need advice

[maddii-may]

I've have been seeing this guy for nearly 2 and half months and he tells me he really likes me and he wants to be with me. About a month ago he tells me he also has slight feelings for another girl but he still wants to be with me just not right now, just before new year we met up and spent the day together and me and him had sex... Now I'm debating whether he is using me for sex or whether he really does mean it when he says he loves me... please can I have some advice? thanks x

[kenoloor]

Talk to him about it. Communication in relationships is so overlooked among this generation, it astounds me. Honestly; if you can't communicate, you can't expect a good relationship--platonic or not--with anyone.

[Short Circuit]

Sounds to me like he told you what you want to hear, just so he got what he wanted. Sorry to be so hard, but that is exactly what is happening here.

I have been there, worn out the T shirt and closed the book.

[maddii-may]

thing is... he wouldn't lie to me as he knows everything my ex put me through...

[Tylerd01]

Ok. Listen I was in the same situation except I am boy and it was bout a girl doing it. What I did is that I talked to her and ask her about it. She said that she wouldnt use me and that she isnt lying to me. So when I tried to talk to her she wouldnt talk to me she would just ignore me. So talk to him about it. If he answers then just ask him, but if he doesnt answer then just keep trying to get him to talk to you. If he still doesnt then most likely he probably used you. And another way to find out if he used you is by when he stopped talking to you. After you and him had sex tdid he stop talking to you within a week or did he continue to talk to you? If he quit talking to you within a week then he used you.

Another situation: If you and him had sex first and then he said that he didnt like you and doesnt want to be with you right now then it probably means he used you.