Big Mistake - How do I fix it?

[nick.g.johnson]

Hi there,

To start with I am not sure if this is the right forum or if it is even allowed but I will post it anyway.

Basically I split up with my boyfriend of 2 years around a month ago (which has been hard, still is), but he is now semi-black mailing me with photos that we took when... doing it. Now I am out of the closet so I am not worried that people might find out I am gay, but I am worried about what it might do for my future.

Basically he says that unless I take him back (he cheated on me) that he will show some friends the photos and then who knows where they will end up.

Before anyone says it, it was very very stupid to take the photos but we were having fun and I don't think he took the photos with the idea to black mail me with later. I thought he loved me and I loved him and we were living together. None of that makes it right, but that is why I made the mistake I did.

Basically I need help, what should I do? Should I take him back or just risk the photos getting out there? There are a lot of photos and even some videos.

Please, if you are just going to comment on what a silly mistake I made, don't bother, I feel as stupid as possible already.

Thanks for your help

[Short Circuit]

As your under 18 years old, these pictures would be classed as child pornography, so tell him you will go to the police if he shows them to anyone, just try to beat him at his own game

[Diverperry]

I don't know about where you are, but in the USA blackmailing someone is illegal and you can just call the police and get it over with.

[KidImage]

Yeah your 17 so its illegal and blackmailing is illegal as well like they said play him at his own game.

[Matt_is_Awesome]

ur 17 like they said black mailing is illegal in the states but showing pics of you to others in considered child pornography so go to police if he does anything or tell him you will go to the police try to beat him at his own game

[User Does Not Exist]

Just having the pictures is possession of child pornography. He shouldn't just keep the pictures to himself, he should destroy them altogether! If he's caught with them, it could get him in deep shit.

[nick.g.johnson]

Thanks for your help, I realise that they are technically illegal but I have no evidence that he has them, and I myself posses them and going to the police would get us both in trouble as anal sex is illegal until you are 18 (which neither of us are) so that would make things worse...

[Auzzie 94]

You've got yourself in quite a situation. Take him back and a few months into your ''new'' relationship with this idiot, ask him if he'll jack off with you over the photos of you and him having anal sex... then when he shows you where they are (they might be on computer, on his phone or actually photographs) remember where they are and find a way to get rid of them (burn them, delete them or whatever)... Risky becuase he may have copies but wait a few weeks incase he notices they are gone.. then you can just dump him again. To be honest if I was in your situation (although I'm not gay) I would smash the living crap out of him. For one - he cheated on you and secondly he is blackmailing you.

OR

just tell him you've shown alot of people already so it doesn't bother you if anyone else see's and he MIGHT be like oh... shit... I didn't think this out to well.. damn!

OR

you could not take any of my advice and think something up yourself.

[ashdyn]

This guy seems like a complete asshole. But also about as dumb as a box of rocks. He might show a couple of your friends but I doubt it goes viral. Nothing that would effect your future. It a really sticky situation you're in but taking him back seems counter productive. It's showing him that you're weak and he's able to take advantage of you. I would just remind him that he's in the pics/vids too and that his future would be similarly in jeopardy. I wish I had better advice for you! Good luck.

[Joe96]

If he shows the pictures to anyone, hopefully they will report him for possession of child pornography. So if you're lucky this situation could solve itself. I would recommend deleting any copies of the pictures you have though.

[abcdefghjklmnop]

If worst comes to worst, go to the police.
Is there anyway you could get the photos of him? Like if they are on a computer, you can easily delete them in 5 minutes.

If they are printed out or something, try find them and shred them.
And please don't take his drivel story "I did it because I love you" because he does not love you if he does this to you.