very worried

[princessjess]

so, almost a month ago, me and my bf had sex. he pulled it out but we are both still worried. a few things make it more worrisome. 1. we live 1,000 miles away. 2. i have no way of getting a test.
3. i am very irregular. i might not have a period for 2 months sometimes.
i dont know what to do. no one knows except for our two best friends. iam terrified of telling my mom we did and even more that im preg (if i am) it doesnt help that were Catholic either.. so i dont know what to do now.. i know i should tell my mom but we just moved and she has alot going on and my parents just got divorced so i know it will hurt her alot and she willbe beyond dissapointed in me.. what should i do? any suggestions?

[Jupiter]

so how old are you?

[princessjess]

only 16. 17 in sep. hes 17. 18 in june

[Jupiter]

You need to be completely honest with her. You may or may not think that this is the right way, but we know that she can help.

[princessjess]

i want to tell her buti dont know how. and i dont know if she would be able to handle it.. shes really stressed and is having a hard time with stress as it is..

[botwa]

why can't you get a test?
maybe there's a way to get a blood test in the local clinic or something?

[Situations]

Don't freak out. If you freak out it will only delay it even more.
It's a bitch.
Try to go to the doctors..

[princessjess]

well we just moved... likestill living out of boxes... and i dont drive.. i dont have a doc. here yet and theres no one i would trust to drive me to a clinic if i could find one...

[Smeagol]

Aren't there pregnancy tests that you can buy at the supermarket, the sort you pee on? I'm pretty sure there are some, but I haven't spent much time in the family planning aisle (I'm 14.) You probably ought to tell your mom, and if you get your period before then, you won't have to worry. Good luck :)

[shadowhunter320]

you should tell her, it sounds like shes thr only one who can help.

[christianteen]

No offence or anything but I don't get it. Why are you having sex before marriage when you're a Catholic? Haven't you already figured out that sex before marriage is a sin? It's actually lust which in Catholic terms is one of the seven deadly sins...

It seems pretty stupid to be honest. You haven't really thought this though. You've got no doctor, what seems like no way of knowing from a test, you have irregular periods and you're Catholic.

[Desuetude]

No offence or anything but I don't get it. Why are you having sex before marriage when you're a Catholic? Haven't you already figured out that sex before marriage is a sin? It's actually lust which in Catholic terms is one of the seven deadly sins...

It seems pretty stupid to be honest. You haven't really thought this though. You've got no doctor, what seems like no way of knowing from a test, you have irregular periods and you're Catholic.

Hey one she said she WAS catholic which means that she may not be anymore or it was just a bit misleading and two you dont know the circumstances, they live 1000 miles from each other so its gotta be pretty hard to see each other, maybe they just wanted something to remember.

It shouldnt be that irregualr periods stop you from having sex and dont call her stupid i bet youve made mistakes in life or been confused about things and needing help.
If you are catholic and you have sex nothing will happen to you, you arnt going to suddenly die on the spot or something. Maybe keep your religious views to yourself for the moment as it's not really helping the situation.

Hey I think you should try and find the courage to tell your mum. If she loves you the she will find the room in her heart to accept this. She would be the best help, be able to take you to the doctors, get pregnacny tests and if you leave it and things start to progress im sure it will get much harder to tell her and she will find out in the worst of ways. Maybe its just better to get things over with now. Try and find a store and get a pregnancy test though, at least it might give you some indication of whats going on. :)

[princessjess]

Hey one she said she WAS catholic which means that she may not be anymore or it was just a bit misleading and two you dont know the circumstances, they live 1000 miles from each other so its gotta be pretty hard to see each other, maybe they just wanted something to remember.

It shouldnt be that irregualr periods stop you from having sex and dont call her stupid i bet youve made mistakes in life or been confused about things and needing help.
If you are catholic and you have sex nothing will happen to you, you arnt going to suddenly die on the spot or something. Maybe keep your religious views to yourself for the moment as it's not really helping the situation.

Hey I think you should try and find the courage to tell your mum. If she loves you the she will find the room in her heart to accept this. She would be the best help, be able to take you to the doctors, get pregnacny tests and if you leave it and things start to progress im sure it will get much harder to tell her and she will find out in the worst of ways. Maybe its just better to get things over with now. Try and find a store and get a pregnancy test though, at least it might give you some indication of whats going on. :)


thanks: i appreciate that(: i am currently Catholic biut it was just that we got lost in themoment is all.. i got to see him for 2 days and we got caarried away.. ive been tryin to figure out a way to get a test from the store but, i cant drive n have no money... i think i will try and tell my mom.. just gonna be hard..

