I truly love her.

[jumpthedog]

Alright, for anyone who already read all this, I am gonna retype it.

So there is this girl that I have known for a year now. I have never let myself think I was in love with someone. Ever. It is just a rule. But, when it comes to this one girl, I can't help but say I love her. She is one year older than me and we used to go to school together. Now we just either facebook message or text each other every day. She constantly dates total assholes and so I never have a wide enough space of time to tell her how I feel. I told her once and let it linger for about a month, but then said I didn't like her anymore, because she seemed to be a little uneasy about it. I actually just saw another post on here titled "I.love.her" and that is basically me.. Same thing,, ,same scenario, same shit basically. I have given her subtle hints here and there that I still like (love) her, but she normally just brushes it off like a joke. I have told her how much she means and how much she is to me, on the friend level, and she was shocked to learn that she meant so much to a person. So what do I do? It is driving me crazy not being able to hold her close and give her the attention and devotion she deserves, instead of the assholes she dates who (from what I have seen) just want her for more sexual things. She constantly asks me why guys are such jerks, while there is one right in front of her to who is NOT a jerk, but she can't see it. I know it must be because of my looks and age, but its just... aaaaaaagh
So what should I do?

[Aksed]

Welcome to Hell.
Please enjoy your stay :)

[jumpthedog]

Thank you for the warm welcome, I have actually been here for some time now.

[Baxda19]

dude she will come to her senses for now just be kind one day you will the best guys she has every know

by the way the friend zone does not exist (u can get out)

[Heatbomb21]

Welcome to Hell.
Please enjoy your stay :)

That's not a good sign...


And JTD, if you read that whole thread page to page, and you think you're situation is almost exactly like Mine and Aksed's, then maybe we should start by referring to that thread.

[BORZME]

A lot of us seem to be in this predicament

[Vaulter]

Sounds like she needs a harsh verbal lashing of truth and reality, maybe. It worked for me, so I'll just relay my experience, but I'm sure it depends on the people involved. Pretty much same sitch. I like a girl for a long time, she was dating a douche and was always whining about it. Finally I snapped when we were out to lunch one day and just started shouting at her. Like, seriously laying in to her at the joint, and it went something like, "Are you [expletive deleted]ing me? I sit here all day listening to you cry about your [expletive deleted] boyfriend when there's no way you can't know that I like you. [she starts to speak up] Nononono. And it [expletive deleted]ing sucks 'cause it hurts to not be able to help you, because you never take my advice about him, or even listen to your own advice about breaking up with him. I'm done letting you do this to me, so it's him or me, and I'm out." Then I stormed out and drove home (luckily we had taken different cars) she sent me a [expletive deleted]ton of mean angry texts about how could I do that to her, we've been just friends, put her in that position, told me I was selfish, blahh blahh blahh. Then nothing for like two days and then I got a text that said "You" and we dated for like 4 months. Unfortunately I hadn't yet learned how to not change because I was in a relationship, so we ended up breaking up amiably. Moral of the story, girls suck almost all the time. I'm in a happy relationship right now, but who knows how long that will last.

[Heatbomb21]

Sounds like she needs a harsh verbal lashing of truth and reality, maybe. It worked for me, so I'll just relay my experience, but I'm sure it depends on the people involved. Pretty much same sitch. I like a girl for a long time, she was dating a douche and was always whining about it. Finally I snapped when we were out to lunch one day and just started shouting at her. Like, seriously laying in to her at the joint, and it went something like, "Are you [expletive deleted]ing me? I sit here all day listening to you cry about your [expletive deleted] boyfriend when there's no way you can't know that I like you. [she starts to speak up] Nononono. And it [expletive deleted]ing sucks 'cause it hurts to not be able to help you, because you never take my advice about him, or even listen to your own advice about breaking up with him. I'm done letting you do this to me, so it's him or me, and I'm out." Then I stormed out and drove home (luckily we had taken different cars) she sent me a [expletive deleted]ton of mean angry texts about how could I do that to her, we've been just friends, put her in that position, told me I was selfish, blahh blahh blahh. Then nothing for like two days and then I got a text that said "You" and we dated for like 4 months. Unfortunately I hadn't yet learned how to not change because I was in a relationship, so we ended up breaking up amiably. Moral of the story, girls suck almost all the time. I'm in a happy relationship right now, but who knows how long that will last.

Not much empathy here. Despite it's senselessness, the fact remains that she had some reason to date these assholes. Of course it's difficult to see, but cracking like that really isn't good for either of you. I assure you, if it weren't for the fact that she was told by her best friend to avoid dating someone, I'd have cracked on my loved one at some point too. Nevertheless, I still don't think JTD's situation is developed enough to lose patience yet.