Im new and i need help.

[Unbroken]

Hey. uh i'm finding it quite hard to write this cause i've never told anyone about my self harm, no one in real life and no one online either.. I've been cutting since i was about 12, when i was 13 i tried to kill my self but couldn't go through with it. About a year after that i managed to stop. It had been a year since i last cut but i started again about a week ago... I just feel so much pressure from school and home and i feel like i cant tell anyone about my selfharm cause they'll think im crazy. Sometimes i feel crazy cause when im cutting i feel happy when i see the blood. Can anyone give me some advice on telling someone/stopping/hiding cuts and scars. Thanks :)

[XxfakexX]

I hope you feel better soon. I know what pressure can do so my advise is to just try and talk to people and distract yourself from any problems going on. Though it's not a permanent solution it will maybe help. As for hiding cuts pale foundation hurts but will make any redness less visible and because it's cold long sleeve won't be noticed. Well done on the year, you can always stop again and good luck :)

[StoppingTime]

Is there a school counselor you feel you could trust?

[princessjess]

pressure can make everything so much worse, but could also help. try and use the pressure of how people would be hurt if they knew tohelp u stop. as for hiding them, it depends on where its at. for me, i always wear a couple certain bracelets that mean things to me.
hope i helped a lil (:

[Unbroken]

Thanks everyone :) There isn't a counselor at my school, there's a nurse that apparently we can talk to about 'anything' but i barely know her and i wouldn't feel comfortable telling someone i don't know :/

[StoppingTime]

Thanks everyone :) There isn't a counselor at my school, there's a nurse that apparently we can talk to about 'anything' but i barely know her and i wouldn't feel comfortable telling someone i don't know :/

I would never want to talk to a school nurse about that kind of thing.
Do you have any really, really good friends who know you very well?

[Unbroken]

I have lots of really close friends! But there all so normal and happy! I don't want them having to carry the burden of this around with them.. if you get what i mean? :/ Also I'd be worried that they'd think i was just cutting for attention or they wouldn't understand. :(

[StoppingTime]

Let me just ask you this. They all act normal and happy. Do you? Do you try to walk around with a smile on your face so people don't have to feel like there's something wrong?

[Unbroken]

Let me just ask you this. They all act normal and happy. Do you? Do you try to walk around with a smile on your face so people don't have to feel like there's something wrong?

Yeah totally. If you went to my school you would never guess in a million years that i cut. I seem like the most unlikely person in the world! Not trying to sound like a twat or anything but i have lots of friends, I'm quite popular, i do well in class (when im actually paying attention!) I just act completely normal.:confused:

[Desuetude]

It seems you have a lot of good things going for you then. If youre really focused on stopping, which would be the best option, then you need to think up all the good and bad things cutting does for you. Im sure that once you look at the list you will see that really its not helping as much as it seems.
Stress looks like the cause of you cutting. Is there anyone to talk to about it? you say it's coming from school and home so maybe if you talk to parents or teachers the urge to cut will have died down a bit. Also if you do have freinds that you really trust then im sure theyre willing to help you with anything, they may be more understanding than you're giving them credit for?
You have proved to yourself that you can stop, that you are stronger than the blade in your hand. Cutting should never have the advantage over you and stopping now is the best way to insure that it never does.

[Unbroken]

I know that everything you've said is absoulutley true but its not as simple as just stopping. Cutting is becoming like an addiction and its all I ever think about! I'm gonna try and work up the courage to tell a friend or a teacher and try and get some help. Thanks a lot for talking to me it has really helped.

[Desuetude]

Hey, I know it's not simple, I'm sorry if I made you feel like I did.
It's really good that you're thinking of telling someone it's much better than keeping it all to yourself, even just one person could help a lot. Im glad I was some help at least. If you ever need to talk youre always welcome to VM me. :-)

[thegreenone]

Talking is the thing that saved me. I tried killing myself too. And one day, when driving a friend home, I just blurted it out. It just built up inside me, for so long... It felt good to let SOMEONE know, so they could help somewhat. I would agree that telling a really close friend that you think would understand you in a non-judgemental way would be a great first step.

[Mortal Coil]

I hide the scars on my arms with ribbons tied around when they're still fresh, and foundation later. Vitamin E oil is good, but you have to be consistent and vigorous with it. I know how cutting can turn int an addiction, I'm currently trying to quit as well. Nobody notices the ones on my legs, thanks ti stereotypes and misconceptions about sh.

[LucasRobert0897]

I'm really sorry about your situation, it's sorta different to mine.
In the end, I ended up telling my parents, I couldn't keep it from them any longer (making excuses for blood on your sleeves is hard..). It was terrible the first night they found out but after a while, they understood. Telling them really helped me, I didn't have to have such a stressful time at home hiding secrets. At school, two or three of my closest friends know, but rumors spread like wildfire I'm afraid. Anyway, telling (a?) friend would be a good idea, it doesn't have to be a burden, your working it out for yourself now :)

Stopping for me is still ongoing, I'm clean now for 4 weeks today, but knowing my parents are upset is a really good motivation. Even if you don't tell them much about it (like I did), they could still be something to think about.

Hope my thoughts gave some insight :)

[neverhavebeen223]

Hey. uh i'm finding it quite hard to write this cause i've never told anyone about my self harm, no one in real life and no one online either.. I've been cutting since i was about 12, when i was 13 i tried to kill my self but couldn't go through with it. About a year after that i managed to stop. It had been a year since i last cut but i started again about a week ago... I just feel so much pressure from school and home and i feel like i cant tell anyone about my selfharm cause they'll think im crazy. Sometimes i feel crazy cause when im cutting i feel happy when i see the blood. Can anyone give me some advice on telling someone/stopping/hiding cuts and scars. Thanks :)

Telling someone- somebody you trust. Like, really trust. Who will understand without judging or spreading rumors. Not your parent(s)

Stopping I can't give advice on. I've been clean for two hours.

Hiding cuts- I just put a bandaid on it. If there's ones surrounding it, then long sleeved shirts. Old school works, that's why its old school.

Hiding scars- makeup. Concealer, and a good powder on top. And probably invest in some scar fading creme. It does help if you're religious about applying it.

Ps- you're not alone, I feel happy when I see the blood too. Lol sometimes I even draw in it.

Hope it works out :)
xoxo