[princessjess]

No offence or anything but I don't get it. Why are you having sex before marriage when you're a Catholic? Haven't you already figured out that sex before marriage is a sin? It's actually lust which in Catholic terms is one of the seven deadly sins...

It seems pretty stupid to be honest. You haven't really thought this though. You've got no doctor, what seems like no way of knowing from a test, you have irregular periods and you're Catholic.

yes, infact i figured that out before i was 10. it was a mistake, and it wasnt thought through, even if itwas, how was i supposed to account for not having a doctoar when we werent supposed to have been delayed actually getting into our house for 3 weeks. dont cal me stupid, imnot the one whos putting down someone who has all As ans Bs, is trying very hard to stop from self-harming, has raised 3 children in the absence of my dad while my mom worked so we had a roofover our heads and has been oneof the few factors that kept my little siblings from being abused and took the brunt of it for them. i have enough other shit without listening toyou chastise me for making one damn mistake.

there are many other factors that are going on that arent very pertinent to the situation so i didnt put them in here. but i didnt start this thread to be critisized. i wanted advice, and help.how i am dealingwith it on a spiritual level i would like to keep to myself. i put in there because, as you know, catholic parents are more strict than anyone else, and so it would give more of a setting to which this problem is taking place. i dont need you to make me feel any worse about what happened. if youre going to be like that then dont bother ever reading my threads.

oh and by the way, just because you say "No offense" doesnt mean it doesnt offend(:

[Breakeven]

take a home prg test and if u couldnt or whatever
tell someone adult other then ur mom if u dont want to hurt her or go with ur mate to check if u are

[princessjess]

well, i dont have any other adults i trust.. and i wasthinkin about havin someone take me to get a test but then the problem of money and someone i actuallly trust comes up..

[Desuetude]

thanks: i appreciate that(: i am currently Catholic biut it was just that we got lost in themoment is all.. i got to see him for 2 days and we got caarried away.. ive been tryin to figure out a way to get a test from the store but, i cant drive n have no money... i think i will try and tell my mom.. just gonna be hard..

Hey, np I didn't like what he was saying to you. It's ok to make mistakes, everyone does but that's no need to go ranting at people when you don't like it.
To be honest telling your mum seems to be the only option. You don't want to find out that youre having a baby before she finds out.
Just sit her down and tell her everything, don't miss anything out so you can get it all done in one go. Good luck and I hope everything goes well for you! <3

[Eclipsical]

oh and by the way, just because you say "No offense" doesnt mean it doesnt offend(:

As a Catholic you should know most Catholics are overly judgmental and critical over the slightest bullshit..and mostly hypocrites themselves so just ignore the Altar boy. We can't be as holy as thou.

You have your friends that know...maybe you can see if one of them will grab a test for you. Or even when you're out with your mom..you can slip away for a few and stash it without her knowing. If it's positive...well..then you have some 'splainin to do.

[Can'tHelpIt]

get a pee test and if you are pregnant school is ur first priorty bc without school you wont be able to give him/her a good life so if you cant go to school you need to put him/her up for an adoption

Well, this is what my stepmom told me

p.s. I wouldn't let religon affect my life bc ITS STUPID

[christianteen]

Goodness gracious guys. You're getting this all wrong. I'm very sorry if I caused any offence. I meant the situation was stupid, I never said you were stupid. And by the way, I'm not even Catholic so don't go slandering me for something I'm not.

[princessjess]

Hey, np I didn't like what he was saying to you. It's ok to make mistakes, everyone does but that's no need to go ranting at people when you don't like it.
To be honest telling your mum seems to be the only option. You don't want to find out that youre having a baby before she finds out.
Just sit her down and tell her everything, don't miss anything out so you can get it all done in one go. Good luck and I hope everything goes well for you! <3

yeah, i think i will.. thanks again(:

[princessjess]

Goodness gracious guys. You're getting this all wrong. I'm very sorry if I caused any offence. I meant the situation was stupid, I never said you were stupid. And by the way, I'm not even Catholic so don't go slandering me for something I'm not.

but the situation cant be helped now. obviously.. so why say something like that?

[Caver]

Get a test from Walmart or somewhere, without your parents knowing if they don't know you had sex.

[christianteen]

I really can't be bothered with this.