I hate relationships

[TheCbailey07]

i've had exactly 3 gf's. the first 1, id even know why i count it, she didnt know anythign she was doing, and wudnt try 2 do anything, by this i mean she wudn't go to the library with me, or eat lunch or anythin, but was crazy 4 me, lasted a week. the next girl happened to be a actor... u all can guess wat happened there. 3 days, my most current was just ovr txt, i saw her once, she was so busy she cudnt see me, but we had a decent relationship were we sexted. but 2day, we both agreed 2 wait 4 highschool because we nvr saw eachother. lasted 3 weeks. I got really atached 2 girl #2 and 3, but the relationships didn't last, and it gets annoying, some of u might say, so wat, its 3 girls. but ive asked out about 30 girls and was rejected. Now im no geek nerd, i look good, got a muscualr body and im smoth, but no one likes me. i like this 1 girl, she doesn't ike me, and has a bf. WTF am i doing wrong? i can't keep a relationship 2 save my life, i havnt had 1 real one, and not 2 b a sucker 2 pear pressure, but everyone is in a relationship, im gonna b with the losers who d go 2 the end of year dance, :what:

[anonymous53]

I'm going to be harsh.

The first girl? She, in my opinion seems the best. You didn't deserve her, especially since you just wanted sex.

What might be unattractive to girls is that you've got a high opinion of yourself and appear to chase after anyone with two legs (asking out over 30 girls, especially if one of those girls is taken)

Second girl, stuff happens.

Third girl, Why do you keep bringing up anything relating sex. Sex does not make a relationship. A relationship doesn't require you to do anything sexual either. Sex is just an act that animals perform (Yes, humans are animals)


Maybe try being a nice guy, find a girl you like for her personality and you know, take things slow. Get to be her friend first, don't get angry if you don't get sex right away, because honestly, it's overrated.



Honestly, I'd rather date a geek/nerd and be happy than date someone that just wants sex :) Geeks/nerds are awesome.

Next, to the end of the year dance thing, why don't you go stag? I've gone to dances alone before, go up to a girl and ask her to dance. By dance, no I do not mean grind/hump. I mean, ask her to a *slow dance*

Being a nice guy can get you decently far.

[Aves]

Going to say this and mean it. Grow up. Mature. Then try again. It sounds to me like all you're looking for is a fuck buddy, when they're hoping for a relationship. Also, you're in middle school? Fuck dude, calm your dick. You don't need to try and have sex right now. In fact, I'd discourage you from it. I'm not against sex in the teen years, but for a middle school student to have sex is immature. 16 is the earliest I'd stop caring if you did or didn't.

I'm not going to tell you what to do, but my suggestion is you learn to be more of a gentleman. When talking to girls, it doesn't need to be about sex. In fact, you might find it's sometimes better to have a friend who's a girl that is purely a friend. Some of my best friends are girls, and I don't mind it at all. Respect girls, both body and mind. You'll be much better off.

[ImCoolBeans]

Going to say this and mean it. Grow up. Mature. Then try again. It sounds to me like all you're looking for is a fuck buddy, when they're hoping for a relationship. Also, you're in middle school? Fuck dude, calm your dick. You don't need to try and have sex right now. In fact, I'd discourage you from it. I'm not against sex in the teen years, but for a middle school student to have sex is immature. 16 is the earliest I'd stop caring if you did or didn't.

I'm not going to tell you what to do, but my suggestion is you learn to be more of a gentleman. When talking to girls, it doesn't need to be about sex. In fact, you might find it's sometimes better to have a friend who's a girl that is purely a friend. Some of my best friends are girls, and I don't mind it at all. Respect girls, both body and mind. You'll be much better off.

I don't think I could agree with this any more than I already do. Having sex at such a young age can lead to some regret down the road. Don't lose it to someone you don't care about - that can really hurt. You also should stop thinking about it too much. Having sex on the mind 24/7 is really a turn off, man. Girls really don't dig that - thats pretty much the sign for them to run for the hills actually. You need to be able to have real conversations with girls, they aren't really into the monkey business.

As Gunter said, having female friends that are purely friends, nothing more, can really help you out with getting girls. You'll be able to relate more, have better and more meaningful conversations with girls and you'll know how to handle yourself a bit more. Some of my best friends are also girls - and I know for a fact that those friendships have matured me quite a bit.

