I'm confused about my sexuality! I really need some advice!

[swimmer2007]

Okay, i'm a girl and i am COMLETELY turned off by guys. I don't crush on guys...well i did when i was little. the last time i liked a guy was when i was about 12 or so...now i'm 16. i have had crushes on girls since i was 13. and it gets more serious every year. i'm very certain that i'm completely gay and i came out to my parents but get this...they didn't believe me! my mom told me i was "confused" and also said "it's just a phase" and how "i'll grow out of it." it made me enraged that she wasn't taking me seriously! i think she was just in denial and she just wouldn't know what to do with a lesbian daughter. i don't know. but do you think i am gay? based on this info, i mean. i'm really falling for this girl at the moment and it's scary b/c she's just like me! we have the exact same personality it seems like and she's drop dead gorgeous i think i sometimes stare at her in awe. anyway, i realized that we have a class together next year (school newspaper) and will be working together this summer. it's a very small world. i'm just scared that if we become friends she'll notice that i act strangely and she'll dump me as a friend. ugh. anyway write back please! i appreciate it.

[MoveAlong]

First off, welcome to VT! :D:D

So anyway, are you emotionally attracted to girls? Like, do you love their personalities? Whether or not this is a yes, based on the info I could say that you are a lesbian.

Secondly, about your parents. I think that they are in denial if you explained it to them and they didn't believe you. Of course, they might have just thought this was recent and really believed that you're going through a stage - everybody does.

And last, about your crush! I think you should get to know her, and have fun with her during the summer. I think you should stay friends...and then you could come out to her once she really gets to know you. After that, once she's comfortable with it, you could tell her you like her.
I would tell a guy that I like him, and then I'd say if you're straight (or if they're seeing someone) then I'd say "I just had to confess, but it's ok and I'll accept that we won't do anything. Still just friends? :)"

And that's my opinion. I hoped this helped in some way, and please answer my question! :P

[Trebor]

You're gay. But I'm only making that statement based on the fact that you told me so. And as you know yourself better then anyone I believe it to be true.

[dushanbe4]

Well,, anything is possible. It's possible it is just "a phase", but it probably isn't.Just go with what you believe in, and tell your parents you really are gay, they'll come to understand. Good luck with VT!!!

[Gumleaf]

Okay, i'm a girl and i am COMLETELY turned off by guys. I don't crush on guys...well i did when i was little. the last time i liked a guy was when i was about 12 or so...now i'm 16. i have had crushes on girls since i was 13. and it gets more serious every year. i'm very certain that i'm completely gay and i came out to my parents but get this...they didn't believe me! my mom told me i was "confused" and also said "it's just a phase" and how "i'll grow out of it." it made me enraged that she wasn't taking me seriously! i think she was just in denial and she just wouldn't know what to do with a lesbian daughter. i don't know. but do you think i am gay? based on this info, i mean. i'm really falling for this girl at the moment and it's scary b/c she's just like me! we have the exact same personality it seems like and she's drop dead gorgeous i think i sometimes stare at her in awe. anyway, i realized that we have a class together next year (school newspaper) and will be working together this summer. it's a very small world. i'm just scared that if we become friends she'll notice that i act strangely and she'll dump me as a friend. ugh. anyway write back please! i appreciate it.


from what you have said you could quite possibly be a lesbian. but i wouldn't totally rule anything in or out at 16. your mum could still be right, it could be a phase. basically what i'm saying is to wait a bit longer and see if you feel the same next year or the year after. i don't know if anyone can say for complete certain what their sexuality is during puberty, so just wait and see.

[Serenity]

General Puberty :arrow: Teen Sexuality

You may just be confused, but I doubt it. If you've never been attracted to guys before and have no doubt that you're gay, chances are you are.


First off, welcome to VT! :D:D

So anyway, are you emotionally attracted to girls? Like, do you love their personalities? Whether or not this is a yes, based on the info I could say that you are a lesbian.

