My mom doesn't care

[Cicero]

How can me and my mom get along better? Should I give her time away from me and live permanently with my dad and see her once in a while? We argue all the time.

[CrossingtheCourtyard]

Well, if I were you I'd go live with your father and step mother instead. Fuck your mom.

You could talk to a school counselor, child/teen hotlines, talk about abusive parenting (Which this does seem to be. A lot) with school officials, social workers, ect. There must be services to help deal with this sort of thing.

I can't think of a way to deal with someone like that in a positive way that will help improve your relationship, she'll have to be the one to try and change herself, not you. I wouldn't--were I in your shoes--try and improve my relationship with her, I'd want her the hell out of my life as soon as possible.

Honestly, the fact that she bit you is what's most surprising. Seems like somethings up with her there.

None of this is to say that you should hate your mother--how you feel about her is your business. You don't have to love her or anything like that in the slightest though. I just think that the situation you live in with her is neither safe nor healthy as it is likely to negatively impact you on various levels (Self esteem and self worth, emotional and physical wellness).

[Invincible]

I think it's important that you slowly step aside and give her time to consolidate herself. Step away with a forgiving heart and don't hold grudges on her, don't hate her for what she did. She's your mum after all, and you should love, honour and respect her for who she is and not what she's done.
It's not your job to judge her or confront her for what she's done, she has her own conscience and if she calls herself a christian, she should know she'll be judged for it.

How often do you see your mum? Can you not live with your dad & stepmum instead?
Have you gone to see any counsellors at your catholic school or elsewhere?

[Cicero]

I think it's important that you slowly step aside and give her time to consolidate herself. Step away with a forgiving heart and don't hold grudges on her, don't hate her for what she did. She's your mum after all, and you should love, honour and respect her for who she is and not what she's done.
It's not your job to judge her or confront her for what she's done, she has her own conscience and if she calls herself a christian, she should know she'll be judged for it.

How often do you see your mum? Can you not live with your dad & stepmum instead?
Have you gone to see any counsellors at your catholic school or elsewhere?

Well I wanted to go to catholic school and when i told her she said what i told you above. I'm going to therapy in a month just to try to get everything sorted out. Of course I'll forgive her, but I just don't think she'll be anything in my life when I get older. I'm kinda stuck here, because my school has set up a bunch of my classes that will help me pass the 10th grade. By summer time I'll be living with my dad

[Cicero]

Well, if I were you I'd go live with your father and step mother instead. Fuck your mom.

You could talk to a school counselor, child/teen hotlines, talk about abusive parenting (Which this does seem to be. A lot) with school officials, social workers, ect. There must be services to help deal with this sort of thing.

I can't think of a way to deal with someone like that in a positive way that will help improve your relationship, she'll have to be the one to try and change herself, not you. I wouldn't--were I in your shoes--try and improve my relationship with her, I'd want her the hell out of my life as soon as possible.

Honestly, the fact that she bit you is what's most surprising. Seems like somethings up with her there.

None of this is to say that you should hate your mother--how you feel about her is your business. You don't have to love her or anything like that in the slightest though. I just think that the situation you live in with her is neither safe nor healthy as it is likely to negatively impact you on various levels (Self esteem and self worth, emotional and physical wellness).

First off I wouldn't turn my mom into the police ever. That's why I said above that its not enough. Second of all if i were to talk to those people she would go to jail and I would have to live with a family member and not parents.

[CrossingtheCourtyard]

First off I wouldn't turn my mom into the police ever. That's why I said above that its not enough. Second of all if i were to talk to those people she would go to jail and I would have to live with a family member and not parents.

Understandable, I didn't mean to imply you should try and get your mother into any sort of trouble with the law (Nor do I think I implied that, I apologize if I gave that idea. I did read in your first post that you do not want police brought into this matter and I understand and respect that).

A more preferable situation would be one where you could find someone who could help you and your mother work out your situation and try to build a new, better relationship.

Perhaps try to have another family member or family friend mediate between the two of you so you can try and keep things civil?

[fitzman16]

Sorry to hear bout that :( on a level I know how you feel, my dad abuses my dog, he hits, kicks, and knees my dog all the time, he ties my dog to a chair for like 18 hrs a day. He yells like "fuk u u fucking piece of shit, piece of shit, fucking shit head" you name it he's said it, you name it he's done it, he abuses my dog like u wuldnt believe, I step in between him. He's like always made and I've gottin into fights and he's threatened to leave saying "any place is better than here" (I threatened to call cops on him when he threatened to hit me). And my dog is the 1 thing I @are about. I say pik on some1 ur own size not a 20lb dog, and I've pushed him and wutnot

Regardless, I think you should tell your dad or some1, I mean its only a matter of time b4 she rly goes nuts and something rly bad happens, it only takes 1 word, you say the 1 wrong word and she will flip (I know many ppl with abusize homes, I know some1 who's been taken outta a home.) And I've also witnessed my friend beaten by his dad. U can talk to skool counsilor, they can leave police outta it and get u help. And get a therapist that's rly what u need, cuz that cnt tell police w/o ur permission and if cops get involved or find out, its patient/counselor priviledge(confidentiality) and they cnt tell any1. But plz get help, I hate to hear ppl like this not get help and seriously hurt

[botwa]

well idk really. but you can try to be a better son?
to do what your mom asks you to do