[TheCbailey07]

Let me re-phrase, i didnt want sex, me saying she wudn't do stuff, ment she wudn't go anywere, or sit next 2 me at lunch, but when i sat next 2 her, she was crazy 4 me. Sorry for the confution, i didnt mean sex. ill fix it above

[anonymous53]

Alright, then first girl, remember guys are generally told to "Make the first move" So the way to fix this is take the lead of the relationship, unless the girl prefers to be more "dominant". It all depends on the relationship.

Also, let me say, sex does not matter. Ever.

[TheCbailey07]

got it

[WritingAuthor]

Okay ignoring the hate above (Although I totally agree with them)

Be friendly the nice guy have a wide circle of female friends and treat everyone with equal respect. Now try again. Plus really maybe you should wait for a relationship.

[AUS01]

Look Im in High School. I had one Girlfriend who I didnt like and was just put into it so my friends would shut up about it. Right Now, and for the forseeable future Im not interested in sex. I do have good female friends who are just that. Good Friends. Yeah, 2 Years ago, I would go into the COmputer Room at Lunchtime because my only friends would go in there. And am still labeled a geek/nerd because of that and because my friends who came through with me from primary school who still act a bit childish and are always talking about video games. So that is affecting my chances at girls. But all I want in a relationship is someone to talk to whenever I need, have a good hug when I'm feeling down and a goodbye kiss. I just don't see why anyone needs actual sex at this sort of age. (Now I know the topic has changed from this, but when I ramble, I ramble.) There are just so many risks involved and why would you want to lose your most priceless possession in one, meaningless night. I don't believe in only sex after marriage but I believe it should be with someone who you intend to spend the rest of your life with. If she has a child, you have to stay and be a man. So Really what Im saying, is that all of us here are only young, and any relationship that we are currently in or are going to be in soon, will probably not last long. Just keep looking mate, you'll get there :)

[Jesse17]

in my opinion, it's better not to date a person so easily, cuz i always know the one i dated would eventually leave me, it's wont last too long.
it's even better if we try to find and wait patiently to see round, this way i think and i hope people would finally meet their true love.

btw i hate love as well. be honest im bi or probably curious.
i have met some boys, three i think, but i have never told them that i loved them, cuz it would kill me like hell, becuz it's not allowed even hated to be bi or gay in my country.
but what i say? i can't control my love, i can do nothing of it.
im into trouble. that's another reason why i hate love stuff!!!

[Mortal Coil]

It's not your fault.
Seriously, either you hate relationships or you want to be in one. Assuming you want to be in a relationships, you'll have better luck outside your school. I know I did. Sometimes it's just the fucking lottery, and you have to deal with it until you move schools or something.
If you want to try your luck in school, read all the above posts: respect and be sensitive. Try to strike a balance between masculine energy and being a "nice guy." It's hard, but just think about any guy from any MTV reality show and vow to be nothing like them.

[Donkey]

Just chill out bro, be nice, sweet and cool. Talk to girls and look at them as people not as people to fuck/"go out" with. If you're a cool guy, girls will begin to talk to you. If you are acting desperate and you're a bit immature, chances are they will look past you. There's no rush with relationships anyway, if your really go out looking and pick up what you can you will just end up with the worst that won't work.

0-Pr3TNI14g

Relationships are about feeling. Feeling strongly about individuals, not "girls". Lots of girls you won't like and lots of girls won't like you. You gotta wait to find the right one who likes you back and you are set. No rush.

[TheCbailey07]

Some people think that short relationships r good 4 me cause i get attached 2 people. When i like a girl, i usually fall in love, so thats y it really kills me when i have these short relationships

[monkeydo]

Personally I also fall in love really easily so I know where you're coming from and it also screws things up for me because I come on too strong sometimes. Is there a chance you're maybe expecting too much out of a relationship too soon, and that's what messes it up? I'm normally the one who gets all emotional and says "I love you" and stuff, and sometimes the other person backs off when I start to take things too seriously. Not sure its the same thing but thought it might apply.

To be honest I would be more worried about the peer pressure thing. I mean I know what its like, but the sooner you stop caring what other people think and start living for yourself, the more likable you'll be :) And I say that because I'm probably considered one of the losers/geeks/nerds you mentioned, but I've learned not to care what everyone else thinks. This is who I am and if they don't like it, that's their problem.