Secondly, about your parents. I think that they are in denial if you explained it to them and they didn't believe you. Of course, they might have just thought this was recent and really believed that you're going through a stage - everybody does.

And last, about your crush! I think you should get to know her, and have fun with her during the summer. I think you should stay friends...and then you could come out to her once she really gets to know you. After that, once she's comfortable with it, you could tell her you like her.
I would tell a guy that I like him, and then I'd say if you're straight (or if they're seeing someone) then I'd say "I just had to confess, but it's ok and I'll accept that we won't do anything. Still just friends? :)"

Ditto all of the above :daisy:

[byee]

This is an old thread, who knows if anyone is still there. However, I think the important thing is to try to understand why guys don't interest you, there are alot of reasons hy this might be so.

[chuck15]

(your gay) but.. its good thing u gay cuz my friend gay to and she likes it dont keep it a secret
say it
say it
im gay and im proud im gay and im proud

[Alonso_Jordane14]

Hi swimmer girl!,

I don't know your name...I wish I did, I think we could be good friends swimmer girl, I hope u dont mind if I call you that.....do u?

I give pet names to everyone.

I Just want to help you, to get to know you as a person, and a as a friend.
Can you trust someone, without any preconceived ideas of fears?
If u can, I can help u...kk?
You are and were correct in telling your mom about your feelings, she was wrong in her response to you. Parents sometimes react that way, Im not sure why.
Im sure part of it is that she felt that SHE did something wrong with your upbringing. And many other feelings and issues as well went through her brain when you told her of your feelings .
It was a fairly normal response, comsidering what was being discussed.
Sex, and gender issues and close interpersonal issues always bring forth complicated feelings and responses from people who we love and have invested heavily with. You know that.

I hope you will msg me back, as I think I can really help.
Even if it's just in talking with you, giving you feedback, and ideas on how to deal with the feelings your having right now.
We can address anything you wish, noting is out of the realm of possibility, nothing is taboo or off limits. I promise that anything you say to me will ever be repeated or written down, nor wil it ever be recorded or discussed by me with anyone else.
That's why this forum exists, as an outlet, a way to gain awareness and wisdom, to reflect and retrospect, without fear of reprisal or someone laughing at you.
That will never happen here, as I respect you as a person.
You are an educated, intelligent and motivated individual different from anyone else.
You will discover that you are not that much different than anyone else, though UNIQUE.

I hope we can chat today.

Will you let me know about you, maybe starting with your name and age, location and about you, likes and stuff like that? If you wish, you can remain anonymous.
You can ask me anything you like. I won't hold back on you. I have nothing to hide from you.
What do I get out of this you might ask? What type of gratification does he get from helping me?
Maybe it's just the fact that I like helping people in need.
Someone helped me once, not long ago, with something that was very personal and made a real difference in my life.
I promised to help others after that. Now it's my turn to help you.

Thanks,

Al:)

**Do you have Yahoo or AIM or other, it makes chatting much easier.

Al:yes:

[CuriousDestruction]

this is a ridiculously old post. don't bump this.

[janjanTRIP_]

First off, welcome to VT! :D:D

So anyway, are you emotionally attracted to girls? Like, do you love their personalities? Whether or not this is a yes, based on the info I could say that you are a lesbian.

Secondly, about your parents. I think that they are in denial if you explained it to them and they didn't believe you. Of course, they might have just thought this was recent and really believed that you're going through a stage - everybody does.

And last, about your crush! I think you should get to know her, and have fun with her during the summer. I think you should stay friends...and then you could come out to her once she really gets to know you. After that, once she's comfortable with it, you could tell her you like her.
I would tell a guy that I like him, and then I'd say if you're straight (or if they're seeing someone) then I'd say "I just had to confess, but it's ok and I'll accept that we won't do anything. Still just friends? :)"

And that's my opinion. I hoped this helped in some way, and please answer my question! :P

agreeeed, very much so:P

[Tiberius]

3 year bump :locked: