same

kk xoxoxox

[Romeo]

Yeh... me and my sister went to the doctor 2 days ago. Yeh, turns out I'm not pregnant. The doctor said I should take the morning after pill and then the test. We got the test, and I'm not pregnant. I have also dumped my ex-boyfriend. We had a huge fight, but I don't care about him anymore, he is a real jerk, and I'll make sure no other girl goes through what I have. Thanks for the help.

Yes, congratulations! You were really brave in doing what you just did!!! :yeah: It's a good thing you're not pregnant, too. I hope you will be able to enjoy your life again.

About the sentence I just underlined, there are many ways to send your message across. There are many forums and web sites you can help out on, but everybody knows the best way to send the message: WIKIPEDIA!!! :cool:

[katerinadancerina13]

is it even ok to have sex at 14? i mean, i am 13, and i think it hurts...

[ThatCanadianGuy]

What do you mean by "think it hurts" ??? Do you mean you think your first time would be painful?

[Kevi Coz]

it sounds like ure lieing

[Maverick]

it sounds like ure lieing
You're completely entitled to feel that way. You've said your piece so you shouldn't have to say anything else about it.

Any debate on whether she's lying or not will be deleted.

[xCaliiGurlx]

Yeh, thanks guys, for actually replying. Some things are now back to normal. Thankyou for understanding and replying.

[heartagram72]

this guy doesnt respect u

[TeenInNeed]

the kid that said it sounds like she's lying, your entitled to your oppinion as movealong has said, and i'm more than positive your just saying that because she's new. Most of these types of stories are from our newer members, because our older members would have already posted it if it had happened to them.

and that was a good experience for you to go through as someone had said previously (also still in a good way). It helps you know that you can overcome some pretty hefty challenges to come. Oh, and btw? how old is your EX-BOYFRIEND?

[Maverick]

this guy doesnt respect u
Don't bump threads especially when you have nothing constructive to add to them.

This thread has served its purpose and to prevent anymore unnecessary replies, it's now :locked:.