Why is it so hard?

[Camazot]

so ive acquired some really good friends and weve been hanging out each weekend i im so comfortable around them...i really want to tell them im bi i know they wont care one of their best friends is gay. i was going to tell them but chicken out

can anyone help me find a way to tell them?

[Gordo]

It sounds like you want to let them know without actually telling them. Maybe you could have them as you and then you could just answer yes or no. I think you can do it by not reacting if your buddies point out a hot girl, or say she's okay or she's not doing it for me. After a while, they'll notice and they'll ask you.

There's nothing wrong with pointing out a guy that's good looking either. Not in a drool over him way, but something honest like, "Man I wish I had Zach's body". Then it's not about you saying he's attractive it's about you noticing he's in shape and that you'd want to have a body like his.

If you're friends are making negative comments about gays and bi's tell them that's just wrong and people have enough problems with out guys being an ass about it.

I suppose you could pull up some bi porn.

[Mortal Coil]

I suppose you could pull up some bi porn.

There's an idea...
If you don't want to tell them, and don't think it would make a difference to them, then don't tell. Just be yourself, actions speak louder than words. If/when you get a boyfriend, then just be like, "yeah, you mean you didn't know I'm bi?" Don't hide it, but don't make it a huge thing because that's always awkward, even among the most supportive crowd:
"Guys, I just thought you should know I'm bi"
"cool story bro"
"..."
See?

[Camazot]

lmfao y does everyone assume that my friends are guys. thet arent i dont have many guy friends becuz they all think im weird and gay which is ironic but i hate when some calls me gay because im not so i say im not then i tell them (if i trust them) that im bi...i like the part about just acting like its no big deal and say i thought ya'll knew i was bi lol...and i havent told any guys other than online that im bi and only 2 girls...the friends i want to tell are 2 girls and two gay guys. jsyk.

[Abyssal Echo]

lmfao y does everyone assume that my friends are guys. thet arent i dont have many guy friends becuz they all think im weird and gay which is ironic but i hate when some calls me gay because im not so i say im not then i tell them (if i trust them) that im bi...i like the part about just acting like its no big deal and say i thought ya'll knew i was bi lol...and i havent told any guys other than online that im bi and only 2 girls...the friends i want to tell are 2 girls and two gay guys. jsyk.

why didn't you say so lol the very first person I came out to was my female cousin. she was cool about it. in fact sometimes we get together look at teen magazines and usually end up drooling over the same guys.

maybe thats why I have more female than guy friends. they know all I want is friendship and I'm not trying to be nice to get into their pants. :D

[Camazot]

lol good point matt

[Discorded-SpAzZ]

There's an idea...
If you don't want to tell them, and don't think it would make a difference to them, then don't tell. Just be yourself, actions speak louder than words. If/when you get a boyfriend, then just be like, "yeah, you mean you didn't know I'm bi?" Don't hide it, but don't make it a huge thing because that's always awkward, even among the most supportive crowd:
"Guys, I just thought you should know I'm bi"
"cool story bro"
"..."
See?


I did that, I was just like "How did you not know I was Bi?!" And acted as if it were a normal everyday thing. They didn't care, nor was it awkward.
If they're real friends, they wouldn't care what your sexuality is, unless they're major homophobes..

[Biscuithead13]

Well If you want to come out to your friends, especially your friends who are girls, tbh, they probably already suspect it. Reason I say this is several of the girls I came out to weren't suprised when I told them I was bi. Not saying you come off as gay/bi, because I dont, except for I sometimes would talk about non-straight things and my lack of reaction to the girls who were supposably "hot." Anyway, girls find bi guys adorable so I would definitely come out to them if you think your ready :yes:

[Human]

When my friend came out as bi no one really cared, apart from negative comments occasionally then there wasn't a difference